Is 18 to young to get married?

Question

Need advice, love the b/f, been with him for years....he proposed....i wanna say yes, but im worried i might miss out on other things in life, not necesarily other guys, just expierences being alone and on my own in the world...advice? please!

Answer 1

In my opinion, yes 18 is too young to get married. If 2 people truly love each other (regardless of how long they have been together at that age) then it won't hurt to wait a couple of more years. Get engaged, set a date and get married when you're both a bit older and or matured and are positive that getting married and being with that person the rest of your life is what you really want. People take marriage too lightly these days, it is a very big deal and commitement plays a very important role. As time goes by people change and so does what they want, what you want now at 18 may be totally different to what you may want when your 30....all im saying is that if you 2 love each other get engaged. There should be no rush

Answer 2

You need to do what your heart tells you to do.....no matter what everyone else says. Speaking from experience....got married 2 weeks after my 19th birthday. You will be growing up together. in 10 years you will be two different people. You have to make the decision to love each other no matter what. if you do decide to get married.....wait as long as you can to have children! That way when the itch to go act wild and crazy hits....and it will....you can do it together....At least make sure you are covered on the financial end too. We struggled for a long time. Also KEEP GOOD CREDIT!!!! At 18 I know good credit is the last thing on your mind....but it will make thing SOOOO much easier on your finances, which will in turn put less of a strain on the marriage.

Anyways....whats wrong with a long engagement? The only reason we got married so soon was me having control freak parents. I was 19, engaged, and they still imposed a 12 o clock curfew ( I might have sex) lol the same thing that happens after midnight can happen before! ;)

Answer 3

Well Melissa not trying to sound to negative but I married my first wife at your age and it only lasted for 2 years. In my opinion it is far to young to marry, I realize that my grandparents married at ages 17 and 15 but it was a far different world in them days and people took their vows much more serious than today. So if you want to accept this proposal you can do so but I would recommend that you have a long discussion with your man and tell him that it won't be for another 3 or 4 years before you walk down the aisle. You have many years of living and your right when you say that you'll feel like you've missed out on things that your friends will be experiencing. Damn this is making me feel really old. Ha! But sad fact is that although you both may feel that you've fond your life partner and soulmate, you are both pretty darn young and need to experience the world before making a lifelong decision like this. Communication is the most important thing in any relationship and this is what you and your man need to do, communicate your fears hopes and dreams of the future. And be open minded and mature when having this discussion. Best of luck to you and remember that you have plenty of time to make walk down the aisle so don't rush it.

Answer 4

There are people who marry early and have long and loving marriages. To be honest with you I think that it is too young for you to say yes. Give yourself a chance to live life and to grow up... you don't even know who you are at 18. I hope you are planning some kind of schooling. I seriously recommend that you look into college. Man, life is just the best and if you get married to the first guy that asks you then you are going to be pigeon-holed in that life forever... it may be a good life but you should live for yourself for a while before you give yourself to someone as a wife. You don't have to dump your fella but I would but the breaks on or at least agree to a long engagement- at least a year... see what happens but at 18 it is not selfish at all to put yourself first. Good Luck to you.

Answer 5

I'm 23 now. I got married to my husband right after I turned 19. I've never regretted it, although I do feel sometimes like I didn't have time to experience life. But then again, what else could I experience that would be so much better. Nothing really. I might've gone to college longer and had some other boyfriends, but I know I wouldn't have ended up with my husband. If you want to be with this guy for the rest of your life, then GO for it!!! If you're not, then don't. It's as simple as that.

You know, back in the day, a lot of women married and started families when they were only 14. My friend's grandmother married when she was 14 and she was with him the rest of his life!

Answer 6

I got married when I was 18 and that was 2 years ago. Its rough but we also have a child together... There are good times and bad times but we love each other... Don't get married just because it seems like thats what comes next because in the long run it more than likely won't work out

Answer 7

It all depends on you and your boyfriend mindset and maturity. Your 18 there other things out there to experience. I think you should give it some time and then if in 2 years you feel like you are ready to get married then go ahead. When i was your age i thought i would have been married at 21. Im glad i didn't get married because there are other things out their to experience first.

Answer 8

Things may change... u need to make sure ur 100% certain u want to b with him for the rest of ur life.
Also its best off that u have a steady job etc b4 u think bout marriage because u never kno wht'l happen.
18 isnt too young 2 get married if ur sure about it. Have a talk with ur parents/friends etc b4 u answer

Answer 9

Yes, wait until you're at least 20. Girls mature way faster than boys and by the time you're 20, you'll most likely have left him in the dust. Tell him you'll marry him, but after your 20th birthday. This will placate him and also give you time to back out should you find this to be true. But do yourself the favor and finish growing up first.

Answer 10

Yes, it's too young. You have a lot of living to do and a lot of people to meet. It doesn't mean you don't love each other but maybe you could have a really long engagement - like after college or in four years when you are a little more settled.