And I know this sounds like it should be a simple yes or no, but there is a lot about it. Anyway, here goes, well, my father is an Insurance Agent, and owns his own business, and is looking to start another. But my question has to do with, should I stay and go to college here where I live, and then become that insurance agent? Or follow my dreams, and head for NYC, or LA. And do something in modeling/acting, or just something in the entertainment field. The thing is that I am also gay. And no one knows, esp. my dad. I think I would feel trapped for life if I stay here, and do what my family wants me to do. I know it would be tough, but I don't know. What do you think. Thank you
2007-01-03 16:05:37 · 4 answers · asked by Starcraft 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I think you should let your dad or someone know. Before doing so always prep with something good to say first. You always want to soften the initial surprise. Depends on what your father is like if he will be upset or not.
If you want to try insurance, it makes great money and makes for a decent living. Or if you are really set on being famous then go for it. Let me say this though, having fame is not what you may think it is. If you have a thick skin and can laugh things off, then go for it and try and follow your dream. You gotta remember, sometimes dreams are not as good as the reality we live. I wanted to be a politician, until I discovered how corrupt it is. I was not ready, so I moved onto a different career. Happiness is finding someone to share with. Once you find that person, most of life will be fulfilling and you will be able to enjoy the good and bad together.
Good Luck. If your father is an understanding man than do it, if he is not, still do it. You will show that you have principles and you should not apoligize for what you are.
2007-01-03 16:15:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anthony R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an easy one...follow your dreams, of course! You would just be making life very hard for yourself to stay, especially having to also hide your sexuality from everyone. Which eventually they will have to find out--but I'm sure you already know that. Do your own thing for a while, and if the entertainment career for some reason doesn't pan out, then think about coming back and becoming that insurance agent. There's no reason to have to live a life that's planned out for you by someone else--you would only be miserable.
2007-01-04 00:21:26 · answer #2 · answered by Andreamy_23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your dilemma, sweetheart. I have raised 2 sons.
You follow your dreams, not your father's. You can never be happy or successful living someone else's dream.
I've lived in LA and Hollywood, and I just want you to be ready for the tough place to make it, that it is.
I'm not trying to dissuade you, but I can't stress how important it is to get your college degree. This will bring you a lot more respect in a very tough business. There are many "wanna be" actors and models, but only a few with college degrees. They'll place you in a higher category due to this, thus opening a few more doors for you. Plus, if you can't make it, or lose interest, you'll always have a means of making a good living.
As for your telling your dad that you're gay, you'll instinctively know when that time is right, and you'll feel much better after you do.
2007-01-04 00:21:12 · answer #3 · answered by nova30180 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
which ever makes you happy
2007-01-04 00:09:29 · answer #4 · answered by save an egg crack, a smile 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋