I just can't stand seeing this guy everyday at school! Help!!!!?

Question

There's this guy at my school, and I just hate being around him. He's an ugly person on the outside and on the inside. He's mean and inconsiderate, he brags about every little thing. (If you've seen my other ?'s about the guy that sexually harrassed me with his comments, yes it's the same guy.) Even when he's not doing anything to me, all I can think when I see him is, "@#$!^(%$!" seriously, I can't stand having him around. And after all that he's done to me in the past, I just wish he would disappear from my life, but I know that can't happen. how can I cope? thanks!

Answer 1

I haven't read your other question, but this individual is taking entirely too much time in your head. He's had some kind of interaction with you that has remained memorable, possibly even toxic.

Talk with your guidance counselor, a pastor, or even a trusted teacher. Write about your feelings in a journal. Wear a bracelet that has distinct separate pieces that you can count and every time you see him, start holding your bracelet and name each of your friends and think of their faces and your last interaction with them.

In the end, if you allow his presence to affect your ability to enjoy a day at school (even when he's not even physically there) you've permitted him a power he doesn't even possess: The power to control you and your emotions.

Take charge. This is your head, your heart, and your life.

Answer 2

Since there is nothing you can do with be rid of him at this time your going to have to and I say this with a great deal of compassion, you will have to learn how to "tune out" it will take just a bit of meditation. When he is around don't sit near him, even when or if you have to be in the same room with him, you can still find a spot away from him and let your mind take you away to somewhere else. The same way you can dwell on the negative, then you can dwell on something positive just long enough to make him disappear even though your still in the same room with him. I do it all the time at work, I have an annoying co-worker that I can't stand so I learn to make her disappear by ignoring her to death! Its my way of grabbing a little bit of heaven. You can do this with practice...he will either go away and find someone else to annoy or get really ticked off because after all no one likes to be ignored. But, you are within your rights to mental space and NO ONE has the right to envade that! If indeed he is harrassing you, then by NO means should you hesitate to report him ASAP you don't have to put up with this for a minute longer. Good Luck.

Addition: I don't know how old you are but if you are a minor you must report his harrassment immediately and even if your not a minor if he is harrassing you for everything I said about ignoring him and tuning him out report him anyway. But, if he is just an annoyance but hasn't tried to harm anyone then ignore him, treat him like a bug on a window sil.

Answer 3

You could change schools, but you shouldn't have to.

Have you put in a formal complaint about the sexual harassment? Do so! Talk to the principal and school counsellor and your parents.

In the mean time, ignore him. People only have the power over you that you let them have. Remember that. He is a horrible person that does not even deserve you looking at him, or thinking about him.

Whenever you get angry, think of something else. In the mean time, find a way to vent your anger and frustration and other negative feelings. The simplest way is to write a journal or diary and get ALL of your emotions out on paper. If you write them down, they are out of you. Then when you are done, burn the book. and throw the ashes into the garbage on garbage day and watch the garbage truck take it away, or flush the ashes into the toilet.

In the mean time, get a photo of him and put it in the freezer, and forget about it. Simple thing, but it works.

Answer 4

You shouldn't have o change schools because of him. As lame as it may seem, get your parents involved. You can't rely on the school to do everything. As far as him being annoying and bragging...there's no law saying that someone can't be annoying. Either learn to cope with him by just ignoring the situation, or state your case to him. Lay it on the table and mean what you say. You have GOT to be aggressive with it!

Answer 5

It might help to change schools but if you want to truly solve the issue I recommend talking with a school guidence councellor (if you have one) about the problems you are having with your classmate. They have programs and know of programs that can help you deal with him. If he is verbally sexually harassing you you have the right to bring it to the attention of your school principal. If he is harassing you it is almost certain that he is harassing someone else. Bringing it to the attention of the school authorities will help you but it will also help someone who isn't as strong as you who might be in the same position.

Answer 6

If it's really such a mental distraction, you might want to try just writing about it every time you get that feeling.. write about how you feel. You can leave the specifics (his name,etc) out of it but write a commentary of what you're feeling.
If you see him in the halls, think about what you will write down when you get a chance and then just "doodle" things about it later.

It may sound silly, but it can help to get your mind off of HIM.. and onto expressing yourself and analyzing your feelings. It's an outlet, and it helped me in the past.

Good luck!

Answer 7

Think of it as a character-building exercise. There's going to be times, for the rest of your life, when you're going to have to deal with being around people you can't stand. (Wait until you get into the work force!) You'll be well-practiced!

Answer 8

You need to report this boy to your principal immediately. Could you change schools if you felt that threatened. I would certainly enlist my parents to help me with this. Bullying and sexual harassment are taboo, and many institutions have zero tolerance for such behaviour. Have you parents find out legally if they can get a writ that he has to stay away from you and have no contact with you.

Answer 9

Stay away from him. I know a guy at my school that I just hate, but I used to be friends with him until I discovered how bad he is. I left his group of friends, and went to my old friends. Since then, I don't talk to him. My locker is two lockers away from him, and I just wait for him to get his books and leave before I get mine. Just ignore him.

Answer 10

Hmm..... i was in the same situation lol minus the harrasment...but luckily the boy transfered thank GOD!.... anyways as far as this boy that ur talking about...just ignore him thats all you really can do. Or you can try avoiding him w/o him knowing that ur avoiding him cuz if he finds out then thatll just make him bother u more. Or you can just tell him everything you said to us to him! he'll never know how u truly feel unless u say it to his face.