My DD is hung up on this guy that is addicted to coke and is a big thief. He recently stole my husband's portable DVD player and won't bring it back or replace it. What's bad about this is that my husband is a disabled vietnam vet and didn't do anything to hurt this guy. He's also stolen from others---mainly women and children and other vulnerable people. The guy is shiftless and lazy....extrememly untrustworthy. Since he's only 21 and I thought he showed some signs of potential I've attempted to try to get along with this guy and to attempt to get him onto the right path. But now I think I'd just like to scratch his eyes out....or worse.. I now think he's nothing more than a reprobate and would like to see my daughter free of him. They have a baby, which complicates matters. Any ideas? I've considered getting a restraining order/order of protection to keep him away from us.... Should I go that direction? I wish my DD had more sense and higher self esteem.
2007-01-03 17:34:42 · 3 answers · asked by Brenda 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
To protect your home ... yourself ... your disabled husband .. DO Go and ask the police to serve this future SIL with a "NO Trespass Order" for your property. That way, you can enjoy your HOME with your husband and NOT have to worry about being Burglarized by this ...
At the same time, sit down with your daughter, and TELL her (as calmly as possible) that your fiance has stolen (x, y, z ...) from our home on (date), and since your father is disabled, we have a limited income, and can't trust that we are completely safe with him in the home, we prefer that we can meet you at your home, or out shopping or at a restaurant .. but he certainly can't be in our home. Please understand, daughter, this is for OUR safety .. and yes, we know you love him and have a child with him, but OUR safety comes first.
2007-01-03 17:50:29 · answer #1 · answered by sglmom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Join the club "Mothers who have loser son-in-laws" just be thankful you don't have 4 of them out of 6 girls. We hate these boys and our girls are in love and yes have children by the losers. I personally can not give you any advise just waiting to see if someone else has another solution. Oh by the way a restraining order is useless.
2007-01-04 02:13:34 · answer #2 · answered by livlafluv 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you probably cant. in the experience iv seen in my family, you must let these things run their course, eventually your daughter will tire of this not good for her man, or succomb to his ways, in wich case you can stage intervention. thats when u can have authority of ur grown daughter, but until she crosses the line herself, you probably shouldnt resist it, because thatll only make her want the bad boy more.
2007-01-04 01:37:53 · answer #3 · answered by little b 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋