Future is not looking bright...I'm scared?

Question

I really can't find what I'm good at...

Im thinking over my head thinking that My future will be fine by getting a Aston Martin......but I resantly noticed that I wouldn't be able to do this .... my grades arn't great...m average is an 84...

IM 15!!!

My parents are telling me......Son your going to take care of me when I get old right? I said, Mom I will always help you and be there,,,,,,,,,,,

Im afraid of my future....... Doesn't seem to have a light

Answer 1

It's true that you shouldn't expect to have all the answers at 15, but I'm sorry that you're feeling afraid.

Instead, I hope that you can begin to think positively about life. You're in a wonderful, exciting time of your life and should try to enjoy it a bit more. Enjoy friends, good times, laughter, music, sports, school (more on that later), etc.

Depending on what classes you're taking, an 84 average may not be bad at all. But if you think you should be doing better, work harder at it and see if you can boost those grades. Get extra help from your teachers if you need it, put in extra time if you need it, etc.

Education can be so important in terms of lifelong job/career satisfaction and earning power. You should certainly think about this as it relates to your current schooling and potential for college. If you're destined to go to college, work hard to try to get into the best schools you can that are also a good "fit" for you.

If for any reason you aren't destined for college, then still work hard in high school and do the best you can. There are many successful entrepreneurs and business owners who didn't go to high school but are smart and have good common sense, and save/spend wisely. The book "The Millionaire Next Door" gives many examples about that.

Remember that success isn't just about money...it's about family and friends. Money makes things easier, that's for sure, but it doesn't literally buy happiness.

I kid my teenage sons about taking care of me when I'm old, but I don't seriously mean it and they know it. While I'd like to believe that they'll always be supportive of me (and I do know they will be), I can't expect that they'll physically be nearby or that they will financially support me. That's why I work and save as hard as I do, so that they'll have the freedom to live their lives. If you're really concerned about your mother, and what she says to you, perhaps you should talk to her...figure out a way to let her know that you love her but that you are feeling a bit overwhelmed thinking about the responsibility of caring for her when she's older, considering that you're now only 15 and she's only xx. Hopefully she'll communicate something to you that will lighten that burden.

Be open to the world around you and see what you develop a passion for...maybe that'll be a clue about what you are meant to do. e.g. if you like cars, perhaps you could consider things ranging from autobody work to mechanic work to restoring and selling antique cars to being a car salesman to working at Ford on the production line or designing cars or in the marketing department! Just an example.

Perhaps you should meet with your school's college counselor and talk about this all a little bit, as well. Maybe you need some direction/input from someone outside of the family...someone who knows you better than those of us at Yahoo Answers! :)

Maybe some volunteer work will help you meet people, feel better about yourself and your capabilities. You truly CAN make such a positive difference in people's lives. Perhaps the people you meet, the work you do, will spark other thoughts re: areas of interest to you.

Best of luck to you. You know what? I think you're going to find your niche and it's all going to work out really well for you.

Keep pressing and thinking, but do try to enjoy your life. Enjoy each day. Your mother is lucky to have such a thoughtful son. I'm sure she's proud of you.

Answer 2

First I just want to say is do not be scared and there is MILLIONS of pepole in this world that feel the SAME way!!! You have a bit of time to figure things out about the right career for you. I say the best thing is to volunteer after school or inthe summer to get aquainted with what people actually do and is it right for you.( You could volunteer at a hospital, a real estate firm, law firm, child care center, ect just be creative. People are always willing to help and recieve help) A lot of people graduate from college and end up hating thier job. I think right now you should begin the learn about your self and question all of your hobbies and activites. Say to yourself... "What is my favorite hobby or activity?" and "Why do I love it so much?" also " Could I see myself doing this for a career?". Just relax and enjoy your time in PRODUCTIVE manner!!!

Answer 3

Until you are out and on your own, take life one day at a time and enjoy it! The future will be here before you know it. Reach out, help people, volunteer. Do something nice for your parents today because you want to, not because they asked you to. Study harder, pay more attention in school, and your grades will improve. For example, assume you have a 5 page paper due in two weeks. Write it this weekend, pretend it is due Monday. Then, on Monday, ask your teacher to look at your draft of the paper. Listen to their comments, as they are only trying to help. Then re-write the paper the way they suggested, and earn a better mark for it!

Answer 4

You don't go and have kids only to expect them to handle your retirement. Everyone has a personal responsibility to handle their own 'golden years'. The kind of pressure he's putting on you in unreasonable. You should want to help, not be bullied into it!

Tell him to invest in an IRA or Roth IRA if he's concerned about Social Security not being enough. Colonial Penn supposedly handles life insurance for seniors at minimalist rates.

BTW, how is it a 15yr old has the kind of income necessary to get an Aston Martin? Seriously, get your real estate license and get going if you want that kind of cash.

Answer 5

Don't worry. I know as you get older the pressure mounts to "figure out what you want to do with your life." I'm 26 and still figuring that out! LOL! I have a job to pay the bills (meaning it's nothing fancy but I can take care of myself) and one of these days maybe I'll figure out what I want to do when I grow up! ;)

Honestly, it's those first few years out of high school where you really start defining yourself, who you are and what you believe. A LOT of the poeple I know changed in some shape or fashion after they got out of high school. If you don't figure it out until then (or even after) don't sweat it. A lot of people go to college as 'Undeclared'. They experience what there is to experience, figure out themselves, and then pick a major. If you pick that route you won't be the first. Heck I went through seven years of school and am about to get my Masters in Communications but I can't say it's really all that interesting or what I want to do with my life. If it's your grades you are worried about, see if the school or a local organization gives free/cheap tutoring. Maybe even just a fellow student can help you understand your weak topics better.

I'm not trying to belittle you when I say this so please don't be offended. You've still got some growing up to do. There's still plenty of time to think and consider. You'll figure it out someday, don't worry. :)

Good luck. Hope you feel better.

Answer 6

What's the worst that could happen, you could get a job at the Spam factory, fall in the mixer and get eaten by half a million people. That probably won't happen, the only time I've had long-term problems have been the times I've given up trying. Accept your limitations but keep trying your best, you'll be fine.

Answer 7

U got 84 u r talented.u r bright.u can do anything. It is in ur mind.Have CONFIDENCE.There is nothing that u need to get scared of in this world.Surely u can take care of ur parents after
u attain a good professional degree.Everything will be fine.Think of present leave the future to GOD's hands.

Answer 8

Im not scared of the future at all...but my only problem is I like to bring people from my past into my future(Exes, Friends I shouldnt be friends with anymore etc.) Im an Aries with Libra rising but I think its my Scorpio Mars and Pisces Venus that make it hard for me to let go of the past and look forward to the future.

Answer 9

There's still plenty of time to work things out. Just do your best. I had similar grades in high school, but when I went to college I matured a lot and really discovered who I am. I bet it works out similarly for you.

Answer 10

I wouldn't worry about it because you are only 15. Never let your parents pressure you into something you don't want to do or aren't comfortable doing.