I have a 2 yr. old who will be 3 yr.'s old when my next child will be born. Can anyone share their experiences they had the first few days with an older child and newborn?
2007-01-03 15:30:44 · 10 answers · asked by gloriaortiz101396 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Honestly, It will be pretty rough! My two are exactly that age difference apart. I had just gotten to the "easy" part with my three year old (potty trained, started pre-school)and along comes this new born. I guess the hardest part was that It was harder than I thought it would be and it threw me for a loop. I guess there was probably some PPD there too. My advice is this, have some help! Either your husband or mother (or both) You'll want someone to help w/housework and errands so that you can be super mommy for the next week. Your 3 yr old will adjust, but will want lot's of attention! Involve him or her w/baby as much as they want and don't forget to baby them a little. Get lot's of rest and if you can get away for an hour or two that would be good too. Even the grocery is a treat at that point. Hope this helps. You may be overwhelmed @ first, but it gets easier and is so rewarding!! Best Wishes to your growing Family!
2007-01-03 15:47:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first son was two and half when his brother was born. I still can hear him saying over and over " hes looking at me! hes looking at me! hes looking at me!" when he got to meet his little bro for the first time. I think he was so amazed that 'the baby' was a real living breathing person...who was making eye contact with him..It was so cute
He did get jealous and did little things like try to sit in the car seat or lay down on the change table..saying 'two babies, two babies' I guess its hard for them at that age.
Once when the baby was a month old or so, my older child snuck out of his own room and went into my bedroom where the baby was sleeping in his crib. I was on the phone in the living room, but had a funny feeling something was wrong....and I was correct because I found my baby's face, and the crib, covered in lipstick! His brother painted him all up. AAACK what a mess
2007-01-03 23:47:11 · answer #2 · answered by paradox is interesting 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first son had just turned 2 when my other baby boy was born. he is now 7 weeks old and my 2 year old loves him to death. He is not jealous at all, he loves to help me change him and feed him and he like trys to take care of him. But I have to watch closely because he does try to pick him up sometimes. I guess it's different for all families but with me it's a wonderful experience. It's also really tiring.
2007-01-03 23:52:21 · answer #3 · answered by silknlacechick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember that your kids are a priority, but at the same time I hope that you have a gentle and kind person close by so you and your other half can go out and relax together. Because your little ones are going to try your patients often. Your older one is now not the baby of the family. He/she might take offense to that fact and get upset and or try to find ways to get your attention, new ways old ways, some way of taking the attention away from your new born. But don't fret, it will work out, just remember to have patients and give them both lots of attention.
2007-01-03 23:43:07 · answer #4 · answered by mykd4sound 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first two were 21 mo. apart. The older one, of course was curious in the beginning. They grew up to be great friends. I had to watch out that the older one did not throw toys into the baby's crib or playpen, tho. He thot his baby sister wanted to play so he'd toss heavy toys in! Yikes! Anyway, be sure and let your sister or mom or even mother in law come to visit and let you get some rest for as many days as they will help out. They can prepare good meals for you and keep daddy happy with a clean house, laundry and full belly! lol I believe, like the old days that women should have a few days of good rest to let their bodies get back their strength. I mean, we walk thru the valley of death to give birth! LOL So let me get back on my feet. Have a great time with your expanding family. God Bless. :)
2007-01-03 23:49:04 · answer #5 · answered by DT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife had to be in the hospital for 2 days. During this days the elder one coundnt see his mother. The first reaction was, he cried when he saw his mother in the hospital having a new born brother. He was reluctant to see the baby. At home he tried to be with her mother always. Finally he said "I dont want this brother and throw him away I need a sister". We had to keep our eyes always on him coz he several tims tried to pinch the baby. He pretended that he loves but I am still keeping the eye on him when he reach his brother.
2007-01-03 23:41:22 · answer #6 · answered by sanju 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our first son was 4 when the second one came along. He ignored him completely for about 4 months. Now that he's six months old and sarting to get around on his own and sit up, the older one plays with him constantly.
2007-01-03 23:37:10 · answer #7 · answered by Lucky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not to scare you but i would watch your three year old close. they are not old enough to realize that it is real and not a doll. when i had my second, my 2 1/2 year old(now 7) bit the baby's finger but not meaning to hurt her. transitioning from 1 to 2 children was very difficult for me. but from 2 to 3 children was a walk in the park. everyone is different though. and every child is different. congratulations and good luck!!!
2007-01-03 23:46:47 · answer #8 · answered by blondie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In two words: hectic and tiring. I had a 7 year old, a 14 month old and a newborn. Needless to say it was a rough transition!!
2007-01-03 23:33:18 · answer #9 · answered by momofthreemiracles 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will be so much easier it will amaze you. You are an experienced parent now; you will find yourself equipped to deal with it.
2007-01-04 00:34:12 · answer #10 · answered by toomanycommercials 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋