She has already started manipulating, i.e. "I can't wait till you earn more so I can get more", "if I take the baby out of the country, what are you going to do about it?" This is going to be ugly and I don't know if it would go easier if my son tries to get joint custody, or bother at all as she will always play games.
2007-01-03 14:01:42 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She ws 2 wks when they split, is now 5 mos. Also, no probl him assuming his resp. financial or otherwise. You people have all been so wonderful, thank you so very much for the thoughtful answers and advice. Firstly, sounds like we will have to find the money for a lawyer, no doubt about that! Thanks again.
2007-01-04 09:33:18 · update #1
He needs to go file the appropriate paperwork NOW, so there is no doubt as to his interest in being a part of the child's life. Then he needs to make sure his name goes on the birth certificate.
If he has the child 50% of the time, he won't have to pay child support. Encourage him to be an active parent.
2007-01-03 14:04:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sounds immature and malicious. The child is every bit your son's child and worth fighting for. The ex can be arrested for a Federal crime if she attempts to take a baby out of the country if that is not part of the cusody settlement.
It might be a little premature to be planning custody at 2 weeks pregnant. Some babies do not always make it to term. Could it be that the wife is inventing this pregnancy to get an emotional reaction? Could she be having hormonal imbalances from the pregnancy that are causing her to be so vengeful?
She sounds like a devil-woman. Call her bluff and don't be intimidated by her.
The child deserves at least one good parent.....and that parent is probably YOUR son!
Good Luck,
C-F
2007-01-03 22:17:51 · answer #2 · answered by Crispy_Frog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just pray for your son and daughter in law, and her pregancy, and that she will change her mind about the whole thing, and want to start back of being a wife, and make her marriage work!
Pray that she stop being so insecure about herself and her marriage and her husband of feeling abandoned the first place.
Pray that she will soften her heart, and just give in to your son, and let him be the head of household, the leader of his family, and a healthy pregnacy, the route she is going, she and the baby propbaly will not survive without support and being on the emotioanal rollercoaster she is on right now, you may lose your grandchild. Just pray that she will stop being selfcentered and selffish, and be on the best interest of her unborn child.
I hope these words are encouraging to you.
2007-01-03 22:46:50 · answer #3 · answered by ourjacobdavid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well is wife is being real nasty...I don,t know where you live but he might be able to get joint custody,I see no reason why he can,t..If he gets joint then he only has to pay for what he spends on the child while it is in his care.. he will not have to pay her this way....he cannot get full custody probably because unless the wife is unfit he cannot get full custody...I think he should get a really good attorney and ask for joint custody............
2007-01-03 22:52:13 · answer #4 · answered by slickcut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally joint custody is only workable when you live in fairly close vacinity.
If you son is concerned that this chick is only out for the money, file for sole custody.
Regardless, know that it is your sons' responsibility to provide whatever care for his child - whether with him or not.
2007-01-03 22:05:41 · answer #5 · answered by Marsha 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The FIRST thing he should do is to see about how to demand a paternity test before he even claims the baby might be his! Worth the money to see a lawyer!!
2007-01-03 22:18:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋