Looked up my man's name on myspace.com out of curiousity..?

Question

and found his site with 5 girls and numerous messages to him...what should I do, I really don't want to cause a fight, but I can't believe he is doing this behind my back. By the way, the girls there are all from town.

Answer 1

You dont want to cause a fight??? Youre not the one lieing....you need to have the conversation with him!

Answer 2

Hmmm, what to do without causing a fight? One of the two:

- Pretend you never saw it; never mention it, never snoop around, just take note that he is not committed to his relationship with you, and accept it.

- Quietly pack any stuff you have at his house, load it in your car, drive away, and never come back again.

Any other approach is guaranteed to cause a fight.

Answer 3

Exactly what kind of messages? A lot of people (men and women both) don't think flirting online counts as "cheating" while others do.........just a matter of opinion and trust I suppose. You could casually bring it up in a conversation and see what opinion he has if he thinks flirting online is cheating or not and that should help you get your answer.

Answer 4

If it bothers you, you can test him out by asking if he kept any website or all that? If he acknowledges it, then you ask further info. Then you'll go in and make fun of it or teasing abt it that all his friends are gals. But if you really felt uncomfortable about it, do tell him truthfully how you felt.

If he lied to you, then thats trouble.

Maybe its just a website he kept, unless you found out that he's been meeting up with them secretly, and lying to you or if you found out he's flirting with them; then thats dangerous!

Answer 5

I have just got out of a similiar situation as your husband. I recommend that you talk to him, not at him. Find out from him what your relationship is lacking and go from there. Even as a man I think you should talk to him about it. Just pray and ask God to give you the strenght to deal with this situation. Also, if you forgive him (which I believe you should), please forget it also. God will handle him.

Answer 6

Well, he probably isn't doing anything wrong so I wouldn't worry. How could he be so dumb as to set up a Myspace account in his name and not think that you could find it? What do the messages say? Are they friends of his or people he met through Myspace?

Answer 7

I guess it depends on what the messages say. As for confronting him, he put that on the Internet for anyone and everyone to see, including you. I think you might be afraid of what he will say. You deserve better.

Answer 8

I wouldn't tell him...for now...I will check, and observe his behavior...You need to find the right time to confront him, but even then he might deny it (most men do).
Make clear to him what would you accept or not (in terms of cheating) if he still does it...you will have to make a decision...
Men are in nature a little primitive, and need the excitement, it also depends how old is your boyfriend and you.

Answer 9

I would confront him about it. First I would say one of the names like who is sherri but do not tell him you seen his myspace account. See what he says first before you tell him about my space. It could be innocent but then again you need to see what is going on.

Answer 10

Just ask, calmly not angry or suspicious. See how he reacts. If he knows you're coming to attack him, he'll get in defensive mode. He made do that if you ask him calmly. See his reaction and see what you make of it. Hope everything works out!