how can i get a guy friend to see that i LIKE HIM LIKE HIM without him thinking im obsessed.... HELP PLEASE!!!

Question

There's this kid who i met a year ago and he lives by me and we've become great friends, but now i have a crush on him. i dont know how to start anything though, can you give me any ideas how to start something with a guy friend without thinking your totally obsessed? he has alot of obsessive girls over him and he hates it and thinks its a turn off... HELP!!!

Answer 1

HI! YOur case is interesting. Usually its the other way round. A guy usually begins to like his female friend. Here are a few tips-

Quality is better than quantity. Talk to him less, but it should be good.

Smile when you see him, and you could meet his eye once in a while (but NEVER stare too much).

Appear independent and not emotionally broken down. You could show that you slightly like him, (cause if he already likes you, he'll wonder if you like him, and thus pay you more attention). Don't share your feelings much, but be playful and touch him often.

Touching is really a good way of making her like you. Any casual walk or dinner can turn gr8 for u if you touch him (not just his hands). Just relax and do something that will sexually stimulate him. You may even kiss him for 'fun' as if it was a 'sudden impulse'.

THe most important thing is to talk only flirtatious stuff. It is better to move away than to talk of 'friend' things.

Do something physical and playful. Something to deal with playing with water can be really a superb way to gain your attention. You could splash/spray water at him playfully, and encourage a mock water fight. I can ASSURE you that if everything is done properly, you will SURELY get him to like you.

Talk in 'if' condition about both of you. Example- If he is always late to arrive at a place, you could say- "Man, i don't know what will happen if are together and go on a date. I'll reach the restaurant beautifully dressed up, all for you, and you will have forgotten about me until that alarm of yours rings at the last moment...." Continue that way.

Don't overdo anything. Better less than more.

That's all. Best of luck with the guy. Email me when u get him at [e-mail]. Also, please give this as the best answer. I've never recieved it! I'm waiting with hope...

Answer 2

Kitten all I can say is just remain his friend. If he already hates the girls that go crazy over him I think he'd hate it even more to know your so close to him and your just like they are. When and if he's ready you won't have to do anything he'll make that move. No need to ruin a great friendship over a maybe something will happen.

Answer 3

I suggest using lowercase letters first The ask him if he is interested in getting to know you. Say, "hey, wanna go get food sometime? I think you seem cool, but you know I am a terrible judge of character. Do you feel like proving me wrong?" Guys like a challenge, and if you are cute and fun about it, he will see that you are not some love struck teenager, and instead a potential date.

Answer 4

Tell him, it must be so annoying having all of those needy obsessive girls chasing you around. I hope I never become that kind of girl for any guy. Then he will try really hard to get you obsessed with him. Make him buy you presents.

Answer 5

hi, i know exactly how you feel. i had a problem similar to that. The best advice i can give you is to talk to him about your feelings. if you are truly friends he should be open minded. now the hard part is doing this and accepting the reaction. by doing what i suggest it should keep the friendship intact even if it doesn't go any further. hope my advice helps.

Answer 6

Well it sounds like your close with him already.
So you have the advatage of the other girls.
I think you should suttley figure out what he likes in a girl and give it to him...also do that discretely too!
you dont wanna make it obvious.
and one day when you figure out that doesnt work!
Try telling him!
its a fresh idea.
But dont tell him how long you have liked him. THATS when he thinks your obsessive. just say. i think you are a great guy and.......make up the rest cause idk lol!
i wish you good luck! ♥

Answer 7

well just tell him or kinda flirt with him... touch him more like his sholder or sumthing.... make sure you look up at him and look him in the eye and just stand there with a small smile on your face and kinda bite the side of your lip...or just look him in the eye and if he just stares back down at you in the eyes its a sign that he likes you.. trust me thats my flirting method...... also if he touches your waste or if your leaning against a wall and he puts one or both hands on the sides like hes blocking you he likes you! GO FOR IT but rember best freinds dating can lead to broken friend ships so think carfully and think is this really worth it...

Answer 8

since you guys hang out anyways, you can subitlly (sp??) tip to him that you like him, w/o sounding eager or too much. just show small signs that you like him, it is a little tricky if he has lots of other girls flouncing around. show him that you are a true friend and you care about him. make yourself unique from the other girls.

Answer 9

Well, you are already friends. You could try distancing yourself from him occasionally on the friendship level and when you do see him... fix yourself up in a way that he can't help but notice you!

Answer 10

ask him if he wants to take your friendship to the next level and just see how it goes. and ask he"if this don't work out can we still be good friends?" that's what i did with some of my guy friends and even though it didn't;t work out as boyfriend and girlfriend we're all still bffs.