I think the absolute shortest for me would be three months of dating followed by a one year engagement. What do you think? Please share your experiences.
2007-01-03 11:12:05 · 18 answers · asked by ahhihello 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That's such a personal choice. I knew my husband for a year before we married and it's worked well. Some people know each other only weeks before they marry and it works, other may be engaged for years and then almost as soon as they're married, they get divorced. It really depends on the quality of the love!
2007-01-03 11:15:49 · answer #1 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should share a year together in an exclusive relationship. You should experience all of the holidays and all of the stresses that all of those involved. After that, if you have a good education and a solid job, as does he, then beginning to plan a wedding is probably appropriate. If you wait two years, you will certainly know your partner quite well.... I would guess you should wait at least three years before beginning a family, assuming you even want children.... Children are divisive, not bonding, and you must have a solid relationship before you bring a third into it. And you must be prepared for some really horrible times raising children --- screaming colic at 2am that goes on for days, terrible "two's" sassy teenagers, drug problems, school problem, and in general ungrateful kids. The cost of raising one to age 20 is ~$250,000.
2007-01-03 11:20:15 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's not put timelines in matters like this because there are no absolutes in relationships in the first place.
It all lies in probabilities and your decisions will be based on trust, confidence and level of affection.
There is what you call a whirlwhind romance and you might think it is crazy. But it actually works. There are those who have dated all their lives but ended up marrying another person. Absurd, isn't it? It is because there are no guarantees in life. The only key to having a very successful marriage would be (according to my own beliefs):
1.) Constant communication.
2.) Perseverance/Patience
3.) Ability to handle change
4.) Trust and Respect.
Don't put time in your relationship. It will just frustrate you because you tend to make an equation out of it. Instead, ask yourself how ready you are to marry him and how much do you trust each other. Follow your heart not numbers.
2007-01-03 11:18:25 · answer #3 · answered by nomamalin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not married but I have heard and read experts say the longer you wait the worst off you are. 2 years. That is the best time. I have no idea how you go about when you get engaged and stuff. You just gotta have "together" within two years or forget about. That is what I have read.
Good Luck with it!
2007-01-03 11:16:44 · answer #4 · answered by Noodles 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that's very reasonable. My husband and I were engaged for two years before we married. This allowed us to know that it was not just a " hot crush" but we also started making plans and budgeting for the wedding. It was a time to build up trust in one another and to learn to solve problems together without arguiing. It gave us time to accept ( or learn to tolerate) each other's families. It was a time to learn and live with one another's habits without condemning them. It was a time to start thinking " WE" rather than "ME". Yes, definitely use one year to start planning to be a life couple. Then you won't have so many surprises as husband and wife.
2007-01-03 11:21:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ever time it takes for you to get to know the person and feel/know that they are the one that you want to spend the rest of your life with. Personally I believe a min. of 1 year for an engagement.
2007-01-03 11:17:14 · answer #6 · answered by Mystic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In today's society.. where everyone has his/her own opinions there is no such thing as a timeline.. in a dating before getting married. It is up to the individuals themselves to see if it will work out for the best. Its in your heart on how and what you feel.... there is no better way to make a big decision but you yourself....
2007-01-03 11:19:52 · answer #7 · answered by shysinglefriend 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you want to save your marriage or no longer? in case you want to salvage it, then get into marriage counseling. in case you will fairly be performed with it then legally separate. (In some states you should be separated X style of months in the previous you could document for divorce.) human beings and not using a ethical experience only can not wrap their brains around the way it feels to be betrayed. They determine in the event that they are over it, so ought to you. even yet it does not artwork that way. they do no longer seem to care which you're harm or are disillusioned in them. in the journey that your husband only does not care the style you experience approximately it and has in no way truly shown an remorseful approximately or apologized, then he will in all probability cheat back.
2016-11-26 01:32:48 · answer #8 · answered by schihl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We met, hooked up the same night, had a baby 2.5 years later and just got married a month ago..not quite 3 years after we first chatted online!
2007-01-03 11:15:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex husband and I dated for three years before we got married.
I think the couple should know each other well enough to have expierenced ALL of their s/o's quirks and habits and know that they will be able to tolerate each and everyone of them. They should also know their s/o well enough to be able to go to their parent's home without the s/o and to "hang out" with any siblings the s/o has without them. In otherwords they should form their own friendships with their S/Os entire family
2007-01-03 11:16:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋