Bully Problem?

Question

I'm bullied at school. I've been bulied since the fourth grade, and now I'm in seventh. I've done effort to ask my parents to help me. Which they do try, and try to talk to the guidance counsler, and the princebal their i no sucsess. They Princabal SAYS he'll do stuff to put an end to it, he just never has.

Their are some things say to me that I really don't care about. But their are some things they say that get me REALLY ticked off! Like, for example, I've been staring in the drama club plays for the past three years now. 95% of the kids in drama are girls. The other 5% is me and a couple of other boys. The boys in Drama including me get made fun of bacause we don't like sports. And in my school the policy is: "Sports are for boys, Drama is for girls Only." I don't know about you but I've heard of famous actors today that were in the drama club as a kid!

So leading to this, everybody treats me like a girl, and calls me a girl! I'm god damit sick of it. I'm a freakin boy! Help?

I get made fun of by both sexes!

I'm VERY strong. Although only some kids know it becuase I've got into ONE little fight. And I kicked the kids ***! But he still picks on me today. I would LOVE LOVE TO kick these kids asses again, but I have such a good reputation with the teachers and I don't want them t think I'm a punk.

My Friends are NOTHING like me. We have nothing in common, but we still get along.

The bullies tell me that I do a good job, and that they wish that they could act as good. But they say, I'm not a girl like why would I need to.

Answer 1

hey man i know how you feel. when i was in 5th grade i was bullied all the time by kids. and you know what my mom found me crying and she told me that she could go talk to the school to solve the problem. i said hell no mom that would do it worse. so you know waht i did i went to the gym and worked out like crazy, i did push ups sit ups running and all kinds of stuff. i got stronger and faster and i vowed to never let anyone crush my soft and tender soul. so once people asked for trouble. i gave them trouble allright i busted this guy's face so bad that they called an ambulance for him to straighten out his face up. people then respected me and dident mess with me, heck when people respect you they talk to you and they find out that you are not so lame and bad after all, and you as well will find out that they are not such ***** after all as well. but hey i know that they say violence its not the answer. well you said it yourself the principal hasnt done shiet or has he.so ya man start doing your push ups you dont need to do heavy lifting yet. but get fit and strong and stand up for yourself cuz no one will stand up for you if your not willing to do it yourself. and i mean you are in 7th grade its not like ur gonna get arested. another thing sports are fun you will find this out when you are working out, the testosterone will pump you up. and by the way when you fight, try not to get hit and if you do specialy in the face think of all the hatred and the humiliation( and dont tell me there is none because there is. trust me i was bullied before) and just use it to fuel your war machine. if you dont release your hate and your emotions it will consume you. as for drama hell man you can still do it. you can do whatever the fck you want. no one can tell you what to do. if you like it and it makes you happy then keep on doing it. its like if someone tells me he is going to beat me up if i dont stop swimming. you know what i would say " bring it fu,cker i am gonna fu,ck your day up if you keep pissing me off."another thing you are in 7th grade so no one can take you to jail or anything. trust me no punishment that they give you can amought to how happy you feel after you get this problem off your back. i guarantee it.

Answer 2

Dont curse. It can be fixed. Oh and the whole drama thing. I was in drama and in my school, there were more boys then girls. Your school needs to get real. The sports for boys and drama for girls thing is rediculous. I think you will do good in drama, especially if you keep up in it. Now with the bully problem hun, go above your principle. Ask your Mom or Dad which ever is better with people, to go to the school board and complain about your schools pitiful efforts to help their students with bullies. If you have ever been pushed or hit at school because of it, ask your Mom (or Dad) to go to the police department and talk with them. My brother had a problem with bullies and my mother stepped in and went to the police department, and the school board, and the bullies were kicked out of school. I think bullies are pig headed cowards that have nothing better to do then pick on others to make themselves feel better. But definetly get your parents help. And if you like drama as much as you say you do, then keep on with it, no matter what the other kids say. One day you will be making the million dollar movies while the bullies are flunking high school! Good luck hun.

Answer 3

I've had that problem before. Not exactly the same context but you know, the same type of thing. Basically, you gotta stand strong. If you know yourself that you are a boy, and you ARE a boy, from what you say, then that's it. Bullies generally annoy ppl and bully them because of insecurities, problems they have, and they just take it out on other people because they know no other way to release it. I don't particularly know what age you are, because I ain't from America (I'm presuming thats where you are from) but when you are a teen, lots of stuff happens. Seriously. Back to your situation: Your school's policy is a piece of crab. Really, if that's the policy, move on. Drama is certainly not for girls only. There's actually lots of succesful guys that have made it in acting, and many woemn that have made it in Sports. So it's basically what you choose. Stay true to yourself. Know what YOU are and once you KNOW that, it's done. No one breaks that. Try it. It works :).

Answer 4

Go to the principal one more time and discretely remind him that you have been in his office before for the same thing and there hasn't been any change . You don't have to do anything on the school grounds wait till the weekend or catch him off of school property and kick the S*&T out of him and tell him that this is what he can expect every time he acts BIG and BAD at school. Also remind the punk that he is stupid and he plays with the BOYS and you get to plaaaaaaaaaaaaay with the Girls. If there are 2 or 3 or 4 of them catch them one at a time. they will get the message. GOOD LUCK

Answer 5

Well for one you went to get help from a princicple what the hells the matter with you? If I was that kid i'd torture you for life, however I'm not and i'm here to help you. for one I was messed with a lot when I was younger until one day I got up and said that I was tired of it all. You just need to take a stand. Now I'm not telling you to fight or to hurt anyone just stand up to one of those "Jocks". Tell them that you don't care if they think your a girl and it doesn't matter because when they are on the field you'll be with their girl in the drama club.

You must remember that bullys feed off of fear and disappointment. They see you happy with what you do and just because it's not the norm they will mess with you. Might I add maybe you should work out. I havn't seen you but I don't think they would be bullying you if your were "Ripped" or well built.

So let me close by saying if you don't stand up not High school will be total hell.

Answer 6

Realkitten has a point. Read on.

I to was bullied in school. I think just about everybody is. But using profanity will not solve anything. You have a lot of truth in your bi-log.

The people that have said derrogority remarks about being in the drama club are jealous of the fact you are where you are. I'd bet the majority of them would like to be in there with all those girls.

I didn't like sports either. But my older brother had left a legacy behind when I started High School. When signing up for classes, I did not sign up for a single sport. When I received my class assignment, it had me signed up for all of them. Baseball, Football, and Basketball. I played football the first year. Then tragedy struck my family. I was without parents. I sang in the choir at school. for three years, then I played football again in my senior year. I had no home, no family, and lived in the back of a tiny gas station. Still I was teased, till one day I realized that I had been trained in Martial Arts by a Master that lived next to my grand mother. All of my youth was spent at Mr. Hong's house after school till my parents died.

Like you I got very angry one day when a bully put his hand on fresh paint, and wiped his hand on my new pants. (One of three I owned) Without thinking, he was down, and very hurt. I'm thankful one of the coaches saw the whole thing or I would have been expelled. Thereafter, I had no problems in high school.

Then I learned that bullies are jealous, and scared of their own life. They will find what they think is a weak point in someone, and pick it. That my friend is a very insecure person. I learned not to fight, but to tollerate. Remember the old saying: "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me."

They are cowards! Jealous of your acting. Scared that you will succeed. Don't give in to them, just ignore them. That hurts them more than anything. First it will be more intense, but eventually it will taper off to nothing. Time can heal all wounds.

If they resort to physical abuse, then my friend you have a legal case. You can have the police intervien or sue the person, parents, and school for not offering you protection.

It may be hard, but kindness kills bullies!

Answer 7

Start documenting each incident. Put down the date and time, who it was that "bullied" you, what was said, and who else was there. Include the incidents that don't bother you as well. At the end of a month, give the list to your parents. Ask them to make a copy, and give it to your principle and guidance counselor. Especially if they mention the words harassment, discrimination, and law suit, in their conversations. I think you will see some action taken. If not then going to your local school board, possibly with an attorney, should get the ball rolling.

Answer 8

buddy listen up im in grade 11 rite now and well i got beat up alot from grade 1 to 5 cause i never took a stand grade 6 i decided to fight back. i thought that i was gunna get beat up anyway i might aswell hurt them while gettin beat up so i did. now in grade 11 my social life is a different story im doing great on taht thing called a social ladder. and for the drama **** is ok try to get touchy with the girls if u are popular with girls and they liek hangin wif u then the guys will want to hang wif u too u look like a playa. if ur popular with the opposite sex u will be popular wif the same sex dotn worry about it 2 much juss stik wif this game plan and getr a girlfrend since not many ppl have one ull look good having one.

Answer 9

learn a martial art and beat up the bullie. I suggest learn muai thai or brazilian jujitsu. Muai thai has brutal training especially the shins... makes you tough. Jujitsu is a non-lethal art... and you dont risk killing or maiming the opponent.

That is the solution. No telly telly teacher or mommy or dadda.

It might get you suspension, but it will also get you RESPECT. Been there, done that. I got suspended for a fight in the bathroom (which I lost, since the other guy was bigger)... but I still got me my respect for fighting this bully. It made him think twice... whether or not the bruises and pain he received while fighting me is worth it.

Hope this helps.

Answer 10

Dude, don't worry about it. You'll be in high school school and will find people there with similar interests as you, who will understand. And all these kids are immature and are centered around popularity. Just wait it out for another year, and I promse that in high school, the kids who make fun of you will be jealous because you're so much mature than they are. You're just more grown up than they are, and they're looking for any reason to bring others down to raise themselves up. It'll pass when you get to high school, but in the mean time, good luck!

Answer 11

Try not to let it bother you i guess. Im sorry i cant really help. At my school the kids in drama dont really get made fun of and there is a LOT of guys in it. I personally like football better but that is me. Once again sorry.