My friends have suddenly grown up! They wear tons of makeup, always have their hair fixed, they flirt in ways that don't suit them. I am the only one who hasn't changed yet. Should I be like them, is it worth it? I am like... more sportive and it would be hard for me to dress like them. I just realise that after 10 years of friendship, we might not be as close as we used to be.
Whenever we go out I look like the youngest one, who has no taste in clothes. We are supposed to be happy for our friends, but whenever we hang out I feel so embarrassed/humiliated/ugly... even a tomboy. So should I change? If so in what way?
2007-01-03 13:10:40 · 10 answers · asked by moulin.rouge 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I am 16. And I know I maybe overreacting, but they dress and behave like they're forty.
And I don't only wear tracksuits -for example-, I just don't like make-up, jewelry and I prefer dressing casual to wearing skirts and strapless tops to go out for a coffee...
2007-01-03 13:21:00 · update #1
I am 16. And I know I maybe overreacting, but they dress and behave like they're forty.
And I don't only wear tracksuits -for example-, I just don't like make-up, jewelry and I prefer dressing casual to wearing skirts and strapless tops to go out for coffee...
2007-01-03 13:21:13 · update #2
I completely understand this. It happened to me also. If I didn't want to change, I wouldn't. The best thing you have to offer is to be yourself. I know it's hard to lose 10 years of friendship but sometimes it happens. It sounds to me like you are the mature one in all of this. Those girls are looking for attention and I'm sure they will get it but it will be the wrong kind.
There will be more people out there who are more like you, sometimes you just have to keep your eyes open for them. They are in the back ground because they feel the same way you do. Don't change for people just so you can fit in with them. In the end, you will still feel out of place and awkward.
Keep your chin up!! Be yourself!! Good luck!!
2007-01-03 13:25:06 · answer #1 · answered by country girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't change for anyone unless you want to change for yourself. Girlyness isn't for everyone. It's kind of like a different form of puberty. Some girls take it differently. I'm about to turn 19 and I'm just now learning how to walk in heels and wear mini skirts. I do the girly hair and make-up but only go as far to wear flare jeans. Grow the way you want to but not too fast. It's good that you don't want to be as flirty as your friends because that only leads to trouble. Seems as though they're more interested in boys than anything. Let them be 40, just make sure you stay 16 as long as you can.
2007-01-03 21:30:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with the first post. Just be yourself! You don't need to change who you are. If your friends are true, then they will like you for who you are, no matter how you dress! And you may never be one of those "girly" girls! Hey, I'm 35 and I'm still a tomboy! I never did like the really stylish clothes, makeup, perfect hair. I'm really athletic and love the hiking clothes and stuff like Carhartt. So when I go out with friends I will wear like a Columbia or North face casual shirt, so it's nice but still a hiking shirt!
2007-01-03 21:22:07 · answer #3 · answered by alt-country_fan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never change... try talking t oyour friends about it and well... itf they just don't get it then... I'm sorry but maybe it's time for some new friends.
Trust me the same thing happened to me... and when I tried talking to them they laughed... I was husrt of course but eventually I got new friends who have accepted me for who I am. I don't feel akward anymore and I feel comfortable.
I have gotten a bit dresser and I do wear make-up now, but I took my own time. I didn't do it just because my friends were because that goes against everything I believe in...
You should always be yourself no matter what because if your not yourself than...well who are you. If you dn't feel like wereing make up and dressing up... than don't! I didn't. It worked for me and I hope it does for you too.
Good luck.
2007-01-03 21:29:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOOOOOOOOOOO! You could change but you have to want to change and you have to change for you and no one else. There is nothing wrong with dressing different or having different interests. My best friend is a girly girl and has been for the 10 years I have known her I however am a tom boy but we are still friends and she loves and respects me for me and not how I dress. My husband also loves me and we have been married for 16 years. Be you !
2007-01-03 21:16:28 · answer #5 · answered by mcsmidge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only change in a way that suites you. Don't change for somone else. If you want too, go out shopping with them. There will be something that is stylish and still fits your personallity.
2007-01-03 21:13:50 · answer #6 · answered by Str1pes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friends are making you feel that you are to be someone that you are not you should rethink your friendship. Friends are there to be supportive and to have fun and do stupid things with. If you feel uncomfortable around them I would suggest that you go and look for people that you have more in common with
2007-01-03 21:16:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do NOT change. be comfortable with yourself, and confident in what you wear. the clothes don't make the person. leave em alone, they'll soon realize the mistake they've made.
and just wondering, how old r u?
2007-01-03 21:15:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself and if u r meant to stay friends u will, if not u will drift apart and make new ones..... cool huh?
2007-01-03 21:12:17 · answer #9 · answered by Little Wifey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well try to buy girly clothes if u wear sports clothes ok im confused!
2007-01-03 21:14:29 · answer #10 · answered by ♥♥♥Sam♥♥♥ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋