I know this is still her last name evn though they are divorced...and they both (my husband and his exwife) have 2 children together (my step sons)who have my last name (and my husband's. OUr daughter also has OUR last name. Now for the messy part. His ex wife got pregnant from her long time boyfriend and broke up with him. She is planning on giving the baby our families last name. Is there anything we can do to stop this? I am really upset.
2007-01-03 11:02:01 · 42 answers · asked by maddy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry to say , no there is nothing that you can do about it,it is her legal last name. I know how you must feel. I don't understand why Ex's keep their husbands last names for, that was the first thing on my mind when I got divorced was to get rid of the Ex's last name. I think most woman do it in spite and think it's a way of holding on.
2007-01-03 11:06:03 · answer #1 · answered by Backwoods Barbie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How awful for you! As far as I know I don't think there is anything you can do about it. I think she can give the baby whatever last name she wants. I had a boyfriend who's ex girlfriend gave her baby his last name, even though the baby wasn't his and there was nothing he could do about it. That was in Michigan, it might vary by state. Good Luck and try not to get too upset about it. When it comes down to it (although infuriating), its just a name and you have the man that goes with it.
2007-01-03 11:06:12 · answer #2 · answered by Tracy G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what the legal answer is. She's probably doing it cause she thinks it will cause less confusion for the child.
My husband's ex has been married 4 (yes 4!) times since they divorced and every time she reverts back to his last name. She thought it would cut down on the confusion of their child.
HA! How confused is this poor kid when he said, "You and my mom have the same last name. Are you two related? ".
Get some legal advice. I think she can name the child whatever she wants but I hope it doesn't cause more confusion for this kid. Good luck. Sounds like you're going to need it!
2007-01-03 11:10:47 · answer #3 · answered by katydid 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO, mainly, because it's her last name too. Her child will be taking HER last name, not yours. After all, she had it first and for probably for a lot longer than you will if you try stopping something that doesn't concern you. Although, she shouldn't put your husband down as the baby's Dad, because that would really be fraud, and he can contest that part of the situation. Only, how would he know unless she puts him on the child support with the others.
2007-01-03 11:44:04 · answer #4 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, the baby can be named whatever she wants. As long as he is not listed on the birth certificate dont worry.
If I were you I would be a bit upset, but I can understand why she would want her children to have the same last name.
Dont blow it out of proportion - remember that the child is at the center of this and I assume that you will someday do things with your stepson's sibling because that is what blended/extended families do.
2007-01-03 11:09:42 · answer #5 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person can name their child anything they wish , they can pull a last name out of thin air if they choose to.. You have to have a name legally changed in order to use it on any legal documents, if its not "legally" done then its not really their last name to your EDIT: if its on her drivers license then she has had her last name legally changed u have to show proof of it being legally changed to get your drivers licensed changed to the new last name they dont just do it because you say u want a new last name put on there. The fact that her social security card doesnt hold her new legal last name doesnt mean its not changed legally just means she hasnt submitted for a new name change on her social.. she can put your husbands last name as her childs last name if she so chooses because it is her last name now.. View it this way, ur not upset with people that have the same last name as your husband are you? Surely there are other "seperate" families with the same last name as his. So why do u care, its not his child and it shouldnt affect your life. So why are u so worried about it? stop obsessing over the petty stuff and be happy that you are the Only MRS *your husbands name*
2016-05-23 00:00:36 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately she can technically give the baby whatever name she wants. I know it is really annoying. Not to take her side, but maybe she just wants for all the kids to have a common last name. I do understand your annoyance though..especially since the child is not even your husband's! Kind of odd..
2007-01-03 11:16:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably the only way is going to court and and having a judge rule against her having the last name as yours. Becasue if her name is the same as your sna dyour husband. You shoudl reach over to him and slap him for been stupid. When he got the divorce he should have had her change her last name to her maiden name not stay with his. Not it's coming back to haunt you'll. SO go to court and see what happens is all you can do.
2007-01-03 11:11:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband's exwife can give her baby her last name if she wants to. It's legal in all 50 states and there is nothing you can do about it. Get over it.
2007-01-03 11:22:03 · answer #9 · answered by txharleygirl1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LIVE and LET GO,,,,,,,,,,,,,,Be thankful your husband is not the baby's father, for sure . Be gracious and careful not to cause a riff for the children's sake . You have to remember this baby will still be your step children's sibling no matter what the name . I would say let her be the one to do all the regretting . Turn it around and WELCOME the FUTURE CHILD with love and understanding . Never give negative emotions when possitive understanding could sting so much more . Best of Wishes for all .
2007-01-03 13:05:34 · answer #10 · answered by iambettyboop 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋