2007-01-03 14:03:11 · 23 answers · asked by dwan j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think it has something to do with what they have at home, referring to their husband. I have been thinking about this alot lately because the man that I am dating is divorced for this reason. His ex cheated on him. He is a wonderful man and amazing father. He is fantastic in bed, passionate, sexy and handsome. He makes a better than average salary and has a very good career. He comes from a good family and was well raised. He is funny, etc., etc., etc. So what am I missing? I kept asking myself this. There has to be something that I am blind to that would make his ex-wife cheat.
I never cheated on my ex-husband even though he always cheated on me, etc. So it was hard for me to think that a woman would cheat on her husband.
Well this is what I have learned, she cheats because she has emotional issues that are unresolved. I learned this by learning more about his ex-wife and from married girl friends that I have gone out with dancing, etc. Some women have a problem with needing the attention from a lot of men, like some sort of reassurance that they are still able to attract men. They drink and party. They flirt. They love getting the attention that these men give them. They flirt hardcore because they feel safe because they are married and not really on the market to find someone so that they are not alone in life. They do realize what they have at home, but it isn't enough for their emotional issues with self esteem and stuff like that.
Don't ask yourself what you did. Don't think you are less of a man or couldn't offer her enough. You will meet a woman without these issues and totally rock her world and she will appreciate you for who you are. She will be more like you and she will never cheat on you. It's not a pattern of women that you are attracted to. It is a problem she has and only she can fix it.
It's not you. I am sorry that this happened to you but don't let it destroy your self esteem.
2007-01-03 14:26:07 · answer #1 · answered by MW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a good question since most people want to get "everything" from their partners as though their partners must be held responsible for their partners happiness, or unhappiness we all men or women need to e responsible for our own satisfaction and or happiness, if someone is not happy or is unsatisfied should be honest and leave before causing such a big mess in everybody else's lives (husbands, children, wives) other motivation that cheaters have is simple and plain they are miserable inside and just do not care about anybody else's feelings.
2007-01-03 22:16:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because most people don't value the vows they've made.
It's very sad!
I think that soceity has made it such a 'normal' thing now; right alongside divorce.
I have been with my husband for over three years and I know because of my beliefs and values; that cheating is not even an option for me EVER.
There is always another way; people just don't seem to care enough to make their marriages work anymore.
2007-01-03 22:10:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Because they give in to temptation. But so do men. It's awful, and I hope you haven't had to go through that. There's honest men and women and cheating men and women. It has less to do with the gender and more to do with the person.
2007-01-03 22:32:53 · answer #4 · answered by sickblade 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in your eyes she has everything in hers she sees it differently. still doesn' t give her the right to cheat. want to be with other men get out of the marriage. look on the bright side there is some one out there that will appreciate a man like you. get on with life. it is too short to fret the little stuff
2007-01-03 22:09:43 · answer #5 · answered by sharon r 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
women USUALLY cheat because the marriage is lacking in some area. If they had it all and were truly HAPPY of course they would not cheat duh. Cheating is never the answer i've never done it but the women i know who have cheated all said they needed the attention.
2007-01-03 22:22:02 · answer #6 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they're idiots!!!! pure and simple. But for real, I have never met anyone (man or woman) who has it all. If they had it all then they would know that love is all that they need. Real ,true love. Some people don't know what that is.
2007-01-03 22:27:28 · answer #7 · answered by lynnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
too much time on their hands, bad character, low impulse control, and in general just being selfish. but everyone has their own reality and what one considers having everything they need may not be the way they see it at all.
2007-01-04 09:52:37 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people who cheat have never really grown-up...they're immature.
Children don't exercise good judgment and nether do men or women who cheat.
2007-01-03 22:16:25 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe they are being ignored at home... and someone isn't listening to them... or maybe her hubby or bf have gotten really boring... maybe her hubby or bf rather watch tv or sleep than spend time talking with her... but back at you too... Why when the men have everything at home why do they cheat.... hummmmm
2007-01-03 22:23:35 · answer #10 · answered by Autumns Destany 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋