Would you marry your ex husband?

Question

My ex husband and I got divorced over 12 years ago. We were too young to get married, and only did because I got pregnant. Things did not work, we remained friends and since February last year, we´ve been dating again. He asked me to marry him again, that we are older and more mature now. I love him with all my heart. But we failed once, who knows if things will go right this time?
And there´s also my daughter. She´s 16 and absolutely hates the idea of me and her dad being together.. she sayd parents were made to live in different homes and not to be with each other. I´m confused.

Answer 1

I know a couple that did just exactly what you're talking about, and they're just as happy as can be. I personally could NOT marry my ex-wife(even the thought makes me want to gag), but if the two of you have dated now for almost a year, and it's going well, why not? You already know each other inside-out, so not a "learning experience"! Your daughter will be fine with it, I'm sure! Good Luck!! Let the wedding bells ring, in '07.

Answer 2

Do what makes YOU happy! Your daughter is only 16 and will get used to it. Sounds to me like she just doesn't want the change. The situation will grow on her. Parents were not made to live in different homes. That sounds like something a child would say. Which makes sense because she is still a child. She needs a male role model in her life.

My mother-in-law divorced my father-in-law when they were very young also. They got remarried and have been together for 34 years. Just because it didn't work out when you were younger, doesn't mean it'snot going to work out now.

I think you should marry him again. If you love him with all your heart, you should be together. It may be a little hard for your daughter to get used to it, but she will get used to it and later on, she will be so happy for the choise you made. Especially when she gets older and has children. Her children will get to go to their grandparents house.... not their grandaddy's house and their grandmother's house. It will be so much happier. Trust me.

Answer 3

Your daughter likes the idea of being with separate parents. You need to go over why it didn't work out unless the only thing was cus u were young. Did everything else work fine besides the age thing? If yes, then go for it if ur ready, but as for your daughter, she's 16 and she'll act like that even if it wasn't her dad. But then she still be happy with the fact that she'll always have the divorced parents thing going on. U know, for her own sake, and she might disagree cus she's selfish.

Answer 4

If you have forgiven him and he has forgiven you then GO FOR IT! The past is the past. The first time you got married was for all the wrong reasons, this time make sure you marry for the right reason, LOVE! You should also consider your daughters feelings but make sure she is not being selfish to you. My parents have been married for 55 years and even though they have thier share of arguments, they would not have it any other way! Alot of people get married for the convience or the idea of being happy but only you will know what truly will make you happy!

Answer 5

You dont have to get married again ( legally ), but you can stay together and find out whether it works this time around. You have been with him for 12 years and a daughter, dont you think that both of you are wiser and mature.
I suggest to give it a try for about six months to a year and then decide to marry again.

Good Luck

Answer 6

I would never in a million years consider marrying my ex husband . I divorced him for a reason the first time. I could never trust him again. He used to want to seperate. I said why, so you screw around til you get tired of it and then come back to me. I don't think so. I stayed married for 21 years of a bad marriage. My kids wanted us to get divorced years before, but I couldn't because of the money.

If I had it all to do over again. I wouldn've left and found a way to get by without their lying cheating father and all of us would've been better off.

Answer 7

Please, do not let your daughter run or confuse your life. She could cause you a lot of problems, however and it could cause her some problems. She does need to be considered. Parents were NOT made to live in different homes. She needs to to understand this. It is your life and I also agree that you should consider it very strongly to remarry. She will probably be gone in two years and what will YOU have then? Just some things to consider. (No, I would never marry my ex) lol

Answer 8

Why not continue to date for awhile and see how things go?

Sometimes absence makes the heart grow fonder and many wonder what could have been when do not pursue.

You cannot base your relationship and possible marriage on the thoughts of your child but on what you know your relationship is and can be.

Something once caused you to fall in love with each other, obviously there is something there.
Maybe to return?


Best wishes!

Answer 9

only you know the answer to this. I can offer a story my husbands parents divorced when he was a young baby. His mom raised him without a father around, no support from his father. When my husband was 28 his dad came back around. His parents started to date again. My husbands now 34 his parents REMARRIED this past spring. I myself could never remarry a man who left me to raise his child alone all those years. You need to think hard about how you feel about him now. I could never remarry a ex husband but, people do. It's totally up to you.

Answer 10

depends on if u have been able to resolve what went wrong with the marriage in the first place. but older and more mature means alot in being able to go back and see where u went wrong. seems as if u have retained a good relationship, so yes i do think it would work, but your daughter isn't so sure, maybe she doesn't like changes in her life.