Did you marry someone and now you regret never trying the opposite sex?

Question

And it drives you nuts... especially when someone you know is cute and you want to jump them every time you see them.

I mean never trying the same sex as yourself, opposite sex as your spouse.

She's a woman. I'm in transition, and I'm so desperate I have to hold myself back from jumping certain guys I know.

And no.

She's firmly against me exploring. I guess I have 3 options: divorce, cheat, supress the insatiable desire.

Answer 1

I don't believe in cheating. But I think you need to honestly face the issue. If it just a deal you are "bi-curious" you will be forfeiting a marriage--and I am assuming it is good in other regards at this time--and it will perhaps be for naught.

If you become convinced that you are lesbian-oriented--and that essentially means you are attracted to girls AND repulsed (or non-plussed) by male sex--then for your sanity you need to take steps to get out of your current relationship.

However, if it just seems to you that you may be "bi" I do not think it is right to end the marriage unless there are some other reasons. Hetero folks in a marriage are obviously attracted to other people--but that is not a valid reason to end the relationship. The only reason I think you should jump out of this one is (1) if you are clearly lesbian-oriented as I indicated above or (2) there are other reasons the marrigage should be ended.

Cheating always ends badly---as does suppression of desires.

Answer 2

Maybe you should tell your husband/wife (sorry don't know which one you are referring to) and see if they'd open to an open marriage for a while, just so you can check it out and see for sure.

Answer 3

I had a sexual affair with a woman for 6 years...I've been gay for the last 30 years...I tried them both.

Answer 4

Nope, why have you?

Answer 5

uh, no.