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I often feel guilt for no real reason at all. I feel that it may be because I feel like I don't belong, but I don't understand why not fitting in or having friends would make me feel guilty. Most of the time, I'm fine with not being around other people, but sometimes I have a feeling of overwhelming guilt with no way to get rid of it because I don't know what causes it in the first place.

My questions are: Is there a way to keep myself from feeling guilty? How do I get rid of the guilt if I start feeling it? And is it bad to feel guilty for no apparent reason?

2007-01-03 18:19:34 · 8 answers · asked by Kelly 3 in Social Science Psychology

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Guilt is a reminder of what you believe.

Generally when people believe they have done wrong, they feel guilty so as to remid them not to do it again.

Your guilt is different, butit is still a remind of what you believe. Change what you believe about yourself. i.e. You do belong. or mayeb you are not one of those people who is meant to be comfortable in this clicke or that clique, or one particular place. Maybe you are one of those people who is really meant to ge along with every one, fit in anywhere. The guilt is there to remind you what you really want for yourself. You can get it or change what you want.

2007-01-03 18:22:07 · answer #1 · answered by Akshun 3 · 0 0

I am the same way, I was told that I feel guilt because I try to take on responsibility for everybody and everything.

For example, this past christmas, a nephew got a toy that hisMom did not properly put together, I watched as this little boy fell because of it. I immediately felt guilty, I wonder why, then I realized that at some point, I had commented how this manufacturer always made quality toys. So someone bought a toy by them and I blamed myself that it fell apart.

I sat there telling myself, not your fault.

Then when I realized it was not put together right, I could not believe how dumb I felt.

I have to do a lot of self-talk.

Now you too....stop being responsible for the whole world. I can handle it myself!

2007-01-03 18:31:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I know this is going to sound horrible, but a new study has just come out that I heard on the news. Often people that were originally twins in the womb, but had the twin die, have overwhelming feelings of guilt. Many of these people never knew they were twins, but still felt the guilt of having lived when the other didn't. I don't' know if this has anything to do with you, but it sounded familiar. You might want to look into it some more.

2007-01-03 18:24:10 · answer #3 · answered by eboneigh@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0 0

It's not bad to feel guilty for no reason, it's sad. I'm having a problem understanding how you could feel guilt for not fitting in. Are you sure it's not sadness or loneliness?
I've learned the best way to feel like you fit in is by making yourself available for others. Give a part of yourself. Help someone who feels more guilt, or is sadder or lonelier than you. I promise that it will help.
Your last sentence acknowledges that there is no apparent reason for your guilt. Live the way you deserve to live, guilt free!

2007-01-03 18:29:41 · answer #4 · answered by katydid 7 · 0 0

Apart from seeking help from a mental health care worker, you can try to make a concious effort to always ask yourself "why", rationalise all the reasons why you shouldnt feel guilty, carry around a card full of questions to ask yourself if need be, such as, *Would/Could this have happened even if you were not there, *Was there a better choice, *Is anyone upset with you and why, *Does it make sense, etc. Im sure alot of other people can come up with some more for you.

And no, this is not normal, it's not "bad" but its also not good for you mentally.

2007-01-03 18:24:02 · answer #5 · answered by having_a_blonde_day_lol 4 · 0 0

I used to for all the failings you listed. here is how I solved it went to my bible it says'' you who're in christ Jesus there's no comendanation uncomplicated ability guilt. i assumed yeah what's humorous earlier u get married you think of no sexx earlier marriage then in case you have exciting intercourse with husband oh i'm evil so I pronounced forget all this it truly is the devil speaking to you. he's the type to assert hit that youngster he's cussing you. Then turn and allow you comprehend that your the devil. it truly is loopy? I provide it to God and guy realatives invite you for each thing???? I say safeguard your toddlers,husband first acquaintances,family individuals comes way after shop your place so as do not pass celebration with the ladies out of guilt and injury your dating. I got here from a artwork a holic family individuals and a powerful christan family individuals yet we desire grace to relax wattch television dont hear to the father of lies. It says in the bible''Jesus got here to furnish stay and supply it greater abundantly. The devil is composed of thieve,kill,destroy'' tries to make u sense undesirable he's the father of lies. he's that certainly one of those jerk the conflict on your techniques have faith God not the in charge malicious program who will spend his existence in hell stressful the place he belongs can not await Jesus to kick his butt! ha ha.

2016-10-19 10:55:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

what you feel is not guilt i dont know what to call it but its something else perhaps loneliness, being unsure of oneself,you need to build a new you and develop your self esteem,try making friends or if not friends atleast talk to someone about life and everything about it

2007-01-03 18:22:48 · answer #7 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0 0

sex, it makes your emotions go to neutral and puts a smile on your face.

2007-01-03 18:22:02 · answer #8 · answered by xeraphile 3 · 0 2

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