Is it merely mind over matter?
2007-01-03 13:27:05 · 16 answers · asked by Diesel Weasel 7 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The answer lies in the question; "self" is the operative word. Self-esteem is a phenomenal power that you can't buy or fake, but you can earn- but only from yourself. It is totally within YOUR power.
Self-esteem IS NOT the same as peer esteem. Nice to have both- but without question, self-esteem is far more valuable. Do not get them confused. Seeking peer esteem means trading your identity to get it. Seeking self esteem is the opposite.
How can you get it? Regardless of what others may think or say, if your actions and decisions are always done in a way that you personally can respect- you are building self-esteem; one decision at a time. It will eventually build your identity and confidence as well, and change the course of your life.
2007-01-03 14:27:51 · answer #1 · answered by spiritgide41 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Humility.
It becomes a simultaneous lowering and highering of the self. Whenever you are feeling down or feeling worthless, think about the composition of your true self. Ask yourself, what am I truly? With humility you realize your limitation. Not only do you accept this limitation but you actually learn to love it as something beautiful for its own sake. You achieve humility through meditation combined with proper moral action which leads to good health and wellbeing for yourself as well as wellbeing for all the things of the universe that you depend upon. During the beginning of meditation you can see that you are a body of the universe, a marvelous machine of mind and flesh. Your body was formed by the powers of the universe and the eternal presence. You are far more than a mere personality. Personality means nothing when compared to this beautiful thing. Through proper moral action, you see the true self in action and become increasingly more convinced that it is so.
With further reflection you can see even greater things. The more you meditate on truth, the more humble you become. The more humble you become, the easier it becomes to fullfill your spirit and needs. When you are easily fullfilled, you are ever joyous.
2007-01-03 21:47:28 · answer #2 · answered by Zeek 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If everything you do for self-esteem has a cure as a goal, it will fail every time. It is much more beneficial if you see it as a life-long endeavour. Nothing of such magnitude has a one-time effort to a cure.
Try to identify what makes you feel good about yourself. List them on paper. Keep the list with you at all times and read it or add to it when you feel the need to. In time, you should be able to start writing about what brings you to feel less than esteemed. These are just as important because if you aren't aware of what is troubling you, you won't be able to deal with it. It's sort of like trying to remember what you ate when you are feeling sick.
We are all the sum of our parts. Try to accept what you don't find appealling about yourself because as bad as they may seem to you they are an important part of you. Acceptance of our faults can lead to finding our strengths. Trust in yourself. It DOES work.
2007-01-03 21:30:30 · answer #3 · answered by Awesome Bill 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First one needs to know who they are in actuality. We are not these bodies, Race, color, nationality, religion, mind, intellect, senses, job, etc. WE are eternal spirit souls, part and parcel of the Supreme Soul. We have to reconnect with The Supreme Person also known as Krishna, Allah, Jehovah, Vishnu, etc. to realize who we are and know what real self is then we can understand eal esteem. The quickest and easies way to reconnect and come to our constitutional position is to chant the Maha Mantra (the Great Mantra for deliverance from suffering and illusion) go to krishnaculture. for details and Read Bhagavad Gita as it is By Bhaktivedanta Prabhupada This will give one real self esteem.
2007-01-03 22:16:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I knew that for sure, I'd be completely cured. I suppose it's a combination of many things, mind over matter being one of them. Another thing that can help is having people around you who remind you of how special you are, and who encourage you to be who you are in your heart. Encouragement is second only to love ;)
But like I said, if I knew the real answer I'd be completely cured myself, and I'm just not.
2007-01-03 21:32:16 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself in a position to accomplish things, even if they are small. You can't just build self-esteem out of nothing, you have to have something to feel pride about, whether it be making good grades, cooking a delicious meal, or helping someone who needs it.
2007-01-03 22:19:29 · answer #6 · answered by afling78 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do and accomplish new things. And always remember that you're much more critical of yourself than others are of you. Stop saying negative things to yourself (you may not even notice you do it) and just be easier on yourself. Trying new things is really important too.
2007-01-03 21:32:30 · answer #7 · answered by Debi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
low self esteem is what personal reflection you have on yourself compared to your peers/society. You are you and be proud and optimistic and think the right thoughts about yourself.
~the shrink~
2007-01-03 21:29:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop worrying about what others think and worry about what you think. Think about the happiest moments in your life. Be thankful for what you do have, insted of what you don't because many don't have what you got.
2007-01-03 21:31:23 · answer #9 · answered by coozybug 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love yourself
2007-01-03 22:28:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋