My boyfriend has NEVER slept in a bed with anyone else for an extended period of time before me and he is now in his 30’s. He hasn’t been able to sleep at all when I am next to him.
We have been trying for many months but he is now sleep deprived. He sleeps the entire night when I am not in bed with him. He does not drink coffee or anything. He sleeps fine when I am not there and has never had issues sleeping. I think its just that another person is next to him. I do wake up a couple times a night to go to the bathroom and he wakes up every time. Then he is not able to fall asleep again.
Did you ever experience this? If so how did you solve it?
Thank you
2007-01-03 15:50:29 · 9 answers · asked by bellpepperonion 1 in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Other - General Health Care
It's not easy. The most I've spend with a girlfriend is three weeks consecutively.
Here is what has worked for me:
1. King bed. I know that's not a great option for most, but I got lucky and found one. Craigslist.com often sells them at decent prices.
2. Or, both of you have your own blanket, sheet. Just a small thing, but it might give him a bit of "privacy" and comfort.
3. Let him sleep in the place where he will be least disturbed by you getting up and heading to the bathroom or turning on a light. Sleep closest to the door, depending on what your set up is.
4. Let me go to sleep first. Maybe if you join him later, he will be passed out and comfy. With luck even if you wake him up he will be drowsy.
5. Have him drink Chamomille tea. Works as a sleep aid. And maybe some nights he can try Valerian (an all natural sleep pill)
6. Keep your distance. Maybe cuddling up for sleep won't help, so keep to your side and let him have his. Try some noise distraction. I sleep well with a fan on or a television- perhaps the sound will drone out your presence (I don't mean that to sound mean, but maybe it's so hard for him to sleep with you there that he needs some distractive noise to help him to sleep. Just an idea, I don't know how that helps/hurts his sleep).
I also find making love before sleep helps a lot ;)
2007-01-03 15:56:48 · answer #1 · answered by mrjohntesh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend who dated an older guy with the same bizarre complex, he would go sleep on the couch because he couldnt sleep near her. If he can get to a doctor that could help temporarily with sleep that would be great and eventually he could trick his mind into not having a problem with it, otherwise try some over the counter sleep aide pills or a dose and a half of nyquil he'll sleep like a baby and wont be able to protest to you being in the same bed.
2007-01-03 15:54:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well where I am it is 214am and im wide awake... i was a bit nocturnal before getting pregnant and than went back to days the first 2 months and now im 10 weeks and nocturnal again. Sometimes it is so hard to fall asleep and get comfortable! I dont have a big baby bump yet so have found it comfortable to lay on my side with my leg up kinda making a pocket for my stomache lol. I do however know that pregnant woman should sleep on their left side. There is a major vein on your right side that the baby can put pressure on and cause circulation problems. So always keep a pillow between your legs ( this makes your hips straight) and sleep on the left.
2016-05-23 01:29:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just takes time to adjust to someone else in the bed with you. I drink the sleepytime extra tea but it just took months to get used to sleeping with someone else. It's not weird A lot of people have trouble adjusting to sharing a bed and suddenly aquiring other people's sleep habits. Just try sleeping aids or something relaxing until then.
2007-01-03 16:02:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
After years of the same situation, YES, we solved this. We now have seperate beds. I know it's not convenient, you can still have your fun in his or your bed, when it's time to sleep just go your seperate ways. You don't have to be all snuggled up spooning together to make the relationship work. Both of you being happy is what's important. Niether one of you can be happy if he's sleep deprived.
Try it, it's not so bad!!
2007-01-03 15:54:43 · answer #5 · answered by sixcannonballs 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has some insecurity problems. He's in his thirty's and has never slept with ANYONE before you? Even if he was a virgin before you I find that strange unless he has some sort of sleeping disorder. Seriously, sounds like he doesn't trust you. Maybe something has happened to him years before he met you and he's not sharing. I'm sure there is something. You need to pry more. He's hiding something.
2007-01-03 15:57:49 · answer #6 · answered by Angela 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get two full sized beds and put a nightstand in between them, you may be apart, but will still be in the room together. It may take some time, but gradually he will adjust to a new nighttime routine..........
2007-01-03 15:58:48 · answer #7 · answered by debi_0712 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a tempupedic mattress, he wont even feel you move, promise.
2007-01-03 15:53:59 · answer #8 · answered by nancy v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok dats weird but cani ask u a question is he a virgin?!
2007-01-03 15:52:55 · answer #9 · answered by Kitty 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋