Is it possible to spank your child with love?

Question

I think it's not. Spankings are always done in anger.

Answer 1

It is wrong for children to hit each other, It is wrong for a man to hit his wife. it is wrong for men to hit men . it is wrong for men to hit woman. it is wrong for woman to hit we man. SO HOW CAN IT BE RIGHT FOR A FULL GROWN ADULT TO HIT A CHILD?

Answer 2

If it's done in anger then it's a beating. Spankings should be the last resort. The punishment has to fit the level of the crime. Time outs and loss of privileges should be tried first and used for "normal" behavior incidents. Spankings should be reserved for the "seriously out of control" stuff. A spanking is a decided number of spanks, after you've cooled down. And you don't just start flailing away at the child. You talk to the child first. He knows he's getting a spanking, and he knows why. Then you bend him over your knee, give him the number of spanks you said you would, and send him to his room.

And a firm grip of the arm, a single whop on the butt and a "don't-you-EVER-do-that-again" glare never hurt anybody.

You ARE doing it in love because you love your child enough to teach them to make the right choices. It's called Tough Love. It works, look up the statistics.

Answer 3

I disagree. Spankings are done in love with an eye to the future of the child. You can spank without anger (not all spankings are done that way, however). One would first sit the child down and explain why they were receiving punishment and then punish accordingly. Children that are spanked properly develop proper boundaries in their lives and have a much deeper respect for authority. . . but. . . the spankings/punishment HAS to be done in love with explanation of why and what the child's boundaries are as well as what the behavior expectations are in the future.

Answer 4

I am sorry to disagree with you!! I did spank my children until they were old enough to understand what was right from wrong, I think my children were about 10yrs old when I last spanked those, I was able to talk to the kids at that time, where out conversation was more effective, Yes they got punished with restrictions and so on, But I do have to say that we lived in a town where everyone knows one another, so my kids couldn't get away way with a lot of things without being caught. They are now adults and are respected in the community,

Answer 5

They say you punish because you care. So yes, you can spank (without loosing control) with love. I tell my son, I don't enjoy spanking him. My hands are made for hugs, not spanking. But he needs to be punished. I only spank when it is caused by a serious offense. The sliding scale of serious offenses differ between families, but keep it in perspective.
If you spank as a reflex, then yes it is done in anger. Seperate the instance with a little time to calm down. Have the kid think about why they are about to get the spanking. have them acknowledge it to you before the punishment begins. Knowing they understand what they did is wrong, is the goal, not causing pain.

Answer 6

When my son was 15 months old he would automatically run straight into the road when ever you let go of his hand. He did it in our yard, in the grocery store parking lot. in the super store parking lot, he went in the road at his grandmas house, if you let go for even a second he was gone. I didnt beleive in the power of spanking until one day when a car came sooo close to hitting that child that I picked him up and smacked him soundly on his bottom and said NO DONT GO IN THE ROAD!! It only took two times and he never did it again. Now where was all the hate in that ?
didnt I do what a Mom is supposed to do and teach hi




m to be safe? Not all spanking is in anger if parents are adults and in control of themselves it would never be in anger because the parent would calm down first.

Answer 7

I am from the south and think that the government should stay out of the way a parent disciplines his or her child! Yes, it is possible to spank your child out of love. If you think that letting a child go undisciplined is the right answer....think again! These days, many children show disrespect and they use foul language, and thumb their noses at authority. It is the job and right of parents to use the best means at their disposal to discipline these children. I have raised three boys myself and had to be firm because their father abandoned the family. So I had to be mother and father and trust me, it was very hard to be firm with children who, at the age of 11 had already outgrown me! But they knew I would not look the other way when the teacher called with a complaint or they did something they were not allowed to do! My kids grew up to be responsible people and I once asked them if they recalled all of spankings they got. They said if I hadn't they would have done what the other kids did, drugs or alcohol but they knew that there were consequences for their behavior and I would make them pay! I balanced this with love and always being there to talk with them every day. We always had dinner as a family and would read the Bible together. Today they are wonderful men and all have jobs and are responsible people! They do not consider spankings "abuse". In fact, they plan on raising their kids like I raised them.

I had a Granny who could weild a switch like Zorro! All 90 lbs. of her could run faster than any kid on the block! She was always fair and loving, but when we crossed the line she was always there with the swift "rod of discipline" to let us know there were consequences to be paid for our actions! God bless all the Grannys out there who instill moral values with love and kindness along with discipline!

Answer 8

When parents stopped spanking, manners and integrity started going downhill. When young people begin to respect authority, and each other this will be a better country. That starts with a strap. Even the Bible says "Spare the Rod and Spoil the Child" I believe a spanking is different from abuse. Everything started sliding when children began disrespecting adults and authority. Discipline is something we need in our society again.

Answer 9

Absolutley not. You spank because you want to get rid of the anger inside of YOU. After you spanked the kid, I can gurantee that you'll feel like a monster for doing so. Just take away the things they love the most, it hurts more, and unlike spanking, you can punish longer by not giving those things back until they straighten up.

Answer 10

My grandma (it's so annoying) but she'll walk up to me like after a soccer game and tell me good job and when were walking away she'll kinda hug me while walking and spank me. I guess that's kinda like with love, but it's so so so annoying. But most spankings are out of anger

Answer 11

NO! Spanking only brings on feelings of shame, humiliation and unlove. There are plenty of other options to discipline - taking away privileges and/or a time out is sufficient.

Good question.