I never look down on anyone for never being married, why do women feel so insecure about this? I mean heck , if you didn't meet someone you like, why marry them ?
It's funny how people look down on single women in their 30's, I bet a lot of those same women wish they were single.
2007-01-03 15:59:18 · 21 answers · asked by godzillasagoodman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We were talking about this just yesterday.
Years ago if you weren't married by 19years of age you were considered a spinster, "left on the shelf"
Today it's the exact opposite, if you marry too young, your a loser with no other life choices.
I don't know any women who feel unlucky or bad about themselves because they never married, just the opposite.
I know plenty of single women (of 30 plus years) who consider themselves lucky never to have gone through three divorces.....
2007-01-03 16:05:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It appears that your attitude getting in the way of your life. 40 never married "moral" does not drink? I do view you as cold. It may not be true but that would be the view of a guy from this description. The messages being sent include, Cannot allow someone into her life, She is afraid of relationships, Her morality is getting in the way of her being a little fun, Probably will take many many dates before she is physical which is boorish at 40. Fear of failure does not allow her to try things much less the leap of faith to let someone in. Are any of these things close? These views may not apply but more often than not they do. I have known a woman for almost 30 years who had a checklist for her relationships. She is now 55 and never found that guy. Please don't do that to yourself. The fear of a breakup is no reason to avoid relationships. Take a chance on love. BTW- your profile on YA seems very much as you described yourself. Does not allow messaging, does not allow email, is not allowing anyone to become her contact. Why so guarded? There are plenty of people on the box with poor intent but there are many more who will be your friends. Be cautious in your communication but at some point you should consider letting someone in.
2016-03-29 06:52:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They probably think they missed out on something,which she could ask most married women and find out she hasn,t missed out on anything.Some women don,t need a man to complete their life...As far as what people think?just tell them if you ever meet anyone that can take care of you better than you can take care of yourself,thats when you will marry...I don,t look at women that is not married unlucky,they are having more fun than the married ones,they can go out have fun,go home and not have to put up with a man snoring,and washing their dirty socks and underware.Sometimes I envy them...Them lucky women!
2007-01-03 16:06:55 · answer #3 · answered by slickcut 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm 29, have never been married (oh, and YEAH, I'M A SINGLE MOM), and I'm relieved! ALL of my married friends are regretting getting married so young; not a single one of them is in a healthy, loving relationship. As a matter of fact, they all call their single friends incessantly to whine about their marriages. Ugh. I'm perfectly content to keep going on my own; if I find the right man, then I suppose I will get married. I see it as a lifetime commitment, so I'm definitely in no rush.
2007-01-03 16:04:56 · answer #4 · answered by bcs_boadicea 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why do men feel unlucky if they ARE married? It's really an extreme reaction that isn't based in logic.
A lot of times, it comes from pressure from family members. And if it isn't marriage, it's something else. My whole family thinks I'm "unnatural" because I don't want kids. I don't really care. I know myself, and they simply aren't taking the time to understand my perspective. So, they pressure me.
2007-01-03 16:02:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's better to be single wishing you were married than married wishing you were single. I think women need to be happy where they're at. That makes them more attractive.
2007-01-03 16:02:27 · answer #6 · answered by kakolikapiha 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
lol, they look down on them in their 30's? who are "they" and "they" need to get a life. there is nothing wrong with establishing your career and enjoying the freedoms of being single in your 20's. many decades left after 30 for settling down and raising a family. more power to those gals that enjoyed and made the most of their 20's!!
2007-01-03 16:06:10 · answer #7 · answered by bb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Society tends to romanticize marriage for women as the ultimate fantasy and the ultimate goal in life. If a woman is unmarried or with no children, society makes it seem that she hasn't fulfilled her role as a woman. I personally don't see it this way, but no one wants to be all alone for the rest of their lives.
2007-01-03 16:04:56 · answer #8 · answered by Lana L. 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They see themselves as unattractive or left out. Like they will be the old lady with a million cats that she calls kids. Some people like the idea while others are mortified that they may not have a special someone to share the rest of their lives with. I think its a smart move to wait until you're sure. There are too many divorces these days...
2007-01-03 16:03:41 · answer #9 · answered by Eruthiadwen J 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
i dont want to get married, i think being married is unluck in the sense that children or legacy is the only positive thing about it, the rest is headache especially if you found the wrong man,there is absolutely nothing wrong about being single, happy and independent with your life, as long as you do what is needed to be done in life
2007-01-03 16:02:26 · answer #10 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋