Should I tell people about my problems?

Question

I have social anxiety disorder and it makes me really awkward and shy around other people and people think I'm immature and when I keep to myself I worry people think I don't like them but I'm just terrified. I don't want to impose my problems on them but I don't know if maybe they might stop treating me like I'm immature but I don't know they don't respect me so I don't think they'll ever stop.

I don't want to make them feel bad and I don't want to be selfish.

Answer 1

Don't think you should make any general announcements but it would be wise to inform a few, carefully chosen people. Never repeat the information and never use it as a crutch. If someone seems to be interested you might want to engage them in conversation and work your way into telling them your problem. Good luck to you.

Answer 2

I had the same problem when I was younger to a certain extent. I would get very nervous when I had to go to a party or social event and it was very disturbing. I don't think you need to share that information with everyone, but it would be a good idea to see a therapist. Social anxiety is not an uncommon disorder and there are therapists that specialize in this area. Remember this, too, other people don't put as much emphasis on your shyness as you do. The anxiety may well diminish with age along with the help of a professional. The older I got, the less I cared about how someone else perceived me. Feel better, you're not alone.

Answer 3

tell all the people that you care about and the ones you want to keep as friends and you want their respect, the other people you don't know or don't want to know it doesn't matter what they think about you. Don't be so hard on yourself everybody has a little shyness when it comes to meeting new people. You know you have a problem so that is half the battle won, once you start talking about your problem and people give you positive feedback it will get easier to to get over our shyness, but it's not going to happen over night or with the first couple of people you tell it's gonna take time and hard work and wanting to get better, if you can get counseling get it it will help a lot.

Answer 4

My dear, social anxiety is a mental illness and can be treated. The syptoms are what you describe like feeling inferior to others and thinking they don't like you. You need not suffer. I would call your doctor and explain the problem to him/her, and ask for a reccommendation to a Mental Health Physician. I promise you that you'll get better and better as you continue with treatment. This will probably be addressed with meds, too. Don't give up, please, and don't tell other people about your problems, it's nobody else's business, except maybe for your parents and your best friend. I wish you luck, don't hesitate!

Answer 5

Sometimes the Lord is the only one who can give us confidence.

Start reading the Bible. Book of Psalms and Proverbs are good books for you to read first. These books are a lot like Bible poetry, but if you'll listen closely to them, God will help you build self esteem. Constantly pray and ask God to deliver you from your social anxiety disorder.

Write to Joyce Meyers, P.O.Box 655, Fenton, MO 63026
800-727-9673 Explain your problem to Mrs. Meyers. She has overcome a great many things in her life and this woman can help you. Tell her how old you are. What your symptoms are.

She probably has one of the best self esteem programs of books and Scriptures of anyone. She'll help you become a new woman over night. My prayers are with you. Remember God loves you like no one loves you. You can do all things through God who strengthens you. Another good Scripture is "If God is for us, who can be against us." You'll be victorious and conquering the world next time I hear from you. My best dear friend.

Answer 6

Personally, I don't tell people I have this disorder. If they want to think I'm weird, then they can leave me alone. If it's people you encounter on a daily basis and you want to have a better relationship with them, I think it would be alright to tell them that you are struggling with this disorder and what exactly it means (because other people really may not know much about it).

Answer 7

If you put in you mind that you are living for once in this life, you will regret not trying hard to communicate with people. Ask them about themselves, what do they think about ...,what is their interest, where did they travel, what is their hobbies. Start by saying I like your dress from where did you get it? or use adjectives and qestions while you are talking and you will find it easy to talk. Just talk with people who you think they are trusted. Goodluck and by asking this question you started to socialize already :) do it and talkkk JUST talk make mistakes and do not be afraid mistakes help you to learn to be better :)

Answer 8

Just tell them what you are comfortable with them knowing. I mean how can they know unless you tell them, unless you have some insensitive relative blabbing to them. In my opinion, your mate or someone really close to you should know, but don't let them use that against you or use you in general. Do what you are comfortable with.

Answer 9

Talk to your parents. And tell them whats up. Talk to a doctor if you have . Don't talk to people that are your friends cause im bipolar and all my friends though i was werid and left me . So keep your head up and besafe.

Answer 10

Sounds like to me your just shy .Thats very common.It is normal.
Go meet friends at school work antwhere. Just be yourself. try doing something challenging to upgrade your confidence.
You can do!Go for it!