She actually said to me, "I'm just one of the guys." Us other married women said, oh, no honey, you ain't. For some reason, she wants to be friends with our husbands, forget that! What do you think?
2007-01-03 11:00:53 · 16 answers · asked by Forever 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
interesting answers, so far. a ps/she's really into hugging the guys, especially my husband, but I put an end to that. What do you think her motives are?
2007-01-03 14:02:53 · update #1
dba greg is totally right...if your married you have to stop hanging out with the opposite sex, unless your partner is totally cool with it...but when infringing on other people marriages, it's totally wrong.
And just so you know, she may consider herself one of the guys...the guys don't...a lesson for all woman that think that, if you are allowed to hang with the boys, one of them, or to be truly honest, all of them are trying to bang you like a drum.
2007-01-03 11:09:41 · answer #1 · answered by Doctor J. 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you've each good to have male friends, and to visit them, so long because it remains platonic. If there is no flirting, and also you're literally not enticing in a actual or emotional affair (utilizing the male pal to provide the relationship stuff your husband might want to be lacking), then this is wonderful. inspite of the indisputable fact that, it truly is comprehensible that your husband is uncomfortable with you having lengthy conversations and staying the evening with a guy he's in no way met, that you've been once on the point of. So include your husband. inspire him to IM and communicate with T. perhaps earlier this holiday you may want to rearrange a time for T and your husband and also you and some friends to fulfill casually, at dinner or a celebration. tell your husband that having guy friends is powerful for you, because it provides you with a male attitude. you've a good to this friendship and to this holiday, yet you should also be thoughtful of your husband's emotions.
2016-12-01 19:11:18 · answer #2 · answered by klosterman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I are both firefighters. I love just hanging with the guys. They treat me as an equal. There's a lot of joking and teasing. I can take it and I can dish it out.
I also have my female friends who I enjoy hanging with but the guys seem less judgmental.
Unless she's hit on one of the other husbands, don't worry. She's probably just able to enjoy the company of men and women. It's fun and different. Nothing wrong with that!
2007-01-03 11:23:38 · answer #3 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh no... not even cool. she may like the things they like, but when it comes to going to the bathrooms, she's using a toilet not a urinal. meaning she's all female and they know this.
they may see her as "cool beans"...but she still has what lie between her thighs that they don't.
It's kinda disrespectful of her to want to do that.
it'll be cool if ALL of you were hanging out drinking beer, yelling at the ref on the tube for calling a foul on a great play during the Super Bowl...but you aren't.
so when you all are together, she needs to be with you and the other women if the guys are doing their thing alone with each other.
2007-01-03 11:10:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
While it is possible that she just likes hanging with the guys and nothing more (maybe thinks most women are too "girly" for her tastes), I somehow doubt it. She probably likes being the center of the guys attention, and she might even think about being with them as something more later down the line, given enough incentive.
2007-01-03 11:05:49 · answer #5 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it all depends on how comfortable you are with it and if she hangs out as a friend and has no other intentions then that's cool. If she's flirting or trying to get with any of the usbands then that's where the problem starts.
2007-01-03 11:25:23 · answer #6 · answered by L.Sincere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that she should be able to hang out with whoever she wants. you seem a little jealous, why don't you hang out with your husband and all his friends too?
as long as she isn't flirting, then back off. i hang out with mostly guys too. guys are just easier to just relax with. I'm married and me and all my husbands friends hang out together.
2007-01-03 11:12:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's the problem here? She isn't trying to race them off to bed is she? She may just share interests with them, there is nothing wrong with that is there? As long as everything is open and honest and preferably done in groups.
2007-01-03 11:05:13 · answer #8 · answered by teef_au 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i hang out with mostly guys or other girls who hang out with guys. girls are gross and boring. not so much gross but after a while you get tired of hearing "omg, i broke a nail." i mean boo hoo. anywho, i think it is fun as long as you stay in that "friend" zone i dont that that is anything to worry about
2007-01-03 11:02:18 · answer #9 · answered by azehriad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a lack of respect on her part- and no matter how she thinks- you can not be hanging out with men and not cause problems- let's face it they can be weak at times---- you were right to say something to her- why tempt fate?!!! leave an open door and some kind of creature will wander in!!! so unless she grows one, tell her to hang elsewhere- she is trouble.
2007-01-03 11:08:10 · answer #10 · answered by drox 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋