monogomy today?

Question

is monogomy realistic in todays society? do you think you could spend the REST of your days with one person only, being faithful?

Answer 1

i believe monogamy is productive only from a moral point of view from a biological and even economical one , it is not , and all this from a purely sociological perspective. i do believe it has been a long enduring question for societies , whether one man and one woman can follow up the biblical standards hence i do not believe it is necessarily an issue of today's society . the level of information transparency and law dynamics has made this question seem like a very acute one , given the apparent values leaning on ideas of attractiveness and sexuality. i believe that monogamy in its purest form is no longer being practiced , meaning sharing your entire life with just one person , what is practiced today is just successive polygamy .
as for myself , i believe the only monogamy one can wish for nowadays is the type that has to do with sincerity and friendship; the other type that implies complete physical and spiritual faithfulness is incredibly rare or almost impossible in my book , temptations are there at every corner as well as the favorable role models for such conducts
so no , i don't believe monogamy was ever all in all a natural state for any human being , it just became through our civilization a model to aspire to .

Answer 2

I tend to lean towards social-biology, and in that respect, "today" or whenever is just an environmental condition but we also have to factor in the human genetic heritage. With this in mind, I can think of two biological issues to be considered.

1) Monogamy does not mean life long commitment from a biological point of view. What it does mean is that the family structure lasts the time necessary for the offspring to be sustainable without parental assistance.

I have heard (not convinced though) that marriages tend to last around 4 to 5 years because that is the time it would take for a child living in a group in the African savanna to be picked up by the collective group. After that, it would be beneficial for the genetic pool that the parents breed with others in the group to allow for diversity. Hum...

2) Monogamy (in the wild) also does not equate to fidelity. Males and females alike, mess around.


We could also look at the alternatives to monogamy. I can think only of three: celibacy, polygamy and woohooo!!!

I don't think people are willing to live in a celibate society even if we didn't have to rely on sex to renew the species and if the state would raise the newborns.

Polygamy is also problematic. If males can have several females, that means that several males will remain mate-less. This causes social unease and violence on one side. On the other, it seems that polygamous families are not exactly haven (that is disputable, of course). The opposite, one woman with several husbands has the issue that males evolved to be genetically even more jealous than females. (I wont go into the explanation of why, but it makes selective sense that both have some degree of jealousy, but the optimum balance for males is somewhat at a higher degree than for females.)


Woohoo!!! also doesn't seem to work very well for the same reasons. This has been put to the test by the flower generation and the results were not positive.

These are just thougts and rambles form an old geezer and all I can say for sure is that I am very faithful and have been married for 10 yrs.

Answer 3

Yes, monogomy is in fact realistic. The truth of the matter is that many people believe it isn't because of popular culture. There is so much news spread around about people cheating on each other because it's entertaining. People, especially teenagers who are influenced by popular culture, allow themselves to believe this is the way the world works and so feel that it is commonplace to not be monogamous. What they don't hear is that there are many people who will stay in the same relationships their whole lives.

Answer 4

I personally feel that monogomy is a ideal upheld by certain societies. There has been much evidence lately suggesting that monogomous traits are against our nature. But then again if you consider yourself more than just an evolution delevoped mamal, perhaps it could work. Although it probably wouldn't be as much fun.

Answer 5

Yes, we should be faithful to our life partner. Anyway, thing always keep on changing, especially the feeling of the human, we can't predict what will happen in the future. Many couples believe that they can live happily together forever when they are married, but in real life...can you see that the divorce rate is quite high. I can't promise that I could spend the rest of my days with one person only, but i will try my best.

Answer 6

It did until i was 16

Answer 7

I could easily do the monogomy thing, its comes down to respect for the other person, self-control, maturity, and love.

Answer 8

I do one partner and always plan to do so. Frankly, having multiple partners is a bad habit that people start in high school, justifying it with flimsy excuses. Have a single partner is preferred to me and always has been for a number of practical reasons, not to mention my religious beliefs.

Answer 9

yes, in Islamic societies. In America they make it easy to not to be monogamist, with no fault divorce laws. In this sociey we are raising a society of whinny quitters, no one wants to work at keeping marriages and families together.

Answer 10

I've been with my partner for 6 years. Never broken my commitment. Never even thought about it.