Failed marriage? Why do you think your marriage was a mistake?

Question

What led you to do that mistake? Did you have misconceptions? Did you hurry? Did you disobey your intuition?

Answer 1

Oh yes, all the signs were there, we never really wanted the same things it was just one of the things you are taught to do that'll make you happy, but it doesnt make anyone happy when you dont get along. You need to really know the person and want the same things.

Answer 2

My husband presented a totally different person to me and that is who I fell in love with, he presented the facade that he wasn't the same person from 1 year ago. I admit that was my mistake for not waiting to be married to see the gradual process of the real him unfold. I thought that since we were apart for a year and some months, that was enough time for some changes to have been made. So yes I moved to quickly, I never cheated on him, and am very happy I am divorcing him. Marriage isn't for everyone, its like skydiving or bungee jumping neither of those are for everyone either, marriage is the same. I won't ever get married again, date every now and then, but I am not interested in anything serious/long term. Maybe my mind will change because I am still in the process of the divorce and everything is still new, but as of right now I don't want any part of a relationship.

Answer 3

We dated since we where sophomores and got married a year after graduation. He cheated several times during the 3 yrs that we where married and also stared to hit me anytime he wanted we got separated when I was pregnant of our first and only baby after that we got a divorce ... But i learn so many things and experience a lot so the next time I get married I wouldn;t make the same mistakes.. Thank God I find a good man that accept my daugther like his and we have one boy and a girl on the way !!! Yes I think I did hurry the first time adn don't regret it because the only good thing from that marriage is my daugther that I love with all my heart!!!

Answer 4

My first marriage failed because I was the youngest of 17 yes, 17 children and there were myself and 6 brothers at home and I think I got married for all the wrong reasons. I was 16 and my husband at that time was 19. I loved him with all my heart and he broke it after 3 children and 15 yrs.. But I think looking back the real reason I got married was to get out of my parents house and all the drama. I love my children and would never change having them if i could but I was to young and did not even know what love was and he cheated on me over and over. i was taught that divorce was wrong as my parents were together until my father passed away. I should have gotten out the first time he cheated instead of putting my children and myself thru what I did. I say take your time you will know when it's right!

Answer 5

Yes I did disobey my intuition, my mother wanted me to marry and I let her push me into it, I was one of those women who could not, and would not stand up for myself, and as a result never got a spec of respect, I was there to be used and abused and I let it continue for years, I constantly made excuses for why my husband was like this and I always thought this is what I deserve, I must be a truly awful wife to be treated this way, It was only after about 20 years that I began to see myself differently, and very gradually I began to like , and then love myself, and of course with that I expected respect from my husband, he did not care for this new woman, that he could not dominate and blame for every thing, he now has a new lady and every day I mentally send her my sympathy.as well as my thanks

Answer 6

my marriage was a mistake because when i married him i loved someone else. he knew this, and made up his mind that he would do anything to get what he wanted, so he made up this lie, accusing the other man of being a cheater, of course i fell for it, just fear i guess, fear of not wanting anymore hurt, and just wanting to have some peace in my life. 10 years of hell with that man, because i didn't bother to check out the lie, didn't listen to my intuition, didn't trust myself. believed a lie and it led me to a destiny i did not want all due to making the wrong choice, and believing a liar.

Answer 7

With my first marriage I did it for completely all of the wrong reasons. First of all, he and I were into the drug scene, and we "loved" each other. I was 17 when I got pregnant with our child, and i stopped using drugs, and then once the baby was born my ex-husbands drug use continued to spiral out of control. I started a job 2 weeks after having our child to support us. Then when the baby was 4 months old, my husband and I got arrested because of the drug use, and our son got taken away. After we got out of jail, we were homeless with nowhere to go, he became extremeley abusive and was diagnosed with schitzoeffective dissorder, and then the abuse just got worse and worse, he ended up getting arrested again for beating up his step-dad while he was visiting my son, and then I attempted to commit suicide, and my husband now had found me, and rushed me up to the emerergency room. Then I filled for divorce. I know excactly where my first marriage ended up in divorce.

Answer 8

We where highschool sweethearts of 15 years. We lost communication and she had an affair.

Answer 9

we didnt know each other very long and jumped into getting married its been a year full of hell now