If your sex life is private then what is the idea of advertising it by "coming out".
seems stupid to me
2007-01-03 11:36:43 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
That's cool---if being gay or straight either were just about sex.
Anyone knows your sexual orientation is NOT just about sex.
2007-01-03 11:40:41 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
One reason for being "out" is being able to live a social life with honesty and integrity.
The most important reason, in my view, is that there are thousands of kids growing up gay with very few visible models of what an adult homosexual person looks like. The loudest voices are those that tell these kids they have no chance of happiness unless they undergo an impossible transformation to heterosexuality.
Nearly all gay people know what this feels like, and none of us would wish it on the next generation.
I remember as a 12 year old reading the biography of Monty Python actor Graham Chapman. It was a revelation to realise that someone could be gay, and also funny, smart and a thoroughly decent human being. It was an enormous relief.
2007-01-04 04:14:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keeping something private is not quite the same as keeping it hidden. Being in the closet is not about privacy, but about being in hiding. It is a form of deception, of pretending to be what one is not. Secrets have a way of interfering with having authentic relationships with others.
Coming out is not an act of advertising anything. It is not a form of exhibitionism. It is an important step in acknowledging one's own same-sex attractions, as well as sharing an undisclosed part of oneself with other people. If anything, it is an act of honesty and courage. It is a way of identifying oneself with a minority group at the expense of heterosexual privilege.
2007-01-03 19:45:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
So what you are saying is that when a man and a woman hold hands, or kiss, or get married, they are advertising their private sex life??
The world is full of double standards, so why do you feel the need to perpetuate them?
2007-01-03 19:55:45 · answer #4 · answered by castle h 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
We don't advertise what we do in bed. We advertise who we sexually prefer to be with...and yes, there's a big difference...For example I could know that you are straight...but I don't think I should necessarily be privileged to the exact type of kinky sex that turns you on (like wearing your girlfriend's bra or something).
2007-01-03 20:20:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think they want to be loved and respected for who they really are. They get tired of pretending to feel a certain way about the opposite sex. I compare it to pretending to like someone we really dislike, or to have come from a wealthy family when we were poor, or having the opposite opinion of ones friends but pretending to agree, etc. I can imagine the pressure a gay person feels when someone is trying to fix them up with the opposite sex, or they discuss how sexy that person is, etc.
2007-01-03 20:06:09 · answer #6 · answered by NeNe 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
coming out of the """closet"""?
2007-01-03 20:52:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋