What are some of the issues a man faces when he holds bitterness & unforgiveness in his heart towards his dad?

Answer 1

Good potential for alcoholism and/or drug additiction. Shorter life span, and smaller social circle. I had the same feeling about my father,: I became alocholic; quick tempered and those two combined put me in prison. Get over it, you don't know what your father had to go through in his life. Maybe he's doing the best he knows how. Sure he's not like a TV Dad or friends Dads, but he's your's. Maybe he had a hard childhood, bad Dad or mother; maybe he was poor, got abused, etc. Think past your anger and try to understand.

Answer 2

For me in particular it took me a long time to stop looking for approval.
In General. Anyone who holds hard feelings towards anyone or anything is prone to depression and stress problems.
It is hard to forgive and give up the bitterness it will depend on how you came about it and if your father is alive.
For me I attended a mens therapy group and we did some roll play without me realizing it so that I was able to talk out and release my anger and antipathy towards my father. It was the start of a long journey.
Things I have learned from the experience is that You only have control of yourself and that my father did the best job that he knew how at the time he did it. I avowed that I would not make the same mistakes as him but was told that I would make my own and that they would be different but have some affects.
We can only do the best we can with the knowledge we have. It is the mark of a man to ask for help when you realize that you don't have the knowledge.

Hope that this has helped

Answer 3

Issues abound. There is awkwardness any time you're both in the same room. You don't believe a word he says. Everything he does is an insult. Your best bet is to separate yourself from "Dad". The two of you being around each other is a stressful situation and should be avoided. When your stressed you can't think rationally.

I had the same problem with my father. In time I overcame it and saw my father as not only my father but "just another guy" in the span of my lifetime lessons. He eventually became my friend.

My father had the same problem with his father. My dad never forgave his father.

All that I can say is to repair the fence or jump over it.

Answer 4

I dont have this twords my father, but I do twords my mother. For one thing, everybody will blame you for being the bad child eventhough you may have been abused. Especially if your dad is a nice guy to everybody else. You will be seen as the bad person. Next, your spouse will ask why you dont spend time with him. She will think you are mean because you dont want to be around him. Next, you will hate him even more when you see other people with a good relationship with their dad and wish you did too. Even more fun is when he says he is sorry and you should just get over whatever he did to you, and you probably never will. So if you can forgive(which I cant yet) you are in for much fun. Life is not fair.

Answer 5

I'm a Christian and am not given the luxury of unforgiveness. Jesus tells me at Matthew 6:15 "But if you don’t forgive others, your Father in heaven will not forgive your sins." (New Century Version) I risk eternal damnation of I am unwilling to forgive, and that I'm not willing to risk. "The person you obey is your master. You can follow sin, which brings spiritual death, or you can obey God, which makes you right with him." (Romans 6:16b NCV) "For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life through Christ Jesus our Lord." (Romans 6:23 NLT)

May my God bless you with a forgiving heart. In Jesus' name. Amen Sincerely Rick

The Holy Bible : New Century Version , containing the Old and New Testaments. 1991 . Word Bibles: Dallas, TX

Answer 6

He needs to "let it go." Not necessarily forgive, but accept his dad is a terrible father and move on from there.
If a man doesn't "accept" his lot in life, he will forever wish for something which will never happen and his life will be stunted.

Answer 7

Just let it go. It ain't worth it. My father is on this list for the world's worst. You won't be able to live your life until you let it go.

Answer 8

you need to try and forget!
it is hard but he's still your father weather you like it or not!

try to stay away for a while 'till you calm down and then try to avoid talking or doing things that would remind you of what he did\does.

some parents are horrible, but, you can only have one father in your life.

Answer 9

He feels like sh-t when his dad checks out, especially when his dad sits up in bed to draw his last breathe, and says "Tell my son that I always will love him, he's my son", Then you feel like sh-t !

Answer 10

after he dies your left yelling at the walls and muttering under your breath.