Is it bad that my 4 month old sleeps with me?

Question

My husbands thinks that our baby will have a harder time sleeping in his crib when i try to put him in it, i was thinking that maybe i can try to put him in his basinet for naps because his room isn't finished and i don't wanna put him his his room alone at night in his crib while his room isn't finished and we're about to move so it's in finishing his room, i'm also very attached and used to him sleeping with me now....

Answer 1

honey 9 years later mine is still sleeping with us!

Answer 2

I personally think having the baby close to you at that age is beneficial for you and the baby. Co-sleeping is good IF you take the right precautions. modern day bedding is quite fluffy and there tend to be alot of pillows and such and this is cause for concern because of the chance of suffocation. If you keep bedding (i.e. blankets pillows sheets) to a minimum and make sure there is no gaps between the matress and the frame where the baby can be trapped.. co-sleeping should be fine.
I co-sleep with my baby (6 weeks) I've moved a futon mattress onto the floor in his room and have just a thin blanketover me (not the bed) and I also use the sleep positioner (two triangle pillow things) to keep him on his back and ensures that i won;t roll on him (which i am confident that i won;t)
I'd also suggest if you do want to wean the baby off the "family bed" to pull the bassinet or crib closer to the bed and gradually move it farther and farther away. But your baby is young enough where waiting a while won;t hurt.

Answer 3

The problem is that babies who sleep with their parents are more likely to die than babies who sleep in their cribs - preferable on their side or back. The reason is the babies can be crushed by an adult rolling on them, they can be pushed out of bed, sometimes they get pushed between the wall and the mattress only to suffocate.

All that said - our first boy slept with us for maybe a year and he's doing fine. Some things you could do to help the risk would be to sleep on a firm mattress like a futon and one very low to the ground.

Answer 4

I agree with Maiden W. More important than whether you baby will cry in his crib or not, it's more important to consider the risks involved. Babies can die sleeping in a bed with someone else. They can not only suffocate but can roll down the side of the bed or headboard, get stuck and die there. I personally never took that chance. Although it's a wonderful feeling to sleep cuddled up with your baby, it's also a big risk, so better not take it.

Answer 5

It could be harder for him to sleep on his own later. Unlike you- he's never known what it is like to sleep alone, to wake up and go back to sleep without another person there. But I don't think it's bad. My 3 year old will crawl into bed with us sometimes. It's so sweet and comforting to have him there. I won't be able to do that in a few years. So, enjoy him, but realize that you are going to have to put him in his own bed eventually, and the longer you want, the more difficult it will be. He won't understand why he's suddenly in a room alone after so long.

Answer 6

My two year old still sleeps with me! It is fine to be attached to you baby. I don't understand this strange jealousy dad have against there children. I have heard all these men saying they don't want the baby in the bed. They come up with some really stupid reasons too. I bet he has told you he is affraid he will roll over on the baby. They don't seem to care that having your child next to you helps you sleep better since you don't have to worry all night about the baby, or be up running around in the middle of the night, I doubt he would be doing it!

Anyway I guess I am a little annoyed with guys like this.
There is a co-sleeper they make that hooks to the side of your bed. It is made to keep the baby right next to you but not really in your bed. This helps with the transistion to a crib, or not since the baby is really not in your bed anymore what is there to complain about? :)

Hope this was a little helpful.

Answer 7

He will be spoiled rotten and wont want to sleep alone. Trust me my 1 1/2 year old is asleep in my bed with daddy right now and when we move her to her crib she starts screaming until she is back with us. I say it is really up to you though. We kind of like knowing she is right there and I guess she feels the same.

Answer 8

It's not a bad thing as far as bonding is concerned, but the chance of what's called "rollover" is extremely great. Cribs were created for the reason that people would put their children in bed with them and roll over on them and smother them. Even though you may feel your child is safe I would assume you would agree that the chance is too great of rolling over on your son/daughter. I have a two-month old son and he is my 4th child. Once I learned of the probability of rollover and death, I stopped putting my children in bed with me as well. I would just hate for something to happen as I couldn't imagine the kind of guilt one would feel if the worst would happen. Best of luck and congratulations on your little one.

Answer 9

It is personal choice, but considering the suffocation risk, I would never do it, not to mention it will be a very hard habit for him to break, mummy and daddy need some mummy and daddy time occasionaly aswell, and you will find that very difficult if you have a baby in the bed with you. Unfortunatly I have to side with your hubbie on this one, babys bed is babys bed and the sooner they get used to that the better.

Answer 10

I have a friend whose baby is not going on 3, and still in bed with her. Kid screams until he can sleep with her.

My sister did the same thing, until the kids were 7 (she did not learn the 1st time), they ended up sleeping on a mattress in her room - and it all started with what you are saying.

I gave you some background. I think you can see it is bad--- your husband is right.

Answer 11

It is best to get him to sleep in his own crib by this age, or you will be having a crying screaming toddler who will be wanting to get in bed with you every night.

You may be attached to your baby, but your husband is needing attention from you also. He has already let you know how he feels about the arrangement.