I am dating this guy who has brought a zest back to my life. He helps me be a better me. He supports me on any decision I make whether I like the supports he gives or not (meaning not getting my way), he’s honest, and he keeps me laughing. He loves kids (his 2), and my two really likes him. When it comes to finical responsibility, he has that down packed. He tries to not be in debt, and he is a hard worker who likes to plan for the future. Sometimes he works so hard you have to wonder will your relationship be put on the back burner because of it. The problem is when it comes to the mental and emotional side of things he don’t have it. He likes to be in control. Not in control of you, but in control of a situation. Like if we argue he does not answer the phone when I call once or twice and when I stop calling he sends me a message to get me to respond just to ignore me some more. He does not ever admit fault, and blames me for almost everything.
2007-01-03 18:07:16 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Even if I say I see where I went wrong, and we talk about where I went wrong, but he just listens to me when his wrong comes up, but he says nothing. No I’m sorry, I will do better next time nothing. I have now called things off for the 2nd time, but I am truly in love with him. I have been with other guys and everything, but I can’t get over him even though I don’t let him know that. My question is how can he be so good at one thing and very bad at the other, and also what am I to do since I can’t get over him. We are at another point where we are not speaking to each other. A few months pass, we have a really great time then we go right back to this.
2007-01-03 18:07:30 · update #1
I would go to counseling together, or go by yourself since you aren't married yet. Ask yourself if you think there's anything that is causing him to distance himself from you. Be more positive and up beat and give him a little more TLC. You will be amazed at his response and I can guarantee he will give back to you. It's a man's instinct to be in control of the situation. Is that bothering you? Me, I like a man that can take control and be in charge. I'm comfortable with that. If he keeps blaming you, ask him why and what you did, then tell him you're side. Don't nag or sound angry when asking him these things, it'll just make him run away or get defensive. IM or email me if you need someone to talk to. Let us know! Take care.
2007-01-03 18:13:56 · answer #1 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing is you cannot live with Mr. Perfect who breaks your self-confidence and does not understand a word or two about other's self-respect. That said, you should ask him clearly, whether he wants a relationship with you or not or does he think that he is obliging you in some way by being with you? The answer to that question will help you decide what to do next.
2007-01-03 18:13:06 · answer #2 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like he is not the right guy for you because like you said he does not give you the mental and emotional stability that you need. Find someone who you feel completely 100% happy with and you will see the difference between the guy you are dating and someone who gives you everything that you need.
2007-01-03 18:11:06 · answer #3 · answered by His Angel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Counseling. it sounds like he likes for everything to be your fault and wont share in the blame - all relationships are 50/50.
2007-01-03 18:17:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is way too much drama for me, and you as well, I suspect.
Drop him for good.
2007-01-03 18:10:53 · answer #5 · answered by domesticgoddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suggest you take this case to jerry springer or montel william show. he can probably tell you what to do.
2007-01-03 18:18:04 · answer #6 · answered by Friv 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋