We dated for almost 2years. He was my first love, serious relationship, and my first. He cheated on me, he's told me that he's sorry and that I'll always have his heart. And that he's loved me more then anyone he's ever known.
2007-01-03 16:26:41 · 12 answers · asked by Angel face 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He doesn't really love you if he's moved on. That's the bottom line. Maybe you can't get over the guy because of fear? Fear of being alone? Of having to be single again? Fear of meeting new people? Or fear of not meeting new people? Also, we humans generally want to stay in the "familiar," meaning we'll take a shitty relationship over no relationship a lot of the time. And that's too bad.
You can get over him, but it will take work. Stay out of contact with him - any contact. No phone, no IM, no email, no text messaging, nothing. If you live in the same town, don't try to "run" into him accidentally. Avoid places you know he will be present. You need to avoid all contact. If you get the urge to call him, call a friend instead. Or come to this website and answer some questions, help other people with their problems. Just don't contact him.
Do this for 60 days - no contact whatsoever. After two months, you will feel a ton better. There is sometihng magical about 8 weeks, 60 days, it appears to be a long enough time to create some distance from the object (the guy), and if you have had zero contact, it will only get easier from there to contine your journey without him.
Don't bother yourself with why it happened. It doesn't matter. Sometimes the best answer is that it's just the ebb and flow of relationships - some are meant to last longer than others. Accept it, and get on with your life, get yourself into shape emotionally, physically, and intellectually so that the next guy who comes along can really appreciate you.
Good luck!
2007-01-03 16:33:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's intensely painful to lose someone that you love... but sometimes, in the end, it's the best thing that could have ever happened to you. I know that it doesn't seem like it now... but you have someone AMAZING just waiting for you... someone who will not only love you but also TREAT YOU like he loves you... and like you deserve to be treated. Hold your head up. Live a good life, take care of yourself, make yourself feel and look great... and then BE HAPPY... living a good life is the best revenge. Don't wallow around and look like you've lost everything without him. Show him how amazing you are... show him what he LOST... and what he'll never have again because YOU DESERVE BETTER.
2007-01-04 00:35:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to please you. He just wants to tell you what you want to hear. He may feel some of these emotions, at times, but if he cheated he is much to low for you. You deserve a lot better. A reliable, sweet, loyal man. Two years is a long time, and it's hard to throw away, but imagine going out with him for ten or having kids with him and then realizing this.
It could be a lot worse. But I'm very sorry, losing a love is hard.
2007-01-04 00:31:07 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Krista Marie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is a dikead isn't he? If he loved you enough he wouldn't cheat and if he has already moved on than thats not a good sign. Go out and find someone who treats like a princess.
2007-01-04 00:32:23 · answer #4 · answered by Mareezi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will always have feelings for him because he is special to you. Most of us have those feelings for our first loves and they are always special to us. You can love someone else again but I know the feelings will be different. Just be smart and don't let him play with your emotions cuz guys can do that knowing how you feel about them. Be careful!
2007-01-04 00:31:22 · answer #5 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you continue to think you WON'T get over him, then it will be a self-fulfilling prophecy - by thinking that, you'll prohibit yourself from getting over him. If you think that you WILL get over him, it will just take time, then you'll get there eventually. Look yourself in the mirror - do you want to be a weak ass, pathetic, typical girl who can never emotionally recover from ANYTHING? Or do you want to be tougher than that. Yell at yourself in the mirror - "I AM NOT A PUS*Y!" five times. Repeat as necessary.
2007-01-04 00:31:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
neither can I. If he really loves you like he said, he'd try hard to get you back. You cant get over? You must try, and be more careful next time. I'm in the same situation now, I understand.
2007-01-04 00:33:19 · answer #7 · answered by Purslane 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He loves you? Is that how your treat the person you've loved the most? Sounds to me like he just wants to keep the door open...
2007-01-04 00:30:27 · answer #8 · answered by Daniel R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HE MAY FEEL THAT WAY ABOUT YOU BUT HE YOUR EX FOR
A REASON AND SINCE HE HAS MOVED ON, IT TIME FOR
YOU TO DO THE SAME.
2007-01-04 00:42:40 · answer #9 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes love alone isn't enough.
2007-01-04 00:29:05 · answer #10 · answered by halie_blue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋