whens the rite time 2 come out 2 EVERY1?

Question

im 14...and im a lesbian...i noe this for sure cuz evr since da 2nd grade! (i noe yung ) all i had were these feeling for other girls never had any of those feelings 4 a guy ever 0.o....and im really tom-boyish type..... i think some how my parents kno im a les i jus ha this but im still scared 2 tell them cuz im not sure....i kinda hav da perfect life goin on here and stuff nd i dont wanna mess it up im not popular mayb but im "socialy known" and i hav i alot of frens sum r ok wit pplz bein gay but most of em arent .....im just really scared 2 lose everything (frens mostly) i hav now ...and how every1 will think of me after. i quess i just plain out scared of how every1z guna react i dont wanna get pushed away....x[ (srri itz so long i jus need lik advice cuz im diein ova hea keepin diz secret 4 ssooooooo looooooong )

Answer 1

Oh, honey honey, slow down! You have to work your way through it! I am a 14 year old gay guy, so I know what you are going through. You should either tell your friends or family first, I think you want to try your friends first. Talk to the ones that are ok with it, but only the ones that won't tell anyone. Tell them, but make sure they swear not to tell anyone, when U R ready and comfortable with yourself around them, and think you are ready to tell your fam, tell them. My mom was the easiest. She is very excepting, and loves me no matter what. And, as long as your family doesn't mind (since you think that they know and they don't act like its a big deal I doubt they mind) then you should get use to them knowing. You have to work your way through this and not just rush into it. You have a good life, don't ruin it. You want and need everyone to like you in highschool, and take it from me, if you just come out in your life right now, that will never happen. Teenagers aren't too understanding!!! Good Luck honey, I hope you you do well in life!

Answer 2

I'm not too sure if you are for real because if you were serious I think you would have taken the time to actually type. But if you are I think that a lot of teenage girls have these feelings, I don't think that you would come out and tell everyone if you were straight so maybe just stay where you are at the moment, will it make a huge difference if you came out? What will you achieve by coming out? A lot of people are unsure and you've still got a lot of growing up to do. Just hang in there.

Answer 3

I know a lot about girls who are lesbian that are about your age. I have some friends who are really young who have known ever since they were 5 that they were.
Honestly, you can only know what you want to do and say. If it seems that it will somehow make you stronger, telling people, and letting them know, I would?
Maybe you just need time? Just to figure out your sexuality and what YOU yourself would like to be.
If you don't find guys attractive, then, so be it, you just might be.
When I told my mom, she accepted me, and not most people are lucky like that. You will have a lot of hurt and anger coming out in school and a lot of judgement and critisizm. Just know that.
Really, its all up to you. I would actually write out a pro's and con's list and see what would be more affective. IF you decide that this is what you want to do, just realize the con's.
I hope that whatever you do, will bring you happiness and contemptment. Really, its all about you and what you want for yourself to be comfortable. I wish you luck!

Answer 4

When you've mastered the full potential of the QWERTY keyboard.

I don't really mean to be a smartass, and I know it's not PC to tell people they're going through a phase, but 14 strikes me as too young to know anything for sure.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

It took me a while to read your question. You might want to think about spelling a bit more traditionally when you're talking to strangers instead of your friends... It will make it easier for us to give you answers! :)

Fourteen is not too young to know what your sexual orientation is. And around the beginning of elementary school is when a lot of my friends started figuring it out, just like you. For me I first became aware of it in 1st grade.

The first thing you should know about coming out is that you don't have to come out to everyone all at once. Many people stretch it out over years, and some people choose not to come out to certain people ever. It's all up to you to decide who you want to come out to, when to come out, and why to come out.

Your parents might have some idea that you're not straight. How they'll react when you tell them I don't know though. Have you noticed what their views are about homosexuality? That will help you figure out how much of a process it would be to tell them. Most parents may not be happy with the news, but they still love their kids. Some teens choose to come out to their parents in high school. Others choose to wait until they're not living with their parents anymore so that they don't have to worry about financial issues. You really have to decide what would be best for you and your situation.

As for your situation with your friends. You're right in thinking that you will lose some friends. Maybe not as many as you think you'll lose though. For some people all it takes is learning that a close friend of theirs is GLBT for them to realize that it's not evil. An option could be to come out to those close friends who you think could handle it and also keep it a secret from your other friends. But you know how school is, they might not be able to keep it a secret so you'd have to be prepared that they might tell people.

I get not wanting to upset the social balance in school. Especially at your age when teens are just looking for any little difference in classmates to pick on them for. I guess a good thing to think about is this. Do you want to keep the perfect life going, even if this means hiding a good chunk of who you are? Or do you want to be honest with yourself and others about who you are, and run the risk of having a more difficult social scene high school?

Your answer to these questions can change from month to month or year to year. If you decide now's not the right time to come out there's nothing saying you have to keep that decision til you're 18. If you decide to tell some people it's not like you have to decide to come out to everyone right away.

Take it at your pace and in your own time. It might help to touch base with your local LGBT center. They often have counseling or groups about coming-out stuff. And it would be good to have a support base for whatever you decide to do.

Answer 7

you are too young to worry bout this crap. school school school is all u should worry bout right now. get an edumacation and get a good job. then worry bout where you should put your tounge

Answer 8

I think the right time is when you learn how to type and spell correctly.

Cheers!

Answer 9

i dunno. i'm wondering the same thing. i'm 18 but i'm still in high school and nobody knows about it, not even my parents. i'm really kind of afraid to tell them bcuz i think they'll probably b disappointed and mad at me.

Answer 10

well i am bi and i have the same problem as you. so sorry cant help.
i wish you luck!