How to convince long time girlfriend to allow open relationship?

Question

My gf and I have been together for about five years now and I am feeling a little bit in corner even though we love love each other so. She knows my feelings and has voiced she will find it difficult to accept but overall she does not seem to be threatened by my desire. Any body have any ideas as to how better pursade her into acceptace without breaking depth of our relationship?

Answer 1

Impossible So go and cheat and loose her. All you are asking is for permission to cheat, It's not going to happen. How would you feel if she said. O.K. But I'm gonna do the same! Different now isn't it? That's why guys like you make it hard for us nice guys to get anywhere

Answer 2

If your girlfriend is dead set on this not happening between you and the other girl, then just leave it be. You already heard her answer once, no need to pressure her into agreeing with an open relationship. If she said "No," then respect her decision and take it for what it is. I do have to admit that it's really admirable of you to go to your GF and tell her what's been going on. My advice is - leave the girl you like because a 2 month fling is not going to last very long anyway. But you do have a problem if you feel like you're not getting anything from your current relationship. A relationship embroiled in verbal fighting and dissappointment is not a healthy one. My suggestion would be to go and work on that with your current GF if you really love her and want to make it work. If your heart is really not set on it and the romance has fizzled, then my suggestion would be to move on.

Answer 3

ok, first of all you will be opening a big door that you'll never be able to close or go back. an open relationship is a very special one. not everyone can do when there is sex involved their is feelings. those feelings sometimes turn . maybe she might fall in love with someone else, are you ready for that, then you should think maybe your feelings might change also, then you will be in a rock and a hard place. do you really love this longtime girlfriend, and if so step back and take another look at what you want to do with your relationship

Answer 4

It depends on how she feels. If she's not comfortable with it and will never accept it you need to decide if you want to continue with the relationship and work on spicing things up or go separate ways. You can't force it on her, but you should talk about it and see where she stands for sure. Maybe she didn't think you were serious. Let her know you are and listen to her thoughts and feelings. Maybe your just bored. 5 years is a long time. If you can make this work one way or another it will make your relationship stronger. But the tough thing about relationships is that the other person has opinions too.

Good luck.

Answer 5

Sorry, but that's pretty much impossible. It would work if she wanted an open relationship too, but that would ruin your so called "depth" Love is about devotion, so please don't use such a strong word when you obviously have no idea what love is.

You two are probably together out of habbit, five years is a long time. An open relationship will just hurt her as often as you hook-up and she'll never be able to forget that pain. So if you want to save her the heartache, break it off. You can't have your cake and eat it too, dear. Sorry.

Answer 6

For some couples if they have a rocky relationship,opening it up works. If your relationship is so perfect then what is the need for an open relationship? It is pretty evident that you want to have intimate relations with other women,but if she accepts it,and she can do the same as you,good health to you. But most likely,it will get in the way of the relationship,since in most cases,women have a most stronger emotional bond,then men in relationships.

Answer 7

If you have the urge to have an open relationship maybe you don't need to be in a relationship in the first place! If it's not what she wants, trying to convince her will only make her feel guilty and hurt in the end. Because she will say yes because she loves you and knows it's what you want. Knowing deep down inside she wants nothing to do with the idea. I wouldn't suggest trying to "convince" her, it's either something she's open to or not. Would you be completely comfortable with the relationship being equally open for her as well. I would strongly think about this one.

Answer 8

Hi, If you want an open relationship, why have a gf? I think that's called having your cake and eating it too. If your gf needs to be persuaded to accept your idea, she is obviously not happy about it. You say you love each other so, but I would really examine my committment to this girl before doing anything that would hurt her and your relationship.

Answer 9

You forgot to add..."without anyone getting hurt in the process" because you're asking for the impossible. If you've been together for 5 years and sincerely "love each other so", then you should be willing to sacrifice your selfish desire (which is purely based on lustful curiosity, I'm sure). If you're not willing to make that sacrifice, then do the humane thing and break up with her - let her maintain her dignity and self-respective. Good luck!

Answer 10

Just break up with her because it's not fair to her and from the sounds of it she isn't to keen on the whole "open relationship" thing in the first place. You want your cake and to eat it to and that isn't going to happen. I know you say you love her, but how can you love someone and at the same time want to go around with someone else.

I say if you want to play the field, play the field and if you want to stay in a committed relationship do that, but you can't do both at the same time.