Recently a family member was murdered and I feel that I need to go and pay her respect back east in Connecticut I live in Washington State, her funeral is on the 24th of January and we will be leaving by bus on the 17th of January. Heres where I need the opinion; I start school in Community College on the 8th of January and I only have one class I am taking which is math I have no problem catching up on my homework finding a study buddy etc while I am away If I do not go to pay her respect I will later regret it in life and I will feel terrible, What can I do???? How do I explain to the instructor about this???? will the instructor drop me from the class while it being so early in the quarter because I am away patching things up with family? any advice? 10 pts for the best answer please no rude or smart remarks
2007-01-03 16:10:25 · 22 answers · asked by Melody-Lynn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Explain the situation to the instructor outside of class. Family death is usually an allowed absence. You may need to take any exams you would miss before you leave, which is the instructor's prerogative. I'm sorry about your family member, and the instructor will most likely understand the situation.
2007-01-03 16:13:13 · answer #1 · answered by halie_blue 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Definitely go if you can afford the bus fare and maybe missed work. Don't worry about the class because instructors are very understanding when it comes to a death in the family. Just make sure that you contact the teacher. If class has not started yet, find out who the teacher is and get the office number or email and just start communicating right away. Don't wait till the last minute or just not show up till you get back. That is the best way to get dropped from class. I am sorry for your loss.
2007-01-04 00:14:16 · answer #2 · answered by whowhat? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure that if you explain to your Professor what the situation is that they can be helpful and understanding with your predicament. Just be honest and forthright about your desire to go back home to Connecticut to pay your respect to your deceased family member and hope for the best. Maybe the Professor can give you a heads up on your future assignments or maybe even you could do your work online? Good luck hun and sorry about the sad news of your family member!
2007-01-04 00:14:41 · answer #3 · answered by Jen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell the instructor outside of class they should be understanding. You should NOT be droped from the class. Just ask if there is a bit of work you could do, whilst away, but don't overload yourself. You can't help what has happened no matter what you need to be with your family at a time like this.
2007-01-04 00:40:30 · answer #4 · answered by Mareezi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you go for the funeral. After all its the last time you are going to see ur relative (even though she's dead).. since you are also confident that you can catch up with the subject, it should not weigh on your mind. I think that the instructor should defenitely understand.. afterall everyones human and the instructor should have his family and relations. I hope he puts himself in your shoes and gives a thought to your predicament.. all the best and keep us posted on your decision.
2007-01-04 00:15:12 · answer #5 · answered by luck fest 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've gone through a similar situation before, actually two. When my friend had a stroke I went up to visit her in connecticut at the hospital and mised a day of classes, I talked to my teachers outside of class, and told them what was going on and they completely understood. Also, when my grandpa died I never went to his funeraly because it was in florida and back then I thought that missing one day would be horrible. To this day I still regret it, and if you miss hers, you will too, trust me. My sister went back to college 3 days late and missed the first days of her classes, and she didnt get dropped from her classes, and she didn't even have a real excuse. So don't worry you'll be fine and your proffessor will understand. Go to the funeral and pay your respects, you'll regret it if you don't.
2007-01-04 00:24:00 · answer #6 · answered by elisabette 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you go to your instructor immediately and try to bring some type of proof to her when you get it before or after the funeral...Be sure to let her know that you will show her all the proof that she requires..Just be straight forward and tell her their was a death in the family and you must go and pay your respects..Ask if you can get the assignments early and turn them in before you leave or if you can turn them in when you get back..Be sure to show your instructor that you are as flex able as she needs you to be..
2007-01-04 00:15:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
this must be a serious, difficult time for you.. losing a family member.
i suggest you either have a serious conversation with your instructor & explain to him the importance of paying your respects is.
if he does not understand.. then there is the possibility of you stayoing to take your course and then later going to pay your respects to her, by visiting her grave, and saying what you wouldve normally said if you went to her funeral.
i beleive as long as you go to pay respect some time in your life there should be no regret.
im sure your family member knew you deeply loved & cared about her.
:D
2007-01-04 00:14:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just explain the situation and i'm sure he'll understand. You are not patching things up with your family, you're going to a funeral. He will not drop you from the class. I am so sorry for your lose. I'l say a prayer for you and your family. God bless you,dear.
2007-01-04 00:17:37 · answer #9 · answered by lynnie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your loss. I am certain if you just let the professor know that you must leave due to a death in the family, he will be more than understanding. You should probably ask about setting up an appointment to discuss the situation with him and do let him know that you will eagerly make up any work that you miss.
Best wishes...
2007-01-04 00:16:43 · answer #10 · answered by †♥mslamom♥† 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋