how do you cope with someone dying that you love so very much?

Answer 1

by standing beside them. be there for for them and just be who you are. to me you cant really cope with it. you just deal with it. you try and understand it but only time lets you cope with the loss of a loved one.

Answer 2

If you are an active Christian it is easier. It is a painful experience because death is so final and because you don't want your loved one to suffer. Although they may be in a coma, tell them how very much they have meant to you, reminisce and tell them you love them. Make sure all is forgiven. Hold their hand. Wipe their face with a warm cloth. I did all these things for my precious Mother and yet the hardest thing for me to say as she was so very ill and on her death bed was "Mother, its OK if you want to go. I can let you go now." I was told to release her by doing that,that she was holding on for me. I didn't mean that, I was never ready but I hated the pain she was in. I cred so much. Mother died that night. It was the hardest thing in this world I ever had to cope with. I wound up in therapy and the Dr. said that my Mother and I were to close. I was an only devoted daughter.
I pray that you will cope well. We are all just passing through..

Answer 3

Give it time, it will still hurt but not as much....trust me. You don't want to forget this person completely, right? You want to remember them for the good times you had. Cry. Guy or Girl, you need to cry it out. Don't put away their pictures...instead, keep them, and when you're ready, look at them and remember the love you and this person had and the good times you shared. Talk to someone. A friend, family member, or possibly a grief councelor. Finally, spend some time to yourself. Don't go hide in a hole, but have some time to think about where you're headed and who you are. You need to get in touch with not how life is going to be without this person, but with how they would want you to live your life. I'm positive they don't want you moping around because they're not there. Let them live on through you. Let people see their joy, or their humility, or their love....I'll be praying for you, and I'm sorry for your loss.
P.S. One last thing, tonight, go home and get your favorite ice cream and rent the movie Elizabethtown...it may seem like a chik-flick, but in the end you'll be glad that you watched it....

Answer 4

I just went threw that, and it was the hardest thing I have ever had to go threw, bar none !
And it even gets worse after they are gone.

I done a lot of Praying to get threw it, but I'm still so so sad. I miss him so much and he has been gone for over a year now.

Good luck and just keep praying, that's the only thing I can think of that help ease the pain.

Answer 5

If you pray do so , it will help you understand how and why dying is just a process we all will go through. It's a deep emotion you are feeling know, and the separation is hard. Deep in your heart you will learn to let go and allow the natural cicle of life.
Love is beyond this world. You will not forget your love one, because love is forever. Just let it go in peace and peace will come back to you. Blessings!

Answer 6

Im going throught the same situation. My dad just died and my mom and granma died a few years ago. My friend died a few days before christmas. Its really hard to deal with it, and u never will forget that person. u might think y them and not me and u might want to cut or commit suicide, but DONT!!!! its bad. you cant cope with. cry. u need to cry. let it all out, it will make u feel better.just talk to people you trust about it and make a book about them or a memoir. and visit them often. dont think of them as dead, think of them as with u, but not visible. its actually true, they will always be with u. do what they would want u to do. dont stop thinking about them. it will just hurt more. dont think about all the bad times and say why did that ever happen. just think of all the good times u had together. pray to god and ask to keep them safe. sorry for you loss.

Answer 7

Very hard to cope with but pray to Heavenly Father to give you strength. Believe in His love for you and let him comfort and strengthen you. Be strong while you are with your friend, but never be afraid to cry when you are alone. Lean on other friends too, so many will help you I am sure. I pray for you as you go through this

Answer 8

My father passed away five and a half years ago and I will never get over it. Father's day and birthdays and holidays are the worst. You never get over it you just learn to live with it and everyday you just somehow make it through. I still don't think I am coping very well but I am still here and living. A part of me died with him but a part of him lives within me.

Answer 9

coping with death is not easy ever the best way to remember someone is for how they touched your life. I will die sooner than later hopefully and I very scared of death in one scense and not at all in another. If you loved someone and they died how would you feel if that person never knew how you felt. hmmm

Answer 10

First :You stay positive in their presence!
Second: You cook them whatever meal they like.
Third: You cope by helping yourself meditate about your own future.
Fourth..The more you help yourself the more you are helping them..
Fifth..Let them talk if they need to without butting in with all kinds of questions.
Sixth: Don't get angry when they start blaming everyone including you for their illness..they can't help but try to find a reason.
Seventh: Go to the beauty parlor ..get a nice color..go for a walk..go to a park..get out of the house..
Eighth:Read a lot of inspirational stories.
Ninth: Read Sincrodestinos by Deepak Chopra for opening up your mind to believe that you have a wonderful future ahead.
E-mail me if you need more help!