I have an 8 year old son. My self and my husband never indulge in sex. we had done it 9 years back. both of us are very happy not indulging in sex. and we both love each other very much. our urge for sex is very low. Now is this normal? We at times wonder, are we leading a normal life? Should we consult a doctor? or is it ok so long as we don't feel any need for it and are happy?
2007-01-03 16:01:04 · 15 answers · asked by ragini b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hats off to both of you! I'm married for 25 years & we indulge in sex if not daily but definatelly 4-5 times in a week. Cant think of no sex for such a long period as you two. If you feel happy without indulging in sex its ok dont consult any doctor but ask your husband if he feels ok with such a life without sex . However I will say
Sex is very important part of a married life it is not only all people here think so even courts of India think the same way that's why refusal of sex by any partner in a married life amounts to cruelty a ground for Judicial separation & Divorce. Now for the benefit of sex I would like all the people living in India who have visited this question to please check the Delhi edition of Times Of Indian dated 22/12/2006. There is a elaborate article regarding the benefits of sex based on the British Medical Research. Briefly I can say the artricle speaks about how sex can help in reducing extra body fat, improve sense of smell, improve bones & muscles , prevent cold/flu, prevent heart ailments, boost immunity, relief pains headaches/migrines, reduce depression & best for overall health. Keeping in mind such research work on the benefits of sex & on personal grounds I will say Sex is best for body & mind for all the individuals & should be done regulary by all married couples irrespective of their age.
2007-01-03 16:43:58 · answer #1 · answered by bisexualmale s 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Though I am on the older end of the spectrum, I have gone out with people older than me, and the 40 year olds are in a different stage of life than a 31 year old such as me. I would not rule out the chance of possibly getting to know him better, but I would really hope that sex is the last thing on his mind. If it is, run away. But if it's a genuine guy that wants to play games(You can work 40+ hours a week and still play games regularly), and simply wants the company of someone to watch movies with, go to sporting events, go out and do fun things like carnivals, concerts, DOES NOT do drugs, and is a very casual drinker, then I would say keep your guard up but give him a chance. I don't think dating him would be a great idea, but if you two can remain friends for at least 6 months, don't get into fights, and he doesn't push sex, then yes, go for it! Find out his baggage and if he's a hornball or not first. Though there are age extremes, it is just a number and I've known 40 year old women preferring 55-60 year old men for whatever reason.
2016-03-14 01:19:55 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Though it sounds a little starnge and surprising that you two (!) do not have urge for sex, it is also heartening to note that two (!) you are pretty happy with the situation and continue to love each other. I do not know what exactly the issue is? I mean, WHY COMPLAINT?
It may be normal but it is not an acceptable 'normal'. Love & Intimacy must find expression through sex in married couples and at your age you must be sexually very active. May be you two are working and return home exhausted or could be that you have lost interest in sex due to certain other reasons, including monotony. It could also be due to the fact that after the birth of the child, initially, you were too occupied with the childcare and afterwards his presence or your cosciousness regarding the 'growing-kid-in-the house' prevents you to induldge.
It would be better if you two discuss the aspect and refreshen &b revive your sexual activities. It would be appropriate to experiment, innovate and fantacise. This would not only strengthen the emotional bond but will also help you to release & relieve. In addition to that, sex a very good physical work out and cardiac exercise as well.
2007-01-03 17:15:57 · answer #3 · answered by sharma.kulbhushan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are both happy and things are good this way, why worry about it? You have a good marriage and are happy. That is something many dont have. Dont look for a problem where there isnt one.
Lastly, who cares what others find normal. I mean, you are dealing with a society that can find a way to normalize and condone or justify almost anything, from divorce because someone snores to cheating for the fun of it to having sex with animals or kids. Trust me, the last thing I really care about is if the world thinks me normal or not. Be happy you have a good marriage.
2007-01-03 17:02:11 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your wondering, it means there's a problem. Sex is not the #1 most important thing in a marriage, but it is one of the most important things. It's a basic human need & you both should be having sex on a normal basis. That's just the way it is. You both probably have low libido & are so busy with your daily lives that you forget about sex. You should seek some counseling to get you both on track.
2007-01-03 16:53:04 · answer #5 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex is good for marriage and also a good way to relieve stress. maybe you guys can try having sex in awkward places just to make it interesting. i have been married 8 years and we have sex several times per week. maybe you can openly talk aboutit with him and if you both agree see a dec or read a book about it. you are too young not to have sex
2007-01-03 16:33:41 · answer #6 · answered by Devil Dog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are happy with your situation and do nut have any problem for not having sex , then theeis no problem at all. but you must ask this to your husband ,because sometimes he may be interested in sex. and u know , as u r happy with this , there are a lot of people who had lot of problems with the same situation. and when comparing it u r great. i dont know whether my answer have satisfied u. any way be happy and love each other byee.
2007-01-03 18:42:48 · answer #7 · answered by jithumon83 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a happy marriage without sex is unusual, but anything is possible in this world. So, if it works for the two or you, its normal.
2007-01-03 16:58:05 · answer #8 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes it's normal
only you know what you want, so do what makes you two happy. you don't have to copy the rest of the world and play by their rules.
2007-01-03 17:23:08 · answer #9 · answered by Twinkle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that's normal, if by normal you mean typical.
If you're happy, then what's the problem?
2007-01-03 16:53:05 · answer #10 · answered by D.A.L. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋