How can I live while I'm my worst enemy?

Question

well...I hope you got the picture: self-sabotage. I've read something regarding self-sabotage on the web and found that ... it surely happens to me WAY TOO OFTEN.
I study quite well but sometimes I just can't start concentrating because "I can't do it!". when I try to focus or do something, I panic, stress myself and then I'm unable to think at all...and it's getting very annoying because this SHOULD NOT happen...

what can I do with it?to stop this...blocking? when my mind gets "out of order" it's like I'd close my mind or like closing a door so that nothing can enter

Answer 1

try study groups. it helps, all those people are studying with you. they question you and talk about it that way you dont feel like you are actually "studying" but you are still learning. and its a good way to make friends ! then you can have fun and stop freaking out.

Answer 2

Honey, it seems to be that you are very insecure about yourself.. Sometimes, I do that to myself, just to make sure that if I fail, it´s because I haven´t tried my harderst.. What I mean is.. I never study too much, so, if I take a low grade, it´ll be because I didn´t study, not because I am not smart.. is that what happens to you?? You don´t try your harderst so you won´t feel like a failure if you don´t get what you worked your best for??
A good way to start to have more self confidence is therapy. It isn´t for crazy people or people in trouble.. Sometimes, we just need someone else to help us find out best qualities and our faults.. Maybe you should give it a try...

Answer 3

Well, you give up on yourself way to easy. You can't achieve anything if you quit everything. You need to find a way to boost your confidence and see what you are truly capable of. Don't hold yourself back. You have potential. Learn how to deal with stress and reduce stress. I'd suggest yoga to help you with your mental/emotional/physcial self. Good luck!

Answer 4

Get prepared: thats the best strategy. When you feel your going to panic allow yourself sometime to panic, dont fight it, think all you wanna think (that your going to fail, the questions are too difficult, etc etc etc...), let it out (in my last test i imagined i was going up to the teachers desk and i was throwing the pages on the table and telling her what she could do with them!)... take your time but then start reading the questions carefully and underline everything you think its important and then answer them. dont worry about getting it all done, just do your best (it helps to take some water and mints, when you take them remember what you were doing, where you were, who you were with when you bought them). Remember, to start with you thought you were going to fail so now anything you gain is extra right? so go for your "extras" ... this worked for me just fine! i've got my MA!

Answer 5

Learn to breath - learn to meditate. This should help calm your nerve. You may also have anxiety disorders; talk to your doctor.

Yes, there are some gender differences in anxiety disorders. Some anxiety disorders seem to affect men and women in equal numbers but others are more common in one sex.

For example, panic disorders, phobias, and generalized anxiety are twice as common in women than in men, but obsessive-compulsive disorder and social anxiety affect both sexes equally.

Different types of anxiety disorders also tend to affect people at different stages of their lives. Panic disorders, social anxiety and obsessive-compulsive disorders tend to start early in life, but generalized anxiety disorders start a bit later.

The effects of anxiety disorders can also vary according to what stage of life a person is in. If a person can't go to work or school because avoidance is part of their anxiety, it can have a huge impact on their development. That's why having anxiety early in life can have a major impact on the trajectory of a person's life. The behavior associated with the disorder then has more of an impact on the person's life than anxiety itself. -- Sally Winston, PsyD, co-director of the Anxiety and Stress Disorders Institute of Maryland in Baltimore.

http://www.webmd.com/content/article/63/72107.htm

Answer 6

my suggestion,try exercising because it will put in a lot of oxygen, then after that, take a cold bath, u will feel so good..trust me..i tried that n it worked! then after that get back to your studies..it should do u good and no harm..preferebly..exercise in the morning, around 7 am..that's the best..all the best!

Answer 7

remember yourself. its hard work but in time if you can do this for 1 or 2 mins, the results are remarkable

Answer 8

you need some time out or a holiday.

Answer 9

i have the same problem....