when I was 16 I had a daughter at the time I had a boyfriend who I was cheating at the time I became pregnant. At the time I had no doubt that he was the dad and not the other guy.when my daughter was born she looke nothing like him but we always said she looked like me. I resently ran into the other guy and my daughter looks just like him as soon as he saw pics of her he asked me if she was his we took a test. and it turnes out he is the dad. we are now currently together and my daughter adores him. But she doesnt know that he is her dad. how do I tell my daughter that the guy she has always thought was her dad isnt her biological dad? Even thoe he hasnt been there for her eighter he sees her once in a while and he lives 20m from us, he didnt even call her for xmas or her birthday so is not like she is really attached to him but she still loves him I know that so please help me.
2007-01-03 13:50:52 · 7 answers · asked by prettylady36 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
tell her, but don't beat around the bush, she may be confused if you go in circles. Just tell her bluntly that the guy she thought was her father wasn't, and that this other guy is. Start at the beginning and go until the end. tell her the facts, and if you want to show her the results of the test to prove your story. She may be upset at first, but will understand after a while and be greatful for being told. Because if you don't tell her and she finds out by her self she will be angry and resentful that you didn't tell her.
2007-01-03 13:58:11 · answer #1 · answered by Krissie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that she has a right to know who her biological father is. Just explain to her that at the time she was concieved you were seeing both men and you believed that her "dad" was her real father. But you recently ran into the mystery dad and you had a test taken. It's an honest mistake hon, you have nothing to be worried about. Just be real gentle with her cause this is a lot to take in.
2007-01-03 13:58:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Not really attached"???? You make it sound like its a puppy. You had better be damn sure she can handle it emotionally. I think you have no idea what impact this will have on both your child and your ex. By the way...does HE know? You have a real mess and now you want someone to help you to mess up two more lives. You need to talk to a Priest.
2007-01-03 14:03:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, sit her down and just start at the begining and tell her the truth and she should forgive you. blood doesn't make a parent. she deserves to know who her father is and to check on that part of her back ground, especially for medical reasons. take that into mind. she wouldn't ever be able to fill out papers for a doctors office properly unless she knows all the information
2007-01-03 13:54:59 · answer #4 · answered by sweetgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you tell your daughter this, sit her down gen tally, try to comfort her, and explain as little as possible because if you go to fast, she Will, get so emotional, and she'll probably yell at you. If she finds out, before you tell her, be extra cautious. or you could see a therapist, or even a physiologist.
2007-01-03 14:02:55 · answer #5 · answered by Sammy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is your daughter? This is very important for us to know!
Sit her down and explain that she's been lucky enough to have two dads in her life - one that helped make her, and one that helped raise her.
2007-01-03 14:08:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
MAURy!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-03 13:53:22 · answer #7 · answered by Q-T 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋