Both have college degrees, he has two. Both are athletic. Both are adventurous. They have an excellent relationship and have been dating for a year. They have known each other for 2 1/2 years. They have interest in the same profession. They both like kids and have many other similarities of common interest.
She has a 3 year old boy. She has a good professional job. She lives on her own and is doing well. The boy sees his dad every two weeks. The age factor doesn't bother her. She says she loves this guy.
He owns his home, is young at heart, has investments has recently retired with a good pension but due to start another job shortly. Has no kids he is responsible for. He says he loves her but is trying to be realistic in terms of the age. He is divorced.
Both families want what's best and each are accepted, but families are surprised at the age difference. Does age matter? Can anyone identify with this couple? They have great personalities.
2007-01-03 12:17:58 · 23 answers · asked by Birdman33 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Age DOES make a difference! It might not so much at 55 but what about 10 years from now, when he is 65, she will only be 36. She will certainly become a widow at a very young age, and most likely will want more children in her life someday.....is he going to be "Dad" at 60? They both need to rethink this! I'm sure they love each other, but from a practical point of view, it's NOT every practical! I wish them both the best!
2007-01-03 12:31:13 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well to be honest with you the relatonship may be ok right now,but i don,t think a 55 year old man has got any business marrying a 26 year old woman,Im sorry,I don,t care how young he is in heart,his body will give out way before hers does,and I don,t think he will be able to make her happy...thats almost a 30 year gap there....A 55 year old man is very attractive now,but give him 10 years,at 65 he will be experiencing some sort of health problems such as needing viagra....She will be 39 and just getting into her sexual prime,and you will be looking very old to her.They may both like kids but he is not in the right age group to start having kids like she is....She may love him now,but its going to get bad on down the road....I think she is als looking at the fiancial part of this man also....I would make her sign a prenup,and if she still loves him after that then good luck....Age don,t matter when it comes to love,but you have to use your head also....I can tell you this,I can,t personally identify with this couple but i can identify because my daughter did what this couple is trying to do....My daughter got married to a 45 year old man and she was 19,she loved him too,but soon got tired of him because he got to looking too old for her....she divorced him,then she got involved with a 54 year old man and she was 25,that lasted a while,a fewyears and left him saying she wanted a life he was making her old....Now she is 44 and married to a 29 year old man and they have been togeather for 5 years and said she finally quit marrying daddy,s and got a husband....She is older than him and they really look good togeather....It is a fact if there is going to be a age difference at all the man should be the younger of the two....You ask and I am just telling you what i see.If you decide to marry I wish both of you the best of luck...
2007-01-03 14:11:20 · answer #2 · answered by slickcut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 34. My husband is 50. We've been married 5 years.
Age really doesn't matter, to a certain extent.
There will be some problems that neither one will probably anticipate. They will be the least expected and could break up the marriage, if not planned for early on in the relationship.
Sexual compatibility will become a problem. Her sex drive will
naturally increase for a lot of years. Women don't hit their peak until age 40. Given his age, the man's will decrease drasticly.
My husband and I encountered this issue a year into our marriage.
I almost left him because I thought he didn't love me anymore
when our sex life diminished to once a month...maybe if I was lucky.
2007-01-03 13:31:19 · answer #3 · answered by txharleygirl1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps it could be too much of an age difference only looking in to the future. Although you said he is very fit so l guess he probably would live to a ripe old age. The problem could be children though, if he wanted one he must remember that he would be 60 plus before the child even started school. Then again if he is young at heart and they both claim to love each, who cares, it's their business.I don't think l would like to have that big of an age difference between myself and my husband but l guess I would say to them if it's what makes you happy go for it and the best of luck to you both. Happy New Year
2007-01-03 13:16:26 · answer #4 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 33, my children are 10 and 4, and my handsome husband just turned 50. We have a great marriage and love each other. Sometimes he gets tired before me, but sometimes it's the other way around! We also have a very healthy sex life. If things change in 10 years... these will still have been the happiest years of my life. It's your life. If you can't stand the thought of missing time together now... spend it together. The kind of love my husband and I share doesn't happen everyday. I wouldn't go back and change a thing... ever.
2007-01-05 12:55:09 · answer #5 · answered by kari0422 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The two involved will be the ones who should really be concerned about the age factor and any thing else that could arise from having a relationship. They should keep things as friends possibly a little longer if any consideration has been put on a long term relationship. It will give them time to put any issues that might arise through the test of if they can handle them together and still be happy.
2007-01-03 12:33:58 · answer #6 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, my father was 51 when I was born, mother 23... when I wa a teenager, my father was in his 60's. I thought he was an old fogie with his attitudes. When he hit 70 Alzheimers began and my mother eventually had to take care of him from 80 till when he passed at 88. He was pretty fit in his 50's also. It was kind of depressing. I have avoided going out with older men, probably because of the experiences I had as a young person. I didn't want history to repeat itself. this is all I can give you based on a "child of this type marriage"
2007-01-03 13:47:45 · answer #7 · answered by goodolelady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember that in my early twenties I gave a fifty-sh man a run around for his money. The wife was slightly older than me. Under the circumstances, I learned not to do that in my life and I kept my word. A woman that has her finances and career together does not speak job with a man outside the office. She talks "satisfaction" I notice by experiences that this type of women, not out to suck up a man for money only wants to be" satisfied" Let him stay in that relationship and at his death she will have his epitaph written" FINALLY STIFF'
2007-01-03 12:46:32 · answer #8 · answered by alpha & omega 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are really in love they should have a few happy years together. 29 years difference in age is a lot. No one else can decide for them as they will need to be the ones to choose.
2007-01-03 12:40:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mainly, she might want a more active lifestyle than he is capable of. Like if she's the type who wants to sky dive and stuff like that, he might not feel up to it. Also, he is probably going to need lots and lots of viagra in the near future. But some peopleare "young" for their ages, so if he's a young 55, go for it.
2007-01-03 12:33:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋