My friend's cousin recently died in a car crash. She has been silent for days. We can't get her to talk.I'm getting concerned, she won't eat. She's really depressed. I know that time will heal, but is there anything I can do in the meantime?
2007-01-03 12:18:46 · 13 answers · asked by Quizgrl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You could try. I would tell her that you love her and are concerned. Tell her that you are there for her anytime she wants to talk. Explain how what she is feeling is normal, but how she is reacting is scaring you. She seems like she is in shock or extreme grief. Be patient but if this behavior persists that I would have her family take her to a doctor. You are a good friend to be looking after her like that. I'm so sorry...
2007-01-03 12:26:05 · answer #1 · answered by looloo1122 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had a couple of close friends pass young as well. The only advise I can give is to never be out of reach. Your friend will need you there as soon as she is ready to talk. Always let her know you are there. No matter how hard it is for you to sit back. Definitely keep an eye on her and watch for signs of disaster, but from what I know - it just sounds like she is grieving her own way. People grieve so differently which may look destructive, but not - however, like I said above if it lasts more than 3 weeks, then I would suggest talking to someone (no meds), just talk therapy - it helps to talk to someone outside the comfort zone. Hope that helps!
2007-01-03 20:27:22 · answer #2 · answered by Marilyn Monroe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, just let her know you are available any time she WANTS to talk, but that in the meantime you are going to respect her need for privacy. Having lost some very dear people this year, there is nothing worse than people trying to tell you it will get better with time---it will, but the person who is greiving will not appreciate being told so. On a practical side, drop in with a bunch of flowers, a really nice cooked meal, but, don't stay---just leave them and tell her you are on your way somewhere else and cannot stop. This way you can check on her without being intrusive, john
2007-01-03 21:07:47 · answer #3 · answered by jonjorj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the meantime, don't pressure her to talk. If you got dumped by the man of your dreams, I don't think you'd want to be questioned and bugged about it until your completly over him. Just ask her every other day or so and say "If you want a shoulder to cry on i'm here for you." and remember don't pressure her!
good luck!
2007-01-03 20:21:49 · answer #4 · answered by Vee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there. Don't try to make her talk. She is still trying to sort things out and make since of the situation. If she asks a question, answer simply. If she tells you anything, keep it between the two of you, she needs someone she can trust.
2007-01-03 20:22:54 · answer #5 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take it they were close? I would try and get her to talk about what her cousin meant to her...my family went through a similar thing but it wasnt a car accident, it was a sudden illness after she had beaten cancer...me and another cousin were kinda upset we didnt know her better, but talking about what was great about her cousin should help a bit...
2007-01-03 20:21:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she is ready to talk she will. Don't force her to talk. Just be there to support her. She will appreicate it knowing there are friends to be there for her during this tragic time. She may not show it. But deep down she does.
2007-01-03 20:34:04 · answer #7 · answered by andy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there and be supportive. Let her know that you're ready to do anything she needs, she just needs to ask, then stop asking her about it and just be there. Your role is to set your own feelings aside right now so you can be whatever she needs you to be.
2007-01-03 20:22:18 · answer #8 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just being there for her will help, you don't have to say anything, just be there. she's healing in her own way. if she is still like this after a month, then she's might need help.
2007-01-03 20:30:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her, when and if, she decides she wants to talk. She will come around. Not really anything you can do until then.
2007-01-03 20:37:36 · answer #10 · answered by NAN G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋