would you stay or go?

Question

if you long term relationship , say 5 years, and one person in the relationship was offered there dream job but it would contain traveling around the country and it would mean that if your partner was to stay with you then they would have to give up there dream job, would you
a) ask the partner what they want? and if they wanted to stay how things were you would agree and not go ahead with the traveling job?
b) tell them that you are doing and you dont want to continue on with the relationship because it means alot to you.
c) tell them you dont care if they come or stay as you job is more important?

sorry I should have added, that it would require maybe months in one spot and then being moved to another place for another number of month, over atleast a 3 to 6 year period,

i should also add, its my bf with the job to travel, not me, he told me that he did not care if i stayed or go, as he was going to do the job anyway

Answer 1

This is a tough decision to make and a tough place to be in a relationship. How this decision is made will tell you alot about your relationship, also. When it comes to a career move, the person being offered the job really has to make that decision. If not, there will always be resentment on their part. If he has decided to take the job, then the big decision is yours and you have to think about what it means for your life and your career, too. Be sure to make the decision yourself after thinking long and hard about it. It is a big life decision for both of you and it's important that you take your happiness and long term goals into account, too. You should probably talk about where your relationship is going in the future too before you decide to make a major move with him. It's alot to deal with but you need to talk all of this through before you make your decision. I wish you both the best of luck.

Answer 2

Well first off, I would not pick any of them, tell that person, that this job only comes once in a life time, and could not be on the table for long, and that it is very important to you, but in the onther hand that person is very important to you as well. But you do not want to give this job up. So ask him nicely, and say, something upon the lines of.... You both mean very much to me, and i would like if you were able to come with, and if he says he can't, well then, you need to make up your own mind. But remeber a offer of a dream job only comes once.. and if it is a job with lots of traveling, why give it up on a guy, who does not want to let you succeed your dreams. If he does not want to proceed with your dreams included, hey maybe you will find a guy even better who enjoys what you are doing. Do not give your dreams up, because i promise you will regret it in the end!!

Answer 3

None of the above. Is this travel only while at work? There are plenty of professions that require travel and the partner doesn't travel with him/her. If you trust each other, travel won't be much of an issue.

Answer 4

sweetie this is a tough one, it requires alot of communication, maybeyou could take the job and see if you two can handle the situation, dont mak any pressure decisions with him,,let his missins you decide,,,,look to your future

Answer 5

i think if you really love this person and you have been together for a long time.you both need to set down and talk about it.don't just take the job and leave one another.the best advice i can give you is follow your heart,follow your heart..........