As in decide rather be lead to, if that makes sense. To say, this is good, this will be great, I should marry her. Do you think that is wrong? I am under the impression thats what most people do.
2007-01-03 16:56:46 · 14 answers · asked by fslcaptain737 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I understand what you're talking about, sometimes people feel like they're obligated to because they've been together for however many years or they think that their partner deserves it or something. I think it's wrong because marriage isn't like some business deal, it's more than that. It's a huge commitment that you should want and be ready for if you're taking that step.
2007-01-03 16:59:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be right for some people,and wrong for others. Some societies still view marraige as primarily a social binding. Here in the good ole' USA, we are not in the frontier days anymore... Marriage is no longer seen as survial tactic necessity for mutual beneifits! Gone those days! Now we have so much freedom, it would be sad for a couple to marry with no love, esp since men and women can function independently (without a spouse) in today's society. When people are "lead to" marrying someone, i set a lot of times that person (or couple) is so comfortable in the relationship, that's it's easier to wed than go through the complications of breaking up) I see this a lot in cohabitation. Eventually people build a great resentment for each other and then, they divorce. This could all be prevented if people were not so scared to take the risk of leaving a relationship when it's dead. Viva womens lib!
2007-01-04 01:04:35 · answer #2 · answered by Marmontos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it doesn't make sense... Of course there is a "decision" process going on, there's nothing wrong with that. I don't quite follow what you're asking. Sometimes, one decides they want to get married before they have even met anyone; there's just a feeling that this is what they would ultimately like to do. So, they're looking for a relationship with the potential to turn into a family. Other times, one may not be looking for a "serious" relationship at all, but then they meet a person - and ultimately marry them. It all depends on how things play out, neither way is "right" or "wrong".
2007-01-04 01:03:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, that's what most people do. You decide what you want and then you go for it. Be cool though, it's creepy for a guy to want to get married two weeks into a relationship. You need to allow some time to get settled and comfortable so that you can "fall out of love" and see if you still like her.
2007-01-04 01:02:11 · answer #4 · answered by mommy333 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
getting married without thinking it through first is a stupid thing to do. I have been married 3 times. the first 2 that is exactly what I did. she mentioned marriage I said sure what the hell and we did it. both led to divorces. my 3rd marriage we dated for awhile, talked about marriage for atleast a couple of months. discussed the pros and cons, and then made a decision to do so togahter. and 5 years and 4 children later we are still togather and still happy
2007-01-04 01:04:25 · answer #5 · answered by Jon P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if more people took time and married the ones they really want to marry instead of just settling then more people would have better marriages. You shouldn't marry someone just out of responsibility or obligation it needs to be out of love and really wanting to do it.
2007-01-04 01:03:23 · answer #6 · answered by momof3boys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think it's wrong. God can lead you in making decisions, too. Even if you are led to the person, you still have to make a decision about whether you will accept being led.
2007-01-04 01:04:18 · answer #7 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-01-04 00:59:16 · answer #8 · answered by sndnads.com 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
chose yes or no you want or not. what is wrong is pressure and deadlines.. this is wrong.. most people marry when they want to and are ready as they dont want to lose that person.. make sure your ready have money and a job goal etc.. if not ready then hell no say no maturity here is key
2007-01-04 01:00:49 · answer #9 · answered by gypsygirl731 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure exactly what your gettin at but if I'm correct it sounds like your not sure.If you have to talk yourself into marrying someone then don't do it.
When you "WANT" to marry someone is when you should get married?
DECIDE doesn't sound to great...
2007-01-04 01:00:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋