I am separated and in the process of divorcing. I went out with a guy who knew I am separated but I think he is holding off on any future dates until he knows I am officially single.
2007-01-03 11:19:30 · 18 answers · asked by Kelly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've been in your situation and I know how it feels. It's hard, I know and lonely too. What ever you do, try not to get involved too soon. It will only cause so much more heart ache.
I was involved with a guy during my long drawn out battle for divorce from my ex. In the end I found out he had been two timing me and his lame excuse was he wasn't quite sure wether I was ever going to be free from my marriage. He even had a baby with the other woman while he was at it. Needless to say it added to my misery because I thought I could finally be happy with someone loving and supportive who only turned out to be taking advantage of me and betrayed my trust.
If its just for fun and your not into anything serious, then I say go ahead. You'll need the company. But if you are looking for a new meaningful relationship, I suggest you hold off things until your divorce is complete.
It's hard enough getting a guy to commit to a single and available woman, how tough do you think it would be for a guy to commit to someone who he knows still belongs legally to someone else?
2007-01-03 11:50:46 · answer #1 · answered by jacqvence 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to look at the situation and the person. I dated one who was divorcing...so much baggage-left that one alone. However, I dated another who was sure in himself and the divorce that it never became a problem. Think of it like this...some people are grateful for a divorce and see it as an awakening. Some people, on the other hand, become bitter and like to dredge up their past all the time...kinda like misery loves company. It should really be dealt with on an individual basis. Everyone handles things differently. Talk to the guy...ask him out. Show him you are divorced but just don't have the paperwork to prove it.
2007-01-03 19:27:25 · answer #2 · answered by ba374 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes but it also depends on the length of the separation. Sometimes without knowing it you could spoil the date if you vent too much to your date about the divorce. The process can be so long and without knowing it your life is truly in limbo. What helped me was to not date but to rebuild my social life. I found groups with things that interest me with people my own age group. You need to be Happy with yourself then you can blossom into your own person again. Having groups allows you to get out but without the pressures of dating. You need to learn to laugh again from your heart then when you are ready. Remember dating will always be there. Good Luck
2007-01-03 21:02:05 · answer #3 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not.
It is simply because you are still very much in a very emotional state and are quite vulnerable. This is more of for your own good because at these times you tend to want anybody who comes into your life for moral support. You will confuse that need with the need for newfound love.
You need to pick up the pieces first and make sure that you have moved on before you entertain people. You will see how different your outlook would be and that you will make better decisions.
This is for your own good.
2007-01-03 19:25:50 · answer #4 · answered by nomamalin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the time she was separated from Hubby and when you say separated , I hope you mean different living quarters as well ( because I have seen some claim they are separate but they are in the same house)......It's not right, but it's reality!
2007-01-03 19:26:50 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is a highly stressful, emotional event, even if one doesn't recognize it. This guy may just be waiting for you to go through this process before becoming involved with you.
2007-01-03 19:31:57 · answer #6 · answered by Black Rose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should hold off too. What if you and your husband decide to stop the process and give it another try, then your new friend is left out in the cold. You should wait.
2007-01-03 19:28:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope Sounds like a smart dude Too many loose ends and nobody breaks clean right away. Just chill get to know and like yourself.Being alone by choice is a good thing.
2007-01-03 19:29:39 · answer #8 · answered by P.Bunyun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with dating if you are going through a divorce. You should want to be happy and find happiness for yourself. If it is completly over and no hope for you and your husband to work things out then there is nothing wrong with you moving on with your life.
2007-01-03 19:42:52 · answer #9 · answered by blueigurl34 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would really depend on how long they were separated, if long enough I would. There would have to be some kind of relationship though, not just casual dating.
2007-01-03 21:06:27 · answer #10 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋