I'm in college and used to have a great group of friends -- that was freshman and sophomore year. Now I'm a junior, and two of my best friends transferred to different schools, a few went to study abroad etc. and basically it seems like all the friends I used to have are gone, leaving me alone.
To make matters even worse I moved off campus and don't see people around nearly as much as I used to.
I've tried making new friends but its hard to move past being more than just casual friends. They basically already have their best friends and cliques and while they're pretty nice to me, I feel stupid always being the one to call them and trying to hang out with them.
They will never call me usually...
What should I do? I find myself a lot of Friday nights these days having nobody to really go out with...
Is me trying to be friends with these people making me seem desperate? Ahhh...but what am I supposed to do if nobody ever invites me to do anything with them?
2007-01-03 17:25:17 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think a person has to go through alot to be labeled as a friend,its not just a word you can use for anyone that comes ur way.While it's gr8 having friends and sharing special moments together,there are still moments in friendship where you fight and argue,but the love however makes it all worthwhile.Now about finding new friends in a new situation,i totally understand how it feels to be left out but calling someone who doesn't call you back and trying to fit in a group where you are not welcome as a full-time memeber and only as a visitor is probably not a good idea coz friendship is a 2way street and can never be forced.Its true that we are in need of contact and people but you can use this chance of not finding any friends to find your best friend which is you.Spend time with urself and enjoy urself,keep in touch with the good friends u had in the past,work on urself and educate urself,in anyway not just the school books but lots of other ways and think of it this way that you are in full control and dont have to make excuses of not going to this and that and possibly causing tension.Find out more about who you are (believe me it takes time) and while you are at it,who knows??maybe some one is watching you from a secret corner
2007-01-03 23:27:22 · answer #1 · answered by noosha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey
I know the feeling of having to make new friends, I've switched heaps of schools and juz moved to the land down under... hehe...
change is not easy, but it's good sometimes...& I know it feels worse if ur the one being left behind...
but to answer your question, if ppl don't invite u, invite them... and don't worry too much about what others think of you, a little bit will do, cuz when u get to the end of the road, u'll see how unecessary it was and sometimes, worrying can really change someone...
besides, we all have a place where we belong, one little group we fit perfectly in.... eventho it might take time to find it... ^-*
hope that helped... (0^-*)
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2007-01-03 18:17:56 · answer #2 · answered by Serenity C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in the same situation (except all my friends betrayed me). It is extremely hard to make friends with people when they have their own cliques and best friends. I think that you should just make the best of it. Do not try to hard. Find some people in your classes and start a conversation. Then ask them if they want to hang out sometime. But you should not worry about it. Keep in touch with your old friends (the one's that transferred) and try to see them whenever you get a chance. Focus on your schooling right now and worry about partying later. You could find an apartment on campus looking for roommates. This could help you keep in touch and hang out with people more often.
2007-01-03 17:32:37 · answer #3 · answered by pumpkinpie 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sweet heart, I dont know you but if you're as nice as you seem to be, then I'm sure you'll make some friends soon. Until then, Just have "you" time. Spend more time on your studies and not about your social life. I'm 18 and I know if I was a junior in college, i'd be surprised that I even made it that far. So good job on that and keep your head up.
2007-01-03 17:30:45 · answer #4 · answered by EviLm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guess what! I also experienced that last year when I transfered to another school. I was in Junior high back then. I used to experience teasing. I would often go home crying. But then my mom told me that I don't need friends to survive. If I do my best in classes most probably people will be the once comming to me. Instead of me going to them. After a month they noticed me & now I hate admit it but I'm one of the most popular person in school. To make things short, Be yourself, Do your BesT & Let GOD do the rest.. bye-bye.. ^_^
2007-01-03 17:31:44 · answer #5 · answered by SaMoi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it takes time it will happen do what interests you go to places you have a liking to and then those kind of people will be there there is nothing like old shcool freinds tho who keep in touch life is constant changing tho and being sociable is a good thing you know dont close yourself off or stay in.who says peolpe have to go out fri nights? try a monday or thursday how can anyone invite you if your not known? get out to meet people- cliques people arent worth knowing.. go to college hangouts places.
2007-01-03 17:54:52 · answer #6 · answered by gypsygirl731 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out there... you aren;t going to make new friends staying off campus in your apt. except maybe the pizza guy and your landlord.
I recommend getting involved in some IM sports or group events on campus. Join as many groups as you can handle until you find one that best suits your likes and has the circle of *potential* friends.
2007-01-03 17:30:24 · answer #7 · answered by SoCal 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not in college, but I know how you feel. Have you tried getting involved in a club or something where you can meet new people and see them on a regular basis?
2007-01-03 17:28:23 · answer #8 · answered by sunshine & summertime 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i can understand you.......i'm older than you but i have the same problem....two years ago i went to junior high school but not at the same where all my friends went, and i was all alone...after many weeks i found a girl so we became best friends but ufortunatelly she moved and i'm alone for one more time.....and then i found the way....well you must show them that you're independent and you don't need their friendship...pretend that you don't listen to the same music with them and you are different........i'm sure that you will have new friends soon.......good luck!!!
2007-01-04 00:22:46 · answer #9 · answered by coolgirldina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll find someone to hang out with. School is a great place to make friends as well as work just find a place to meet people bars, clubs, church, etc... anywhere you can meet people with similar interests
2007-01-03 17:28:52 · answer #10 · answered by Brad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋