Stop loving ( with their whole heart) after they have been scarred or hurt from a previous marriage or relationship?
Do you know anyone like this? Are you one of them?
Just curious because I had a friend that told me to stop giving my all in any relationship after I survived a toxic marriage. In my opinion...I can only love 1ne way....All or Nothing. To me, I can't see what the purpose of loving some1ne if you can't offer all of yourself to that person....I'm talking about living trust...Ya' Dig?
your thoughts....
2007-01-03 11:17:49 · 9 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Love wholeheartedly - that's what its beauty is all about. Nowadays people throw themselves into the "all-about-me" syndrome and refuse to give a relationship their all.
If one has been burned by a bad relationship they (sometimes) look at themselves as being the 'weaker' personality. No one wants to be 'weak' or feel they've been hoodwinked so they throw on a false sense of security vowing not to give their all because they don't want to feel the intense hurt again. But such thinking is silly and instead of reaping the benefit of love - people are often spinning their wheels playing games among each other.
2007-01-04 04:21:35 · answer #1 · answered by The First Lady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u have been hurt and it took its toll on u, it certainly can and does affect how u act in the next relationship, right or wrong, u become more cautious, u choose more wisely, u suddenly seem to get wisdom, and can see alot more than u could before u went through the hurt. if u are scarred u will love again and give your love, but it will take longer to trust, as something was lost in the last relationship, think it's our innocence that goes first.
2007-01-03 11:26:27 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people gt hurt to the point that they are unable to love. This may only be for a little while or it may be forever. I was hurt and I am still getting over it after 1 year and am one that can not love another at this time. Maybe it will take me a while or maybe it will be forever. Who knows?
2007-01-03 11:24:10 · answer #3 · answered by Mystic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel- you become numb... it's like having a brick wall up, and it builds without notice...
I have learned to go into a relationship without expecting anything, just day by day. that way I don't get hurt. I can handle disappointment better than a broken heart.
2007-01-03 11:40:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yal , i hear ya! some people have trust issues that last a life time. i better not be one of them i have been married 26 yrs. now! but i know exactly where your coming from on this. just to hold that kind of trust an faith in someone once you have been stepped on , is hard to do.
2007-01-03 11:23:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with what you are saying-your friend must be stung by a previous relationship and he is he one who is scared to go at it again.
2007-01-03 11:21:41 · answer #6 · answered by youngprincez23 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U sound like the true type, u one of a kind.
2007-01-03 11:22:01 · answer #7 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree all or nothin babe! Is there any other way
2007-01-03 11:21:07 · answer #8 · answered by lildomenk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I BELIEVE BOTH OF YOU SHOULD GIVE YOUR ALL TO THE REALTIONSHIP.LOVE IS SUPPOSE TO FEEL GREAT AND WONDERFUL.
2007-01-03 11:27:45 · answer #9 · answered by ERICA S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋