What do you think about early marriages?

Question

By "early" I mean 18-22. Is it too young? Just right? What about having kids young (18-22)? I say if you're mature enough and you are financially stable then it is not a bad idea. Besides, I want to have a BIG family and my wife and I couldn't wait too long.

I'm 23 and married. I wasn't asking for me.

Answer 1

I got married at the age of 20 (no even a month after my b-day). I loved my husband and we got married because we know we loved each other. If you fight a lot and are trying to get married in hopes that it will "Fix" the problem. Then its a stupid idea. My husband and I have been together since I was 17 and the only reason we didn't wait longer to get married was because he joined the Air Force and it was cheaper for us to be married then be single and have to live off base at our own expense (witch was the org plan until he (very much) surprised me with a ring for Christmas of 04. Before we got married and up until this very day we have never had a screaming or yelling fight, I've never told him I hated him and hes never said that to me. That is how I know we are meant to be together. As for kids...as much as I would love to have one right now I know its best to wait. Even if you can afforded it. Wait a few years after you get married. You want to get the most of your marriage and really spend some alone time together. We just got a dog and a cat and I feel like we don't do as much anymore (the pets both babies so they need us right now) after they get older they will be more to themselves and we can have each other back. But a baby is forever. Just remember you want as much alone time as you can before you start a family. Rather or not you can afforded it.

BTW: I'm now 22 and we just had our 2 year anniversary

Answer 2

I'm a pretty big pessimist when it comes to early marriages. However, I'm not saying they can't work or don't work. If they do, then that's great!

I remember being in college and friend of a friend was 18, a senior in HS and flauting an engagement ring around. IN HIGH SCHOOL! These days, that is wayyyy toooo early. You don't even know what "real life" is, yet you are going to make a marriage work?

Ok, now assuming you aren't in HS (which is my assumption)...if you two are financially stable and have been together for a couple of years, out there and working...then by all means. Because then you have tasted "real life" and know what bills are, and what responsibilities are.

I got married at 22 (right after college) and divorced at 25. In retrospect, I was NOT mature enough (even though I probably would've said I was) at 18 or even 22 to know what I wanted. I also wasted 3 of my college years dating my first husband.

So....kids. My two weddings (yes, I am remarried) didn't change my life all that much. I went from happily dating to happily engaged to happily married. BUT, kids definitely change your life. Raising my daughter is definitely the hardest thing I've ever done...and it has put a strain on my marriage. My advice is to be married for at least 1-2 years (preferably) longer before having kids...make sure you are in it for the long haul because if you do get divorced and have kids, you will be attached to that other person (letalone all the trauma the kids go through) for the rest of your life.

Answer 3

I am now 23, my husband is 25... not only were we young but we got married after dating only 6 months... we are going on 3 yrs and still are madly in love. If you feel you are both ready and financially set then why not. Its not about what other people think its about how you feel in your relationships. Remember there will be ups and down but don't give up... Communication is the key to a successful relationship!

Answer 4

Well 18 yo is too young, but 22 not really, i am 23 and i got married last year, and its the best thing ive done. no to have kids at that age is cool, you guys will be young and cool parents, and they will not look at you as a parent but as a friend.

Answer 5

I don't see anything wrong with it. I'm 25 and wish I had had the right person to get married when I was 22 or 23. Unfortunately everyone I've been with was crazy. lol

Answer 6

well mean if your are financialy secure and you are sure that you love her, then it doesent matter. your kids will bring lots of love for you and for her and you must stay true to each other. however dude i suggest that you date her for a little longer and make sure that you will be able to repair your broken wings if something happens. then if you feel you are totaly ready wait 1 more year. and if you got no problems then congratulations ma man you got urself a nice wife. i suggest if you wanna do what u wanna do wait till you are 23. and hey man its good to be a young parent cuz you kno you will be able to play sports with your kids without them totaly owning you like i owned my dad( he became a parent at 33), or lets say if your daughter has a bad boyfriend when shes a teenager you can whoop his **** with all your stamina. so ya man if you are financialy secure and the luv is there go for it.

Answer 7

It's to young~~ I"m 76 and I have known a lot of young people. I do not know of any early first marriages that lasted. However I know of plenty that didn't including my own and my son's. That old chemistry and everything else would need to be working for both of you and then GOOD LUCK and GOD BLESS

Answer 8

yes my ex and i were married young but did not have kids till a few years later (and if you think it did not work out we had 30 years and 3 wonderful children) --- just keep falling in love and you will last a LOT longer than we did --- i found that out too late

Answer 9

I was married at 16 and just had my 26th anniv.It has been a hard road but we prevailed--are you ready to roll up your sleves? I woudn't change a thing!

Answer 10

I think it's highly romantic and you shouldn't worry about how old you are