Someone give me advice b4 i lose control!?

Question

ok so i am 15. my mom left for tx almost 5 mos ago to take care of my sick papaw but now she doesnt even help him. she stays at a friends house smoking pot. she never calls me or my sister and she pretty much just abandoned us. my stepdad wont tell her to come home and i have taken over all parent responsiblilities. i also have to worry about school too. my mom has never been a good mom (mentally abusing her children and driving my older sister almost to suicide) she is crazy but i don't know what to do. My stepdad is lazy and wont tell her to come home. he just whines about how she left and doesnt even think how this is hurting his kids. i am so stressed ( cooking, cleaning, keeping my 4.0 GPA) its so hard. what am i supposed to do? its not like she will listen if i ask her to come home. my stepdad says its my fault she isnt coming bach anyways because i got in an argument with her before she left. i cry all the time. someone help me

Answer 1

you need to talk to Child Protective Services. when you call them, pretend to be a worried neighbor, so you won't get in any trouble with your mom and stepdad. Good Luck.

Answer 2

you poor person. i don't really know what to say, i really hope you get some stress take off your shoulders. It sounds pretty bad right now, but don't let the stress and anger take you over. Remember you only have five years of this left, and then you will be free, and she won't be able to afflict you or your sister. It must be really hard for you to understand why she is doing this to you guys. She's your mom, and even if she isn't the nicest person in the world you lover her. But not all people are meant to be mothers, and not all people have the self control, and comprehension of rules and what you have to do. It sounds to me that you are the bigger person in this case, and just remember that if someone did that to you to never do that to anyone else. You are the person who took control, one day you might be a major world leader if you keep that GPA up and work hard. then you will be able to help people in you're situation. I hope i helped a little, and just hang in there. Try talking to your sister, and Step-dad, tell them how you feel, and ask for some help. And just because your mom and you had a fight before does not make you responsible for her neglecting her parental duty.

Answer 3

Ok, here's the deal. It's not your responsibility to cook/clean for your family....so here's what you do....stop.....

Grab enough food at school to last you through the night or make a sandwich when you get home, then you go in your room, and you work on your homework, and let them take care of themselves.

Neither of them are parenting you, but it's not your responsibility to be the parent. You're almost done now!!! Just take care of yourself, continue getting good grades, you need them. With a 4.0 you should be able to get a good scholarship, just try to make sure it's out of state.

You're a good kid, don't let the loser's you have for a family tell you otherwise, it's not your fault your mother left, it's not your fault the adults in your life are acting like children.

Answer 4

first off your a amazing person from what you have told us, but you can't loose sight of the situation. The greatest thing you have right now is that 4.0 GPA. You can not loose that no matter what. If you truly want to escape that life style your going to have to get a education, and rise above the ashes. I know you may not want to hear that but it is true. As far as every thing else going on in your life, Stop cleaning, cooking, parenting, and what ever else you are doing. It is not your job to do that so don't. I know you love your sister but if you give everything up for her then both of you will have hardship for the rest of your life. DSS will come and lock your parents up and put you and your sister in a home in which you probably don't want to be, but if you can hold on and make it then you will one day be able to buy you and your sister and who ever else you want out of this. Trust me my dad went through the same thing. His dad beat everyone in the family, so my dad ran away at 14 and did what he could to get by. But he got a education and my life is so much better because of it. But you owe it to your kids. worry about your GPA and let everything else work its self out. Your more amazing than you know. Keep it up.............. I really hope all your dreams come true

Answer 5

first of all dont cry aits not your fault its hers. And how much older is your sister? does she live alone? cause u could ask her if you could stay with her for awhile. if not is there anyone else? aunts, uncles, cousins?? and if that doent work try talking to someone at school like a counselor or principal. you dont deserve to go through this and if your stepdad cant even clean the house then what good is he??

Answer 6

I went through something simular. Dont rely on your mother coming back. But dont cry about it, it doesnt really help. Your mom might be having a hard time dealing with your sick grandpa, there is no telling. She is going through her own thing. My suggestion, because it helped me alot, go to your school counselor. I know, I know it is embarrassing, and kinda scarey, but it helps alot. Getting to ta,lk to someone kept me from committing suicide in high school. I talked to my counselor eveyday and we became very close, she was a better Mom then mine. Get a journal too, it helps. But definetly talk with the counselor, because it is easier to tell someone you dont know exactly how you feel, then it is trying to tell a friend or relative.

Answer 7

you have to keep your head up. you're 15 years old now, and you're probably feeling the reality of life. life is not easy, but you have to make sure that you don't head into the wrong direction by doing drugs. you have to work hard. go to school, finish high school. don't ever be tempted to use or do drugs. drugs can ruin your life. you have only one chance to get your life headed in the right direction. there are no second chances. so work hard, stay in school, and take care of yourself and all your loved ones and your family. good luck to you. I hope everything goes well.
be smart, always think about the future. always think of ways to improve yourself. be smart, and make a lot of money.

Answer 8

you are just a kid be a kid let your stepdad take of the rest. don't blame yourself for your mom leaving. she just needed an excuse to leave. my advice would be to go to your counselor in schoollet them know what is going on at home. they will probably be able to help. don't give up you sound like a smart kid with a bright future.

Answer 9

First off you are not a very good place. You need to talk to your school counselor about this. This is not a healthy situation at all.

Answer 10

Talk to the police. They may be able to get you,mom & dad some much needed help.