This is word for word what she sent me:
Opinion. Okay so the other day I went through my bf's phone and found all these texts to this girl. The texts were like "dirty talk" talking about hanging out and basically "hooking up" with her. I looked through his phone without his permission and stuff and then I asked to see his phone just to see if he would give it to me and he wouldn't. then I lied to him oh why I wanted to see it but anyways things got out at what I found. I said I found the texts and stuff and he tried to make the excuse that he was trying to get back at the girl for his friend at work bc his co-worker liked her but she didn't like him and just wanted a "**** buddy". What do you think?
OK I just want to thank you all beforehand for your help. She is like a sister to me, and I hate seeing her go through this.
2007-01-03 16:45:09 · 11 answers · asked by Jon M 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
What you should tell her is that everything will be ok and she's better off without someone that she cant trust. Once the seed of doubt has been planted by incidents like this in relationships, it never dies. Instead it flourishes with every, even seemingly minute, incident. Offer her the advice that, even though he may say that he loves her and wants to be with her and he's not cheating, it's about respect and only his actions can prove what words arent strong enough to. Just be there for her and I hope things work out.
2007-01-03 16:51:08 · answer #1 · answered by Redneckswoman0121 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Advise her to move on and help her get through it. However she may need proof, I always have. Oh God I am sorry for her and you if she is a good friend. The next few weeks or months are going to be tough. But I agree with you, it does not look good.
2007-01-03 16:50:44 · answer #2 · answered by Jan J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-06 10:09:37 · answer #3 · answered by wiemer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to dump him but she has to make that decision. you might try writing the same thing out from your point of view, explain it is an example, let her read it and ask her what you should do, and then tell her she is in the same boat.
Or tell you you asked us online at yahoo and we all agreed without even knowing her that he is using her and she needs someone who treats her better. then it is us telling her and you don't have to.
2007-01-03 17:08:13 · answer #4 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's not a lot you can say that won't upset her.
Just tell her to trust her own instincts and no matter what she decides, you'll support her.
Good luck.
PS her boyfriend sounds like a total d*ck.
2007-01-03 16:50:06 · answer #5 · answered by the_fatmanwalksalone 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to let him go. I don't believe his reason and neither should she. Too many liars in this world today. Good luck to your friend.
2007-01-03 16:53:05 · answer #6 · answered by lynnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bad she should not have snooped invaded the privacy and for doing so this is karma.. it is bad.. this was asked by the girl herself today here.. it isnt good.. so she should break away as she wont trust him no more anyway her mind is set already
2007-01-03 18:02:27 · answer #7 · answered by gypsygirl731 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her to move on and just be supportive.
2007-01-03 17:13:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's lying to you don't be stupid,he's looking for **** buddy
2007-01-04 02:17:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should breakn up with him and fined some like you
2007-01-03 16:56:49 · answer #10 · answered by china 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋