Go with your heart. Your marriage to him could be stronger than it was the first time. You have both changed and should probably attend some counseling with a faith based counselor if you are a believer. If you love him, be with him. Go with your heart. Never give up! Take care!
2007-01-03 14:50:25
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answered by SillyKimmie 4
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I think if I were in your situation I would move on. Just because the two of you aren't together doesn't mean he can't be involved in his child's life....Matter of fact he SHOULD be a part of her life, regardless of your relationship status.
I don't know why he left, but it seems to me he has some commitment issues. He leaves you and now he is going to walk away from the woman he left you for, the woman that he WAS going to marry? I see a pattern, not a very healthy one.
I would agree if you allow him back into your life, you are setting yourself up. I wouldn't want to do that to myself, after finally getting over the break up......getting back into the same situation. Then there is the issued of Trust. Could you ever trust him? Completely? I believe that is what relationships are founded on. It there is not trust, there is no real relationship. Anyway that's my two cents, for what it is worth.
2007-01-03 15:00:44
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answered by deb 2
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I would say if you dont think your husband was a good husband and dont think that he could really change then dont get back with him. However, if he was a good husband when the two of you were together then maybe you could give him another chance, just keep your guard up some more for a while until you know. If you think you have more doubt in you then you should probably go with your gut, even if that means saying no to him. You need to do whats best for you. Dont let him hold you back though, you can probably do better.
2007-01-03 14:53:28
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answered by Monica 2
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sometimes it is hard to believe someone who has hurt us, and once we move past that initial shock and hurt, we do not for any reason want to risk being hurt again. and we may well be just setting ourselves up for more of the same. depends on why he has decided to work on it, if it is just because the other woman has left him, and he finds himself alone, than it would not be worth it, as as soon as he finds someone else he will be gone. what are his reasons, did the other woman leave him? maybe the other woman is the one who wants to break it off with him. he certainly didn't care about leaving u and his kid a year ago, so i do not think it is because of the child. i say if he really thought anything of u in the first place, that he would never have left u in the first place for her. think he is insecure and just has to be with someone. no i think u should go on with your life without this man, he will only keep hurting u, u are for the most part over the hurt, don't let him come back and do it to u all over again. as it has to be u he loves and u have to be the reason he comes back, can't be because of the kid, or because the other woman has dumpted him. chances are he won't be forthright and honest about what happened between him and her. ask him why he wants to come back? if it's any other reason than he loves u, than it will never work out.
2007-01-04 00:48:24
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answered by jude 7
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I am a guy, who had two children with a woman, who left me on Chrismas Eve....just 2 months shy of 4 years marriage. She left me AND our two children (boy and girl) for another man. I was heartbroken needless to say.... suddenly I found myself to be a single father with two children in DIAPERS (aged 1.5 and 2.5)
After about 6 months she tried to come back to me and the kids.
She knew she made a mistake and wanted me to take her back.
As Much as I wanted to....Oh so badly, I knew deep down in my heart that if she could do it once, she could do it again, and I was NOT going to give her that chance. She made her bed, and would have to now lay in it. She has since been married four times, and had more children. She keeps cheating on all of her men. I now know I made the right choice. When did all this happen? Dec 1986 the kids are now 21 and 22 years old
2007-01-03 14:54:48
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answered by John P 3
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That's a really tough one to get past. I'm not sure I could do it, but only you know if you can. What is his character normally like? Is this affair of his a big surprise? Or is he usually a selfish jerk? If it is out of character, perhaps you can make it work with a lot of counseling and effort on both parts. If not, drop him like a bad habit and move on. If this is the case, good luck in your next relationship. I hope you find happiness either way.
2007-01-03 14:53:03
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answered by DivaDynamite 3
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Oh my god girl!!! Do not take him back! PLEEEASE!!! Why did he leave you? To be with this other woman?
I know this saying is very old but you have to know that there are many fih in the sea. I am only 26 years old and I have been in love only a couple times. But never once did I think that I could not find sombody better because there is always somebody out there that is better! Hold out for somebody who will ALWAYS out you and your baby first and never doubt. This guy does not deserve you or your time.
2007-01-03 14:52:23
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answered by Anonymous
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Keep close to him, because he is still the father of your child. I wouldn't get in a relationship yet though. Like boyfriend and girlfriend. You need some time. And he should too. He just suddenly leaves you with a girl, almost marries another and wants to come back? Seems a little weird!
2007-01-03 14:50:23
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answered by Anonymous
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He thought that the grass was greener on the other side of the fence which is not always the case he left you once he will do it again move on getting back together for the sake of a child never works !!
2007-01-03 14:53:06
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answered by Anonymous
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Sweetie you need to sit down and think this out very carefully. If your gut tells you it's not right you should listen to it. Just be sure that you aren't just afraid of getting hurt again. You're right if he's coming back because of the baby then it won't last. Go very very slowly with this and make sure it's the marriage he wants and not just to be with the baby. It's not like you're denying him his baby, he'll have visitation. I too would be suspicious of anyone that is going to marry someone else one minute and then wants to be with me the next. It would make me wonder what he'll want next week.
2007-01-03 14:54:41
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answered by mjm52 4
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