Husband always wants to have intense political discussions?

Question

My husband has this annoying habit of starting very intense, conspiracy theorist type discussions with me every time I walk in the door after work. I work a highly intense job in the fraud department of a credit card company and the last thing I want to do when I get home from work is listen to someone else rant and rave. My husband gets mad at me and storms off when I tell him I'm too stressed to deal with anymore drama. He says its just because I don't want to listen to him; he also doesn't believe that my job is as stressful as I say. He's completing his bachelor's degree in computer science and is at the top of his class so you'd think he'd have enough to occupy himself. I've tried explaining my point to him but he refuses to listen. What else can I do?

Answer 1

Amazingly enough, I'm going to tell you that you NEED to make it a point to engage him. If you don't you may eventually find yourself in a position of wishing you had. He's bored mentally and is looking for some stimulation. If he doesn't get it from you, he may eventually begin to feel as though you just aren't interested -- in him, and don't REALLY care. I went back to school after I retired. I was shocked, amazed and kind of impressed at how many young "ladies" there were who would try and impress me by flaunting and flirting. Be thankful he wants to "talk" to you. Relationships are about giving as well as receiving. Sometimes it IS work, but if both are committed and willing to meet eachother half way. Try and set up a scheduled "date" for his conversations and for your sake and sanity, hold him to those "dates" only. Good luck. It will improve eventually.

Answer 2

I think you might be married to my ex husband! As you can tell from a key word in that sentence, I don't have a good answer for you; I just know what it feels like to be in your shoes. Maybe you can set a boundary for yourself. For instance, a rule that you need an hour from when you walk in the door to just get settled and unwind, and that then you'd be better able to devote the sort of cognitive energy he's after. Seems like you've already tried to tell him just how exhausted you are, and with no results. With my ex, he went in and out of this habit. Maybe you'll get a break soon. Could be that he's really after praise -- maybe he needs to feel cherished and respected for his wisdom. That's a big deal to some men, not that I'm finding fault with it.

Answer 3

My concept is this would be a particularly informal communicate board,do not take it too for my section,they don't be attentive to you,they have not met you?some human beings somewhat have an schedule-each and every each and every now and then I do to,or i opt to be particularly stupid to lighten it up slightly and of direction each and every each and every now and then I purely opt to scream yet then I tone it down a notch-you be attentive to,human beings get in moods.Press the no digital mail me factor.

Answer 4

Hah! Sounds like my husband.He's also into computer science.. I usually just listen for a few minutes and walk away. He doesn't get offended when I walk away. He'll just talk to anyone who will listen.
I'll watch Jon Stewart with him and indulge him a bit, but we always have unsuspecting guests here at my house so I introduce them to my spouse..

Answer 5

Intentionally disagree with him and take the opposite side. After a while he will stop coming to you for the answers he wants to hear.

Answer 6

just try to listen to him and make him understand you care about his opinion. that is all you can do.

Answer 7

jump his bones when you walk in...that'll shut him up quick