How can I be less shy?

Answer 1

A lot of it can be to do with perfectionism, thinking that you have to be perfect and that you can't talk to people and people won't like you unless everything you say is absolutely fascinating.

Get real. Everyone else talks about trivial stuff like TV, celebrities, juicy gossip, who said what to who at school, etc.

Don't compare yourself with perfect people, like TV or Movie stars. Compare yourself with ordinary people. The average person has a far from perfect personality or looks or dress-sense, is sometimes interesting, sometimes boring, etc.

See articles on perfectionism and shyness. Also, you could buy a book on shyness. A tiny amount spent on a book could make the rest of your life much better.

You can also search Yahoo Answers previous questions for the words 'shy' and 'shyness', using the 'Search for questions' box near the top of the page.

See links below to a good book on making small talk with people and a guide to flirting with the opposite sex.

If you're relaxed and smiling and friendly with family and close friends, try to be the same with other people you meet and want to get to know better. Treat them as if they were already your friend. Talk about them more than yourself. Show an interest in their hobbies and interests and family and friends. Remember what they say for the next time you meet.

Try to put the most positive interpretation you can on things. People will want to spend time with a positive cheerful person, but avoid a moaner. Don't criticise people or say things that ruin the cheerful mood of an occasion.

Join in any activities or clubs or take evening classes, even if you're not sure its going to be fun. You don't know until you try it. Invite other people to do things at your house or elsewhere (playing video games, swimming, cinema, window-shopping, hanging out at the mall, etc).

Answer 2

If you want to get past your shyness, try not to care so much about what people will think, and just talk about things that happened to you. I used to be really shy, but that was because I thought people would think I was weird, and I didn't want to get rejected, but now I'm probably one of (if not the) most popular girls in my grade. Here's some tips on how to become less shy. Use jokes or ice breakers: for example, "How much does a polar bear weigh? Enough to break the ice. Hey I'm * insert name*" stuff like that is cheesy and corny, but its fun, and it usually will make people smile. Smile: People want to hang out with people who look like they're having a good time. Don't be the Debbie Downer of the group. Also someone can see a smile from across the room, so people will approach you. Try not to cross your arms or do any other body language that gives off the I-so-wish-I-wasn't-here vibe. Make fun of yourself (and be able to take a joke about you without spazzing. . . just avoid spazzing in general) . . . I love to hang out with people who can take a joke about them, but just be careful not to verge on self-loathing. Just make a joke like "Oh, I'm such a clutz." when you drop your books or something. Get your confidence up: It doesn't matter how, just feel good about yourself, and don't dwell on "Oh I'm so shy, I'll never be popular". Develop a positive attitude, and maybe get some new clothes or a hairstyle, so people will notice you. It's not that people don't notice you now, it's just that people kind of blend in in a big high school, so every once and a while it's nice to have a change to shine the spotlight on you. That kills two birds with one stone. It gets people to approach you, but it also supplies an easy ice breaker (I like your pants, where are they from?). You can also breakaway from your "group" for a bit to force yourself to talk to new people (make sure not to desert your old pals though). If you do that enough, pretty soon talking a lot and meeting new people will become easy as can be! Good Luck =)

Answer 3

There isn't anything wrong with being shy but sometimes the reason that people are shy is because they are afraid of what other people may think. Don't worry about it be yourself and let people see how you are. Don't be afraid to get to know new people. Who knows what could happen. Be yourself, don't let what other people get in the way, and be confident about who you are.

hope i helped.

Answer 4

Just Go Up To People And Talk To Them.It Will Catch On If You Do That.

Answer 5

Choose one person to be less shy with, then work your way outward from there.

(And get your mind out of the gutter - I didn't mean *that*!)

Answer 6

Being shy is not the problem you have to know why you are shy.
What ever the reason is you should forget it we all have our down sides no one is perfect and no one is complete. Have self-confident and express yourself.

Answer 7

Carry 14.5mm Anti-Tank Machine Guns. That'll catch more attention.

Answer 8

try to make new friends....i know one of my friends it is hard for her to make new friends once entering high school. but also just try and be really open. people will admire you for speaking your mind instead of just sitting in the background. it also makes people feel a little awkward, i know one of my friend's friend just sits there in the middle of our circle of friends and she only talks to my friend but no one else and that kinda ruins everything because she is so shy to talk to anyone else. just be yourself and talk openly by voiving your opinions.

Answer 9

just throw ur self out there...
but don't talk about weird things or ppl wouldn't want to talk to u in the future and always have a breath mint

Answer 10

Try your local toastmasters. They will help you with public speaking which can help to transition you into more intimate settings and build confidence.